How To Use Emotional Manipulation Techniques To Win With Women
“Derek, here’s the deal. I used to be balls deep every night. Now she’s not giving me anything.”
“When girls I dated did this, I used one of my tricks. I chased other women or told her there was no connection. A freeze-out always worked.”
“But now we’re living together and in a long-term relationship, those tricks don’t work anymore. How do I deal with sexual withdrawal in a long-term relationship?”
I leaned back in my chair and got ready to tell him what he didn’t want to hear.
In short, he’s about to learn powerful psychological manipulation techniques that will turbocharge his ability to win women over.
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Growing Out Of The “Pickup” Phase
Mike was a Shogun Method client of mine.
He came to me because he had evolved past the pickup stage of the game.
In fact, up until a couple of months back, he was pretty good at “pickup”.
He had approached a ton of girls. He knew how to make girls think he had “high value”. He had his date routine grooved to the point where he got the lay 70% of the time.
But it got to the point where he didn’t get the rush from banging new girls that he used to. He said it was like “sleeping with the same body every night but changing the head.”
So Mike settled down with a great girl and started building a future.
And get this…
He didn’t realize the real game was just starting.
The problem with “pickup” is that soon after you pick something up, you’ll have to put it down again.
You talk to a girl at the club, entertain her, and get her number. But then she won’t text you back and flakes on the date you arranged.
So you chase other girls, pick them up, and repeat the cycle.
But like most merry-go-rounds, after a while, you want to get off and pursue something deeper.
And that’s when guys like Mike come to me for help.
Now, before we continue, here’s a fair warning…
You’re about to read through a comprehensive guide to using psychological manipulation on women.
You’ll be learning everything you need to know to lead a happy, lifelong relationship with a woman who’s forever thrilled to be with you.
So, needless to say, it might get overwhelming at some parts.
That’s why I prepared a downloadable “Psychological Manipulation Action Checklist” for you. It’s a handy “cheat sheet” that summarizes everything you’re about to learn in this Guide. And it’s free.
Click here to download
Download your copy now because it’ll make your journey to a stronger, happier love life that much easier – and much more rewarding, too.
Plus, the Psychological Manipulation Action Checklist also contains a special bonus technique at the very end –
I won’t give away too much about it right now (it’s a bit controversial), but think of it this way:
With False Memories, your woman will believe absolutely everything you say… even if it’s not true.
Yup, it’s that controversial. And yet if you want to build a strong, happy, lifelong marriage, you’ll need every bit of help you can get.
So go ahead – click the link below to get your copy of my Psychological Manipulation Action Checklist.
Ready? Let’s continue.
Going Beyond “Seduction” – It’s About Psychological Manipulation
Let’s not kid ourselves here. The white picket fence and the nuclear family is what all men eventually want.
Sooner or later, guys will grow out of the “Pickup Artist” phase and want to settle down with that one special woman.
Just like Mike.
Here’s the kicker though…
The one “special” woman in that idealized picture is loving, obedient, and feminine.
She’s not the domineering, disrespectful, game-playing and narcissistic wife that most guys put up with these days.
And guess what?
The pickup game that you used to successfully date and bed women? It won’t work in a long-term relationship, sorry.
Know this –
The dynamics have changed.
You live together. You’re around each other more. You don’t have the sense of mystery that you used to have.
You can’t punish her by dating other women anymore. Unless you want to fuck your relationship up… don’t do it.
So that high-value facade that you created for the club sluts won’t work anymore.
It’s exhausting to keep it up. And she’s around you enough to know the real you.
After all, as a wise man once said,
“Familiarity breeds contempt.”
In the worst-case scenario, your wife might downright hate you.
So if pickup tricks fail to keep the embers of love burning in the long-term, what should you do?
Turn to mainstream dating advice?
It’s all lies and bullshit. For example:
“Communicate better and express your feelings to each other!”
“Marry your best friend!”
“Schedule a date night once a week!”
“Do nice things for each other!”
If you’re reading stuff like that in Cosmopolitan magazine or on Yahoo’s home page… c’mon man. Stop it already.
So what’s the secret to keeping her desire high in a long-term relationship?
No. Pickup Artist tricks are so laughably juvenile. Come on now.
Back rubs and warm baths?
Nope. Never worked, and never will.
Here’s the answer:
Manipulation Techniques In Relationships (And Marriages)
Make no mistake: the word manipulation does come with strong negative connotations.
However, it’s important to rethink what manipulation really means in real life.
And I do mean everybody.
Women put on makeup and high heels. Men put on their best shirt and tie while showing only their good side to win a job interview.
And you know what? Children are the biggest manipulators of all. Think about it. They throw a tantrum… just to get your attention. Or, to buy them the latest Transformers toy.
Manipulation is in our genes.
It has to be. You see, the two strongest drives in human beings are survival and replication.
And humans are hard-wired to manipulate as much as is necessary to survive and replicate.
Makes a lot of sense, right?
Psychological Manipulation Tactics: Good Or Evil?
Of course, there’s that age-old belief that manipulation is, by nature, evil.
Let me offer a different way to look at it.
What makes something “evil” has got everything to do with that person’s intentions.
Take “manipulation”, for instance.
The only difference is that some people manipulate with bad intentions while others only have good intentions.
Take this example –
Children manipulate their parents all the time. You know, for toys, chocolate, attention, and love. Surely they can’t be “evil”, right?
So here’s the deal…
You want to build a loving, healthy, long-term relationship with a good-natured woman?
If that’s the case, you have absolutely nothing to worry about.
So “get over it” is step number one.
You Have To Manipulate Your Way To Love
What’s step number two?
It’s this – realize that love isn’t a spontaneous chemical reaction that happens whenever the Gods decide.
Truth be told…
You can (and should) manipulate your way to love, period.
Let me ask you this… does that thought make you uncomfortable?
If it does, then you shouldn’t.
Think about this: you’re using manipulation to make her feel loved and to build a great life together.
So the ends justify the means, right?
Once you’ve accepted that these manipulation tools are amoral (neither good nor bad), you have the right mindset.
And if you are already a Shogun Method devotee, then you’ll know that emotional Enslavement is the key, not “seduction”. So, the right mindset to have is to think Enslavement, not seduction.
Now you’ve got the mindset, the next step is to learn the “how-to” part of these psychological manipulation tactics.
Top Three Emotional Manipulation Techniques (From Shogun Method)
Shogun Method is the only relationship advice program in the world that is based on psychological and emotional manipulation. It will teach you how to be dominant with women by acquiring alpha male characteristics which are highly attractive.
(And if you’re familiar with the concept of the Dark Triad, yes, Shogun Method is also right up that alley.)
More about Shogun Method later. Now, let’s dig deep into three psychological manipulation techniques to get you started.
Emotional Manipulation Technique # 1: Prophesy
Master salesmen, after making an offer, often say:
“… but you are free to decide, of course.”
This line manipulates the prospect to think that he’s in full control of the choice that he’ll be making.
In short, the prospect thinks he came to the conclusion himself… and not through being strong-armed by a salesperson.
Heard of “illusion of control”? That’s what this is exactly.
Tell your woman she is free to pursue other romantic options… but predict unhappiness in her future.
The idea is to convince her that if she pursues other options, she will be worse off.
In negotiation, this called a BATNA – the Best Alternative To A Negotiated Agreement.
AKA, “other options”.
You want to convince her that her BATNA is worse than staying with you.
Do this by pointing out what she will lose if she leaves you. Tell her that other guys will pump and dump her. Exaggerate the worst-case scenario and make it vivid.
To summarize, here are the two steps:
- Say “you are free to decide” after presenting her an offer, and
- Predict a negative future for her if she leaves
Human beings bond through shared experiences.
In fact, suffering hardships on the road to a common goal strengthen human bonds tremendously.
Examples: wars, sports teams, team obstacle races. These unite people more effectively than work retreats and trust falls.
Here’s how you can manipulate a woman into falling for you:
Orchestrate some shared experiences for you and your woman.
Mix up positive and negative experiences. Take her on a roller coaster of emotions.
Keep boredom away by making life exciting for you as a couple.
And here’s the kicker…
Negative experiences work better.
- Take her to a new part of town and get lost on purpose.
- Go camping together and purposefully forget essential equipment.
- (Advanced) “Fake” a breakup.
Once you’ve dealt with her emotional outbursts and finger-pointing, resolve the situation.
You’ll be her hero. And you will have bonded her to you like a newborn to its mother.
Sounds crazy? Yes. Is this effective? Sure hell it is.
QUICK NOTE: I have a confession: When I was writing this Guide, I intentionally had FOUR techniques to teach you.
But one of them — the “False Memories” technique — was simply WAY TOO CONTROVERSIAL to put in public.
That’s why I hid it in my Psychological Manipulation Action Checklist. If you want the full disclosure on this touchy technique, learn all about it — and how to use it — there.
If you haven’t downloaded your copy yet, get it here now.
Emotional Manipulation Technique #3: Fractionation
Many years ago, hypnotherapists noticed a strange phenomenon happening to their clients.
There seems to be a quick shortcut to getting someone into hypnotic state quickly, and it’s this:
Keep taking her in and out of trance repeatedly.
Whenever she falls back into trance, it will be deeper than before.
This phenomenon is known as Fractionation.
And guess what? This technique works as well on women to make her fall deeper in love.
When used correctly, Fractionation will do this for you:
While the majority of relationships wane, her attachment to you will increase as the years go on.
As other couples drift apart, her love for you will deepen the longer you are together.
You know, just like a person under hypnosis.
Warning: Fractionation Is NOT A Silver Bullet
I’ve got some bad news to break to you…
Fractionation is a huge subject that I can’t fully explain here because of space constraints. (This article is already pretty long as it is.)
It definitely isn’t some “routine” or “pickup line” you can learn in two minutes. Instead, it’s rooted deeply in the practice of hypnosis and extreme persuasion. (Fractionation is a cornerstone technique used to hypnotize women into falling in love.)
Here’s some good news, however.
I teach a free intro class on Fractionation (and other Mind Control tactics) for those who want to learn more. It’s based on the legendary Shogun Method training that has helped thousands of men get what they want out of their relationships.
All you need to do is click on the link below:
Watch Masterclass On Mind Control + Fractionation
You’ll be taken to another page where you enter your email to enroll in the Online Masterclass.
After that, you’ll be ready to watch my Masterclass on using Fractionation on women!
Sounds great, right?
See you at the Masterclass,
P.S: Got any questions about using psychologically manipulative techniques on your woman? Post them below and I’ll answer them personally.
Frequently Asked Questions
What Are The Signs Of A Psychological Manipulator?
Again, everyone’s a manipulator – some more than others. The worst psychological manipulators all show three tell-tale signs, and it’s important to know what they are.
Sign #1: They make you feel guilty. Either they play the victim all the time, or they offer to do you a favor and then later tell you: “You owe me.” Classic manipulation technique – be sure to keep an eye out for this.
Sign #2: They’re hypocritical. They claim they believe certain things, and yet their actions tell a completely different story. At best, they may just be weak-willed – but at worst, it’s another classic manipulator sign.
Sign #3: They’re only there when you pose some sort of value to them. Once they get what they want from you, they disappear. And they never return the favor without making you feel like dirt.
If the woman you’re dating is showing even just one of these signs, be careful. Either be ready to end the relationship to find a more level-headed woman, or out-manipulate her.
Remember: Enslavement, Not Seduction.
How To Manipulate A Manipulator?
“I think she is a psychological manipulator herself.”
The first step is to not get caught in her traps. Remember, she manipulates your feelings to get what she wants. The moment you feel a woman is manipulating you, out-manipulate her by turning the tables on her.
For instance, if she asks you for a free ride, a free dinner, or some other favor, tell her: “Nah, that’s boyfriend duty.”
If she criticizes or insults you, tell her: “If I were your boyfriend, I’d be really hurt by that.”
Get the picture? Make her see that she can’t control your feelings.
From there, she either gives up and leaves you alone, or she submits to your frame and starts behaving herself. Either way, you win.
Now, what if you’re already her boyfriend or husband?
Then I suggest you use the controversial top-secret technique I “protected” in my Psychological Manipulation Action Checklist.
You know… the one that makes her believe everything you say, even if it’s not true? That one.
And I think it’s time I told you everything about it. Download your copy of the Psychological Manipulation Action Checklist here.
Advanced Psychological Manipulation Techniques: What Are Those?
In this Guide, you’ve been introduced to three manipulation techniques: Prophesy, Negative Shared Experiences (NSE), and Fractionation. These are pretty advanced in their own right, but there are others as well.
For instance, there’s False Memories. Here, you make your target believe a past event happened when it really didn’t.
Now you can make her keep a “promise” she made to you long ago, even if she made no such promise. Pretty sneaky and effective.
Another advanced technique is Gaslighting. With it, you make your target doubt her perception of reality and question her own decisions.
This ultimately makes her challenge you less and follow your lead more, which leads to a stronger and happier relationship overall.
To be a successful Shogun, you need to follow the techniques by the letter. And yet you have the freedom to choose the techniques that fit your preferences and, more importantly, get you the results you want.
However, if you only had the time and energy to learn ONE psychological manipulation technique, it would have to be Fractionation.
Fractionation is probably the most powerful psychological manipulation technique out there, especially when it comes to long-term relationships and marriages.
Its main goal is simple: To make your woman feel completely ADDICTED to you.
After all, when she’s addicted to you, she’ll never leave you, and she’ll never do anything that might drive you away.
Instead, she’ll do whatever it takes to make you stay.
If that’s what you want – and if you want it FAST – then I suggest you learn all about Fractionation today.
Click below to join my Online Masterclass. I’ll show you how it’s done.
To use fractionation to get ex wife back(she dumped me).Can I use reminder of some great times we had (happy) then follow with sad event etc.Example Hey imagine how excited and happy we were snorkeling together we had so much fun.Just a pity your ex at times came to stalk us stressing you out at home(negative)
Derek Rake says
Yes, definitely. However, be sure that you end of a positive note, and possibly a cliffhanger. See Module 5 of Shogun Method.
Jim Smith says
Derek Rake is the best human being to have ever existed. His methods are flawless.
Derek Rake says
Well, did I just manage to manipulate you psychologically to say that, Jim? Very kind of you nevertheless.
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