She Dumped You? Here’s How To Get Back At Your Ex Girlfriend (Or Wife)!
Got dumped by your girlfriend or wife?
Do you still love her deeply, and yet you’re feeling angry and really, really hurt by what she did?
Do you feel a secret, seething need to somehow hurt her back?
Do you want to know how to get back at your ex?
If you do, then you’re in the same situation as Kenny, one of my private Shogun Method clients.
Read Kenny’s story below next, and see if you can relate to what happened to him. Let’s go!
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Kenny’s Story
When Kenny came to see me, he was probably at the lowest point of his life.
He had gotten cheated on, then dumped by, his then-girlfriend Sandra.
And guess what? She didn’t stop there.
Sandra then hooked up with the other guy, and got engaged to him in a matter of WEEKS!
Needless to say, it fucked Kenny up bad. Really, really bad.
After he told me his story, he stayed silent and kept quiet for about a minute. And then, all hell broke loose…
He cried and ranted and wailed for a good half-hour before he told me:
“I want to get back at her, Derek. I want to give her a taste of what she did to me. How can I do that?”
If you feel the same way, then I’ll tell you in this article what I told Kenny that day.
It’s the exact same thing I tell all my clients who want revenge on their ex-girlfriends or wives.
First of all, let me get a HUGE thorn out of your side…
It’s Not Your Fault
There, I said it.
If you want to get back at your ex…
If you want her to suffer for what she did to you…
If you find yourself wishing all sorts of painful things to happen to her…
…then I want you to know this: it’s okay.
It’s NOT your fault you feel that way. It’s really not.
You know what, there’s really something about getting dumped by a woman you love that wounds the core of manhood.
It’s like you’ve…
- …been judged as weak and pathetic
- …been outed to the world as not a real man
- …been told to your face that you’re “not worthy” of having a woman
- …stopped being the “alpha male” that you thought you once were
It hurts so much that in some countries, guys who get dumped throw acid on the women who rejected them.
Fucked up, I know.
So if you’re asking if it’s normal to feel that way… then here’s the definitive answer:
Yes. It’s PERFECTLY normal. And it’s really, really that screwed up.
That’s the first thing you need to know. That’s me putting a hand on your shoulder.
Now here’s the second thing you need to know. And this is me using my same hand to smack you in the head.
Read this carefully:
While it’s normal to want to get back at a woman who hurt you…
…it’s NOT normal to ACTUALLY get back at her.
If you actually went out there to “get revenge” on her, then here’s some bad news. You’re really no better than those acid throwers.
Basically, if you tried to get back at your ex, then you’re actually proving her right:
- You are weak and pathetic
- You are not a “real” man
- You are not worthy of having a woman
So here’s my advice:
Don’t even go there. Don’t prove her right.
Don’t get back at her.
Instead, I have a better way. This is what I told Kenny, and it’s what I’m telling you to do right now.
GET EVEN with her.
Big difference.
How do you get even with a woman who dumped you?
Answer: By Enslaving her.
Let me explain…
Enslavement, Not Seduction
Fallacy Of “Pickup Artist” (PUA) Tricks
Question: have you ever followed PUA (Pickup Artist) or “seduction” advice?
If so, then you probably have used some Pickup Artist tricks to win your girlfriend or wife in the first place.
And all your “smooth” tricks helped you seduce her, win her, and make her commit to you.
Sure, Pickup Artist tricks can do that… sometimes.
However, here’s the BIGGEST drawback of Pickup Artist tricks:
They don’t ENSLAVE a woman.
And that’s the reason why your woman eventually fell out of love with you and dumped you.
Now read this carefully, because it’s super important!
If you had Enslaved her, she wouldn’t ever have dumped you. She wouldn’t ever have fallen out of love with you in the first place.
Instead, she would have stayed with you ‘til death… happy, contented, and completely committed. It’s true.
Enslavement Is The Name Of The Game
Here’s what the typical Enslaved woman looks like:
- Completely happy, even in an imperfect relationship with an imperfect man
- Completely satisfied, and would never even think of cheating
- Completely submissive, following her man’s lead to whatever end
- Completely supportive – she’s her man’s #1 fan
- Completely stable – her man gets almost zero drama from her
But what IS Enslavement, anyway? And why do I spell it with a capital “E”?
Here’s why.
I don’t mean “Enslavement” in the dictionary sense of the word.
Instead, it’s a Shogun Method term. It’s the fourth and final step in the “Ladder of Love.”
Ladder Of Love
In the “Ladder of Love,” there are four “rungs” to climb with your woman:
- The “Intrigue” rung, where you catch her interest for the first time
- The “Rapport” rung, where you earn her affection and trust
- The “Attraction” rung, where you make her fall madly in love with you
- And the “Enslavement” rung, where she becomes emotionally addicted to you for life
This is the Ladder or Stages of Love. Technically, it’s known as the IRAE Model, and is the pillar principle of Shogun Method.
(IRAE is the abbreviation for each of the stages: Intrigue, Rapport, Attraction and Enslavement).
You’ll learn more about Shogun Method later. For now, let’s focus on the IRAE Model…
The rules of climbing the ladder of love are simple:
- You must go through each step ONE AT A TIME.
- You must go through the steps IN SEQUENCE, without skipping any step.
- You must go through EVERY step all the way to Enslavement – no exceptions. This means that you MUST complete the Enslavement step to truly win the game of love
Makes sense?
Why She Left You (IRAE Model Explains Why)
Now let’s see how we can apply the concept of the IRAE Model on YOUR relationship, alright?
If your girlfriend or wife dumped you, then you’ve probably passed the Attraction step in the IRAE Model.
After all, you seduced her and made her yours, right?
But guess what? You did NOT Enslave her. And that’s why she dumped you in the end.
And now, if you want to get even with her, the only way to do that is to finish the job.
You’ll need to Enslave her and make her feel addicted to you again.
Pickup Artist or dating guru tricks will probably bring you to Attraction stage, and nothing more.
Shogun Method’s strategy to Enslave a woman is through Mind Control.
And that was what I taught Kenny.
What’s Fractionation?
The Mind Control technique Kenny learned from me is called Fractionation.
Few people know if its existence, and you’ll fully understand why later.
For now, I’m going to show you how to use it to get even with your ex.
Why Fractionation Works So Well
Fractionation works with women because of this reason:
It’s totally unexpected.
While she expects you to be angry, hurt, obsessed, and all that…
Fractionation will make you look perfectly NORMAL and cool-headed.
And that’s going to shock her. It’s going to knock her off-balance. It’s going to make her pay her full attention to you.
And that’s precisely why Fractionation works. You don’t play by her rules. You make the rules.
You’ll shift the power in the relationship to your favor. You’ll be in control again.
How Fractionation Works
Fractionation works by putting your woman on an emotional rollercoaster.
This is what that means – you make her feel alternating, intensifying cycles of pressure and relief.
(This is similar to the “hot-cold-hot” treatment that some women use on men, but goes deeper than that.)
What happens when you put her on this emotional rollercoaster?
All these:
- Her logical defenses come crashing down.
- Her emotions will overrule any rational thought that she may have.
- She becomes emotionally and psychologically vulnerable.
And all that’s going to let you get even with her.
In a little while, you’ll learn how to use Fractionation on your ex-girlfriend or wife. But for now, let me tell you how Kenny got even with Sandra…
How Kenny Got Back At Sandra (In Four Steps)
Here were the steps that I taught Kenny:
Step #1: Do The “Freeze-Out”
First, Kenny introduced some pressure in Sandra’s life by completely disappearing. He didn’t contact her for several weeks, even on social media.
Eventually, Sandra’s curiosity got the best of her, and she contacted him to see how he was doing.
Step #2: Do The “Reverse Friend-Zone”
Next, Kenny relieved the pressure on Sandra by re-establishing contact with her. But this time, he put himself firmly in her friend-zone.
(Yes, putting yourself in the friend-zone is a VALID strategy under certain circumstances… especially when you want to appear harmless to her.)
He was “doing just fine,” he was perfectly okay with “just being her friend,” and he had “no hard feelings” over the breakup.
This had the following effect on Sandra:
- As she had expected Kenny to react badly, she gets knocked off balance by his nonchalance
- She wondered: “Had he moved on from me? So quickly!?”
Step #3: Destroy The New Boyfriend
Over the next few weeks, Kenny gradually added more pressure on Sandra… simply by being her friend.
And because he seemed so harmless, she was now talking to him about everything. And that included what she didn’t like about her new fiance.
Kenny started “destroying the fiance” with joking comments like:
- “Really? He said that? What a jerk.”
- “No kidding? He really did that? You *really* picked a winner this time. (Eye roll)”
- “Holy shit, what an idiot. You dumped me for a jackass.”
As the weeks went by, Sandra felt the pressure rising. She was liking her fiance less and less, while liking Kenny more and more…
…and to make things even sweeter, he even got her to cheat on him.
Finally, when Sandra ranted about a big problem with her fiance, Kenny gave the coup-de-grace:
“What the hell are you waiting for? Dump his sorry ass already.”
And that’s EXACTLY what Sandra did.
At that point, Kenny had gotten even with Sandra. He made her realize she made a HUGE mistake by dumping such a kind, funny, great guy like him.
Now, he was in control, and she was at his mercy. Before long, Sandra begged him to come back.
Step #4: Seal The Deal!
I had told Kenny that when he reached that point, he had two choices:
- He could dump her and his revenge would be complete… or,
- He could accept her back, and his revenge would STILL be complete.
Luckily for Sandra, Kenny was a real nice guy inside, and he accepted her back. Today, they’re married and settled down, and they both could not be happier. And she has turned into the submissive wife he has always wanted her to be.
Now, It’s Your Turn
That was the Master Plan that worked for Kenny…
…and guess what? If it could work for Kenny, it would work for you.
If you follow everything I say, you’ll get even with your ex-girlfriend or wife.
If she’s with another guy, she’ll break up with him, chase you again, and beg you back.
And then what happens after that will be up to you!
Here’s the catch, though:
Fractionation will be key to your success. Nothing else will do… not lame “Dating Guru” or “Pickup Artist” tricks!
Want to learn Fractionation for yourself?
Want to truly get even with your ex?
Then here’s some good news for you: you’ll learn everything you need at my brand new Online Masterclass.
Next, click on the link below to request an Invite to the Masterclass:
Request Invite For Derek Rake’s Online Masterclass
Remember: You DON’T want to “get back” at your ex.
You DON’T want to be just like those weak, pathetic losers.
But you CAN get even with her. And you SHOULD, if you want to win the battle in the end.
Fractionation is the only way to get even with her. And you’re about to master it today.
Click here for the Online Masterclass.
And I’ll see you in the Masterclass,
PS: Questions? Comments? Need more help? Make a request below… post a comment. 🙂
dylan says
derek I just bought your reseduction program, but before this just a day ago I just recently apologized to my ex girl friend for being so needy and controlling and that I did not want her to be with someone like I was and i asked her to be friends and she agreed with this. I also know she has a boy friend. My question is after me being nice like that Im just confused on if I should still go ahead and text her that have been with other people and she should do it like ts said in the validation step. And I’m also a little confused as to why i should start an argument with her and put her down if she’s living a happy new life with another guy I just feel like she wouldn’t care and that would push her into the guys arms even more I also feel that when i text her and say sorry that text wasnt suppose to go to you that she would call me out saying I’m doing this on purpose. I truly want her back and Im just skeptical on if I should continue with the program now knowing we are back on speaking terms and are friends.
Derek Rake says
Dylan: since you’re a ReSeduction client, go to your client’s area to post this question – http://shogunmethod.net/reseduction-20/
dylan says
I was about to send her the validation text the sonder one but before i could send it she replied saying hey can we text some other time I’m really busy with finals
Kevin says
I dumped her but she has a new bf, she dosent break up with her bf’s that the thing.. I f’d up what would you think my best bet is to do? I dumped her over something really dumb 3 months ago.
Kevin says
Also I’m only in touch with her via Facebook messages