How To Control Your Girlfriend

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OK, no point beating around the bush and so I’ll be blunt here. You’re reading this because you’re getting pussywhipped by your girlfriend.

Right?

Come on now. If you’re not, then you won’t be Googling for terms like “how to control your girlfriend”, “how to manipulate your woman” and “how to control a woman’s mind and make her love you”, correct?

And as they say, accepting the truth is the first step to recovery. And I will help you recover… but there’s a catch.

You must read every word and follow my advice to the best of your ability.

I gotta tell you this upfront.

My methods are unconventional, and I’m hardly politically correct by any measure. Hell, no.

Worse, I’ve been accused of hating women more times I can remember now.

That accusation, my brother, is both preposterous and offensive.

You see, the truth is that I love women, and I am here to preach the gospel of loving women by giving what they want.

I’ll tell you the truth about what women want shortly… and you know what? It’s absolutely nothing like what you might think it is. I guarantee you.

Keep reading to find out about the truth about what women really want, and even better… how you can exploit that truth to make a woman submit to your authority and control for a change.

Here’s the life story of a typical man in the modern age.

1. Man meets woman
2. Man falls in love in woman
3. Man starts dating woman
4. Woman turns out to be a controlling sociopath
5. Man gets pussywhipped

Does this sound familiar to you?

Sadly, suffering from an over controlling girlfriend is the norm these days.

And so if you’re stuck with a woman who is hell-bent on controlling your life, then guess what?

It’s not your fault.

Take heart, however. Most guys who come to us have got the same problem as you do.

“Derek, teach me how to take back control of my relationship with my girlfriend.”

“How to control your girlfriend in a relationship?”

“How to get your girlfriend to want you more?”

“How to control my girlfriend’s shitty behavior?”

And because this problem is so common, we’ve got a killer solution which will make it go away like magic.

Do you want to know what this magic solution is?

Yes?

We’ll get into that in just a moment. But first, let’s get something important done first.

Before we continue, download the PDF companion guide for this article.

We call this PDF the “How To Control Your Girlfriend Action Checklist.” It contains all the tactics you’re going to learn in this article into easy, doable, step-by-step checklists.

You’re going to receive a truckload of knowledge from me, and as you know, knowledge without action is useless. This Action Checklist ensures you take action, bit by bit until you succeed.

Download the Action Checklist by clicking the blue link below. free resource

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With these action steps, you can end your girlfriend’s bitchy reign of tyranny with a proven, systematic process. I can almost guarantee you this.

But, there’s more.

Importantly, the How To Control Your Girlfriend Action Checklist will also teach you an extra technique not covered in this guide today.

We Shoguns call this the  Master/Slave Frame  and it’s yet another powerful option you can take in regaining your rightful control over your relationship.

In fact, the Master/Slave Frame is so powerful it’s being used by my private clients in my Elite Coaching service to fix their relationships. If it works for them, it’ll work for you.

The Master/Slave Frame positions you as the relationship’s Master, demanding unquestioned devotion from a woman who accepts her place as the subservient partner.

Once you know the technique, you’ll understand why I’m hiding it inside a separate PDF. Our enemies are already screaming at me, demanding that we take it off immediately. Knowledge like this gives us a tremendous edge, and they won’t stand for it.

The Master/Slave Frame tactic is in its full glory, tucked inside the PDF–download it now to learn the technique that makes you the undisputed leader of your relationship.

Before you learn how to control your girlfriend (psychologically and emotionally), you’ll need to take stock of the situation and see how bad it is.

To quote Sun Tzu in The Art of War,

If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles.

We’re going deep into enemy territory–her psyche. Let’s get to know her, and how controlling she is over your relationship with her.

To assess your situation, answer these ten questions.

1. Does your girlfriend track where you are and who you are with?
2. Does she call you to check if you’re really where you say you are, and who you say you’re with?
3. Does she complain about your finances?
4. Does she decide on what you can or cannot buy?
5. Does she accuse you of going out to “pick women up” even though you’re not?
6. Does she bitch about your friends?
7. Is she unhappy that you’re spending time with your buddies (“why go out with your stupid friends when you can spend time with me?”)?
8. Does she try to control how you look?
9. Does she make you wear clothes that you hate just because she thinks they look good on you?
10. Does she have a final say on sex? Do you hear “I have a headache” way too often?

Give yourself one point for each yes that you answered. And here’s how to score this quiz:

• 0 – Congratulations. You don’t have a controlling girlfriend. Go live your merry life, and if you decide to marry her, then congratulations. You don’t need my help. I wish you all the best.
• 1-10 – You’ve fucked up. She’s running (and ruining) your life. You’re dealing with a female psychopath for all you know. You’ve got to get off your butt and do something about it… fast.

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Remember! Even if she’s not controlling now, remember that she can still transmogrify into a control freak in the future if you’re not careful. To keep her happy, supportive, and submissive to you for the long-term, I suggest you impose the Master/Slave Frame on your relationship–as early as now. There’s no time to waste.

To learn the Master/Slave Frame, download the How To Control Your Girlfriend Action Checklist. It’s right at the back section of the PDF.)

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Here’s something else that you should know about a Controlling Girlfriend, and it’s this–

She is fucking miserable.

Surprising, right? After all, you would assume that she’ll be happy if you’d surrender control to her, wouldn’t you?

Nope.

Here’s the truth. Being in control is not what women want.

I’ll repeat that because it’s super important!

Your woman doesn’t want to be the one in control of the relationship.

(And guess what? If she tells you she wants to be in control, then she’s either lying or delusional. She doesn’t know what the fuck she wants, and it’s true.)

The truth is that when a woman has control of a relationship, she’s in the fucking pits.

You know why?

Well, it’s because of this reason.

Leading and taking control is not female nature.

You see, female psychology is not designed that way. This sounds extremely politically incorrect these days, but it’s true–

A woman is psychologically wired to defer to a man when it comes to love.

So, when a woman is forced to lead, she becomes unhappy.

Millions of years of genetic programming tell her that it’s not her role to be the leader. Deep down, her gut tells her that it’s wrong. That’s why she’s unhappy…

…and if that goes on for a long time, she might just lose interest in you altogether.

So, what can you do to fix the problem?

Two words–Mind Control.

She wants to control the relationship, but if you can control her mind, you win.

And the best thing is she doesn’t even know she’s being controlled. It all happens in a covert, underhanded (and some say insidious) way, and she won’t even realize what’s going on.

Mind Control is not for everyone.

There’s a chance it’s not suitable for your girlfriend. Some women simply don’t react that well to Mind Control, and if your woman is one of them, you should probably stop.

The truth is women are susceptible to Mind Control in varying degrees.

Some respond tremendously well, and they surrender almost as immediately as you use a Mind Control tactic on her. Others, less so.

A small minority go berzerk immediately upon first contact with Mind Control. These are female sociopaths who turn up at your door at 3 in the morning with a baseball bat. Using Mind Control on these crazies is a huge mistake.

So, is Mind Control for your girlfriend?

It depends on her profile. Or, in Shogun Method terminology, her Female Psyche Archetype.

To find out what archetype she is, take this quiz. In five minutes, you’ll know.

Proceed only when you have this information.

OK, I am assuming you have taken the quiz, and you know her Archetype.

You should continue only if she is a Persephone or an Athena. Gaias and Thalias are huge risks.

Again, if you’ve not profiled her, answer the quiz, and come back. Trust me.

So, if she passes the quiz, then here’s the question to answer:

How do you deal with a controlling girlfriend?

The first thing that you must do is this–

Stop appeasing her.

Being nice to her will only give you short-term relief. Because the more you try to be nice to her, the more irrational her demands will be, it’s true.

And guess what? As her irrational demands go up, her attraction levels to you go down.

Again, if you thought that it was best to be nice to your girlfriend and be her best friend, then it’s not your fault.

You’ve been conditioned to think like that since you’re young. You just can’t help it.

Society wants you to think that way. Call it systematic brainwash if you like. They’ve been trying to emasculate and neuter men on a large scale. And if you’ve not been aware of this, it’s time to open your eyes.

Now, no matter what the society wants you to believe…

Your girlfriend doesn’t want “nice”.

Your girlfriend doesn’t want a “best friend”.

She wants a strong leader.

She wants someone to look up to.

She wants someone she admires.

She wants to be controlled.

She wants to be protected.

She wants to be dominated.

She wants to be led.

And guess what?

She has been testing you to see if you’re man enough to lead her.

And the nicer you are to her, the bigger failure you’re going to be in her eyes.

The more you give in, the weaker you’ll be.

No woman wants a weak man.

I mean, who does?

The good news is we men are naturally wired to be strong. All you need is to flip the masculine switch inside you. It’s already there, so it’s going to be easy, trust me on this.

You’ll learn our trademark three-step “How To Control A Woman” strategy on (1) controlling your woman, and (2) making her submit to your authority and dominance.

Let’s go!

It’s a myth that the opposite of love is hate.

Guess what? Love and hate are pretty much the same thing.

You can say they’re the opposite sides of the same coin.

I mean, sometimes, don’t you feel both love and hate for your girlfriend at the same time? My point exactly.

You know what’s the real opposite of love is?

INDIFFERENCE.

When you stop loving a person, you feel indifferent towards her.

If you still hate her, it means you still love her.

Women know this intuitively.

So, here’s the first thing you need to do: step back and pretend to be indifferent to her.

You’ve been nice and accommodating to her all the while, right? From now on, I want you to do the opposite: be emotionless. Stoic. Non-reactive.

In short, stop giving a shit.

This, of course, will shake her reality.

She has never expected you to behave like this. She thought you’re firmly placed under her thumb…

… and so, as you back off and stop giving a fuck, she’ll be taken by surprise. You’ll knock her off balance completely.

Here are some things that you can do to take the power back from her–

• Delay your reaction, or even better, don’t react at all
• When she asks you something, give her a short, vague answer like “Yeah. Maybe”
• If she deliberately provokes you into an argument, act disinterested
• Spend time away from her, and keep busy doing things that don’t involve her
• Stop answering her calls and texts

That should get you started!

If you’ve done the first step (practice indifference) correctly, then you’ll feel this awesome feeling–

The power dynamic in the relationship shifting back to your hands.

You’re shattering her illusion of control. And you’ll probably freak her out, big time.

Believe me this will happen. She’ll be completely startled. She is most vulnerable at this point….

…and when she’s weak and confused, you’ll deliver the killer blow.

Say these nine words:

“I think we need to spend some time apart”

As you’ll see, this is supposed to be vague. You don’t tell her that you want a breakup outright.

Never give ultimatums. Never say it’s over.

What you want is to fire up her imagination and make her thoughts run wild. This is the essence of Mind Control.

Trust me. She’ll go insane brewing on her own volatile emotions.

“Am I getting dumped?”

“Is he seeing someone else?”

“What did I do wrong?”

“Why does he hate me now?”

Remember! The more triggered she gets, the better it is for you.

And that’s not all. After you “fake dump” her, then get out of town.

She’ll be calling you in a frenzy. Her texts would be fast and furious. Expect all this, but stay the course, stay strong…

… and switch off the phone.

After about three days, then send her a quick text:

“let’s talk things over“

If you’ve done everything exactly as I’ve said, expect her to reply enthusiastically to you. Again, you’re using a Mind Control trigger she can’t help but to respond to.

(Women love to “talk things over” when the shit hits the fan. It’s just their nature.)

You’re now at your most powerful position, and she’s at her weakest. So, make full use of your advantage.

This is your moment. Don’t screw it up.

In the final step, you’ll use yet another Mind Control tactic that will make her dominating personality a thing of the past.

This Mind Control tactic is Fractionation.

You should now realize that we are different from the conventional Guru and Pickup Artist stuff that you find elsewhere.

There’s a good reason for that… because us Shoguns are probably the only ones who are preaching about using Mind Control on women.

Because frankly, Pickup Artist tricks are for wimps. Mind Control is what you need. For one simple reason. It works.

Fractionation is one of the strongest, military-grade Mind Control tactics that you’ll ever find. And guess what? It’s pretty easy to learn, too.

If you want your girlfriend to surrender control to you, then using Fractionation on her will pretty much seal the deal for you.

It’s as simple as that. This is the killer solution that you’ve been searching for all the time, believe me.

Now, before you use Fractionation on your girlfriend, I have to warn you.

Fractionation could mess a woman up permanently. Do it wrong and she’ll need weekly therapy and depression pills for life.

And this is why I am cautious about who to teach Fractionation to.

So, here’s the deal. I will only teach you if you meet each and every one of the three criteria below.

1. You want to use it on one woman you truly love (this is not a pickup or “get laid” technique)
2. You want to use it to make your relationship better, and not to hurt her or get revenge on her for treating you badly
3. You want to be with your girlfriend for the long-term (or, it’s not a short-term fling)

If you don’t qualify, well, you know what to do… leave this site and don’t come back again. Maybe go post at some Pickup Artist forum maybe?

Now if you promise that you’ll obey all three criteria (not one, not two, but all three) above, then here’s what you need to do next. Join us as Shoguns.

Inside the Shogun Method community, you’ll learn how to use Fractionation and Mind Control on women directly from me. You’ll find the exact script and routine as well as the dangers to watch out for (so that you don’t screw her up emotionally!)

Are you ready?

If yes, then click here.

P.S.: Comments? Questions? Leave me a message below.

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In addition to the ten signs covered in this guide above, here’s another question you need to ask–

Does she try to ruin your reputation when you resist her control-freaky tendencies?

For example, she might complain to your friends, relatives, or even co-workers about how you’re such a bad boyfriend. Does she badmouth you? Does she disrespect you in front of other people?

Yes? Then in that case, you can either break up with her or shock the control-freakiness out of her. And you do that with Mind Control.

It depends.

Here’s the thing… nothing works 100%–not even Mind Control.

In Shogun Method, we calculate a woman’s Vulnerability Score to see how she will react to Mind Control. The higher her score, the more vulnerable she is.

To calculate your girlfriend’s Vulnerability Score, take this short quiz. You’ll get the answer in five minutes.

I have some good news and bad news for you.

The bad news is that her mood swings will never go away, even if she’s 100% happy and contented in your relationship. The good news is that the happier she is, the fewer and further between her mood swings become.

To minimize her mood swings, I suggest you impose the Master/Slave Frame as early as you can in your relationship. If you haven’t imposed it yet, that’s okay. It’s never too late.

You can learn how to impose the Master/Slave Frame in the Action Checklist PDF. If you haven’t downloaded your copy yet, get it here.

If you’ve heard of the infamous Shogun Method four-step manipulation strategy, this is what you need to know. Every woman falls in love in four stages, and they are…

• Intrigue stage
• Rapport stage
• Attract stage
• Enslavement stage

This is known as the IRAE Model. To find out more, read this free digital book (in PDF).

Girls with daddy issues tend to have a host of emotional problems. The word “crazy” comes to mind. She might be too clingy, too aggressive, or too spoiled. She might be into body mutilation or Tumblr feminism. You get the idea.

The key to controlling a girl with daddy issues is the same: to mentally dominate and lead her. In a sense, you’re replacing the role her asshole dad is just barely filling in her life.

For the full treatment of this matter, complete with my suggested solutions and recommended techniques, read my article on Dating A Girl With Daddy Issues here.

This article and its companion handbook contains everything you need to gain power in your relationship. However, if you only had the time to master one technique, I strongly suggest you learn Fractionation.

It’s a simple storytelling technique that slowly and steadily makes a woman–any woman–feel addicted to you. And with this addiction naturally comes the irresistible urge to submit to you.

In fact, Fractionation can solve a whole host of relationship problems besides a controlling girlfriend. Try it out–you’ll immediately see why.

To master Fractionation, learn it inside the Shogun Method online program’s Fast Start Module. It’s probably the single best resource on Fractionation in the world today, bar none.

Need access to Shogun Method? Click here.