How To Deal With A Break Up Like A Man
“Actually, Derek, I don’t need help with my marriage,” Andrew confessed to me.
“Because it’s over.”
Andrew, a 38-year-old doctor from Oakland, was one of my newer Shogun Method clients.
I thought he was going to ask me for help with his marriage, but I guess we were too late.
“Katie has already dumped me,” Andrew continued.
“I’ve already tried everything I could, but the divorce is gonna happen. I know it. I wish I knew how to start a relationship over, but I didn’t. Too late. She’s even got a new man in her life now.”
Andrew then told me his real problem: he didn’t know what to do next.
“I need to know how to handle a breakup. Like a man. With dignity.”
Table of Contents
- How To Deal With A Break Up Like A Man
- How To Deal With A Breakup (For Guys)
- What Causes Breakups
- How To Handle A Break Up With Someone You Love – Like a Man
- How To Get Your Ex Back After The Breakup (“The Reversal”)
- What Andrew Did That Most Ex-Boyfriends Never Do
- How To Use Mind Control To Get Your Ex-Girlfriend Or Wife Back
How To Deal With A Breakup (For Guys)
Andrew’s story was all too familiar…
- He didn’t know how to deal with the breakup
- He didn’t know if he should get Katie back or not
- He didn’t know if she still loved him
- He didn’t know how to handle being single again
- He didn’t know if he should try again with another woman
- And a few more things he didn’t know
Answer this for me: are you in the same position?
Are you going through a breakup that’s inevitable, and you don’t know what to do next?
If so, then this Shogun Method guide is for you, too. I’m about to teach you what I taught Andrew that day.
What you’re about to learn is going to put you in a win-win situation… no matter WHAT you decide to do.
Want to handle the breakup like a man? This guide will show you how.
Want to move on and be happy again? This guide will show you how.
Want to how how to make your ex want you back? Yup, this guide will show you that, too.
We’ll get to the good stuff in a minute.
For now, let’s take a closer look at what started this whole mess in the first place…
What Causes Breakups
First off, think about this –
“What causes breakups?”
Everybody seems to think that they know the answer… and yet, guess what? Most people are dead wrong.
We’ll get to the REAL reason why couples break up shortly, but for now, consider what makes relationships work.
The best relationships are where the man DOMINATES, and the woman FOLLOWS.
In other words – GENDER ROLES. They really do work. Believe me.
Not to mention, it’s completely backed by the science of psychology and biology. It’s as legit as it gets.
“The Man Dominates, The Woman Follows”
Strangely, this simple truth has become controversial over time…
These days, feminists call the idea sexist, misogynist, chauvinist, politically incorrect, etc.
You know what? I’ll take science over political correctness any day. And so should you.
The root cause of all breakups is this:
The man didn’t dominate enough.
In other words, you weren’t “man enough.” And your woman HATED that. EVERY woman hates that.
When a woman feels “trapped” with a man she sees as weak, she shows her hate in many ways:
- She starts nagging him
- She criticizes his smallest flaws
- She undermines his authority
- She magnifies his mistakes
- She starts behaving like an asshole to him
- She gets angry even at little things
- She reacts negatively to anything he does or says
- She disrespects him in public
- She emotionally blackmails him
- She cheats on him
- She acts like a female sociopath
Here’s what you MUST know…
Virtually every relationship problem starts when the man does not dominate and lead.
And here’s how it gets worse. The problems pile up until the relationship can’t take anymore, and the breakup happens.
If your breakup is inevitable… or if it’s already happened… then there’s only one thing to do.
How To Handle A Break Up With Someone You Love – Like a Man
The best way to handle a breakup is to “be a man” about it.
That’s not even a figure of speech. You’ll need to break up in a way that makes your woman feel your most attractive, most masculine traits.
- You’ll get over the breakup much more quickly, AND
- You’ll leave a window open to possibly win her back later.
Win-win situation, right?
So, how do you get over a breakup fast?
How To Break Up In Five Steps
- Tell her you accept the breakup.
- Find ways to make the breakup easier for her, then do it. (E.g.: If she’s already seeing someone else, tell her that her new relationship has your blessing.)
- At the same time, make the breakup easier for you by moving on with your life. (You can focus on work, hobbies, going to the gym – anything to stay busy.)
- Leave the emotional baggage behind. Say goodbye to that crazy woman. Shit happens. No sense bringing shit with you.
- MOST IMPORTANTLY: Suggest being just friends again. Put yourself squarely in her friend-zone – nothing romantic or sexual anymore.
This five-step process will do two things for you:
- You’ll look manlier, which makes her feel more attracted to you…
- And she’ll wonder why it’s so EASY for you to move on. She’ll wonder: Why is he so easygoing? Is he up to something? Or has he found someone better than me?
The breakup will still happen… but now, she’s more intrigued by you. She’ll be thinking about you in the weeks to follow.
Well, it’s totally up to you.
You can choose to just move on with your life…
…or, you can choose to win her back.
If you choose to win her back – as Andrew did – then here’s what you need to do.
How To Get Your Ex Back After The Breakup (“The Reversal”)
I told Andrew that, under normal circumstances, a woman would NEVER go back to an ex.
“Normal circumstances” include:
- A tumultuous pre-breakup
- A hostile breakup
- A lot of post-breakup drama
So, to win Katie back, Andrew had to create ABNORMAL circumstances:
- A chill pre-breakup
- An amicable breakup
- Zero post-breakup drama
…which he did when he followed the five-step “how to break up“ process I’ve shared with you earlier.
What followed was a few weeks of no-contact with Katie.
Naturally, all that time, Katie was thinking about Andrew.
Their amicable breakup changed her opinion of him somewhat, and he began to miss him.
One day, she missed him enough to text him, just to ask how he was doing.
Of course, Andrew was expecting this. Now, since he was squarely in Katie’s friend-zone, he was free to be chummy with her again.
Katie loved spending time with Andrew again – it was like reuniting with a harmless old friend.
How To Destroy Your Ex’s New Boyfriend
As their meet-ups continued, Katie started talking about what she didn’t like about her new man.
That was Andrew’s signal. It was time to “destroy the new guy.”
Whenever Katie complained about her new boyfriend, Andrew would say things like:
- “Really? He did that? Wow. What else did he do?”
- “Wow. I don’t think even I was that bad. You sure picked a winner.”
- “Wow, what a jerk. I can’t believe it, seriously.”
Basically, Andrew was secretly egging Katie on. As they met and chatted more often, Katie came up with more bad things to say about her new boyfriend.
The whole time, Andrew was making Katie like him MORE… and her new boyfriend LESS.
And then one day, when Katie was REALLY fed up with her new boyfriend, Andrew delivered the coup de grace:
“What the hell are you waiting for? Dump the guy already.”
Soon enough, that’s exactly what Katie did. She broke up with her new boyfriend and became single again.
And that left the door open for Andrew to start flirting again.
Only this time, Katie liked the new Andrew so much that she readily went back into a relationship with him.
Today, Andrew and Katie are back together again. Only this time, the relationship is so much better:
- Andrew is now the dominant one, and he commands authority
- Katie supports and follows Andrew’s lead… and she couldn’t be happier
Andrew made the impossible happen.
Now, it’s your turn to do the impossible!
What Andrew Did That Most Ex-Boyfriends Never Do
Under normal circumstances, your ex will NOT get back with you.
So to win her back, you’ll need to create ABNORMAL circumstances.
David did to Katie what most guys would NEVER do to their ex-girlfriends:
- He swallowed his pride and agreed to the breakup
- He made the breakup as easy as possible for her
- Kicked up ZERO drama throughout the entire process
- Moved on like a real man (i.e. WITHOUT hurting her feelings)
- Put himself squarely in her friend-zone (known inside Shogun Method as the “Reverse Friend-Zone Strategy” – RFZS)
But he didn’t stop there. He also:
- Used some skillful, subtle Mind Control on Katie
- Manipulated Katie into liking him more and hating her new boyfriend at the same time
- “Hypnotized” Katie into breaking up with the new guy
- Won her back like a boss, turning her into the submissive girlfriend he has always wanted
- Rebuilt the trust in the relationship
- Used more Mind Control to make her happier than she’s ever been in her life
The Key To Getting Her Back: Manipulation!
If you’re not comfortable with the idea of manipulating your woman, think about this:
If you DON’T manipulate her, SHE will manipulate YOU.
After all, hasn’t she hurt you before? With all that emotional blackmail, psychological manipulation, the silent treatment, and other kinds of Mind Control?
Well, guess what? Two can play that game.
Only this time, YOU’RE doing it not to hurt her… but to save your relationship and make her happy.
She won’t come back to you under normal circumstances.
Want her back? Then you’ll need to manipulate the circumstances. You’ll need to manipulate HER.
How To Use Mind Control To Get Your Ex-Girlfriend Or Wife Back
Manipulation is really the only way you can win her back and make her happy again.
So if you want to do what Andrew did…
…if you want to handle your breakup like a man…
…and if you want to win your woman back…
…then you’ll need to learn how to use Mind Control on her.
Good news: you can learn everything I taught Andrew TODAY.
Yes, you can do what Andrew did and get your ex back by following the same steps he took.
Remember this because it’s important:
Under normal circumstances, she won’t come back to you.
You need to manipulate the circumstances. You need to manipulate her. And Mind Control is the safest, fastest, most effective way to do it.
Of course, you’ll need to do it RIGHT.
And I can show you how. Join the Shogun Method movement today.
I’ll see you inside,
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