How To Take Back Control Of My Relationship With My Girlfriend
OK, no point beating around the bush and so I’ll be blunt here. You’re reading this because you’re getting pussywhipped by your girlfriend.
Come on now. If you’re not, then you won’t be Googling for terms like “how to control your girlfriend”, correct?
And as they say, accepting the truth is the first step to recovery. And I WILL help you “recover”… but there’s a catch:
You’ll have to read every word and follow my advice to the best of your ability.
I gotta admit this…
My methods are NOT conventional, and I’m hardly “politically correct” by any means…
Worse, I’ve been accused of “hating women” more times I can remember now.
That accusation, my friend, is both preposterous and offensive.
You see, the truth is that I love women, and I am here to preach the gospel of loving women by giving what they want.
I’ll tell you the truth about what women want shortly… and you know what? It’s absolutely NOTHING like what you might think it is, guaranteed.
Keep reading to find out about the truth about what women want, and even better… how you can “exploit” that truth to make a woman submit to your authority and control for a change.
Table of Contents
Getting Pussywhipped? It’s Not Your Fault
Here’s the life story of a typical man in the modern age:
- Man meets woman
- Falls in love
- Starts dating
- Woman turns out to be a controlling sociopath
- Man gets pussywhipped
Does this sound familiar to you?
Sadly, suffering from an over controlling girlfriend is the norm these days.
And so if you’re stuck with a woman who is hell-bent on controlling your life, then guess what?
It’s not your fault.
Take heart, however…
Most guys who come to us have got the same problem as you do.
“Derek, teach me how to take back control of my relationship with my girlfriend.”
“How to control your girlfriend in a relationship?”
“How to get your girlfriend to want you more?”
“How to control your girlfriend’s attitude?”
And because this problem is so common, we’ve got a well-developed solution which will make it go away like magic.
Do you want to know what this “magic solution” is?
We’ll get into that in just a moment.
Before we continue, do take a moment to download the “companion guide” for this article.
It’s called the “How To Control Your Girlfriend Action Checklist.” It summarizes all the tips in this article into easy, doable, step-by-step checklists.
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Now you can end your girlfriend’s “reign of tyranny” with a proven, systematic process.
But there’s more…
The How To Control Your Girlfriend Action Checklist will also teach you a BONUS technique not covered in this article.
This technique is called the “Master/Slave Frame,” and it’s yet another option you can take in regaining your rightful control over your relationship.
In fact, the Master/Slave Frame is so powerful it’s being used by my MARRIED clients to fix their marriages. If it works for them, it’ll work for you!
It’s all in my How To Control Your Girlfriend Action Checklist – get it now, and let’s continue with the rest of this article.
Great — let’s continue.
Let’s start by addressing something super important first.
How Bad Is Your Girlfriend Controlling You?
Before you learn how to control your girlfriend, you’ll need to take stock of the situation and see how bad it is.
To quote Sun Tzu (of the “Art of War” fame):
If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles.
The “Controlling Girlfriend” Quiz
To assess your situation, answer these questions:
- Does your girlfriend track where you are and who you are with?
- Does she call you to check if you’re really where you say you are, and who you say you’re with?
- Does she complain about your finances?
- Does she decide on what you can or cannot buy?
- Does she accuse you of going out to “pick women up” even though you’re not?
- Does she bitch about your friends?
- Is she unhappy that you’re spending time with your buddies (“why go out with your stupid friends when you can spend time with me?”)?
- Does she try to control how you look?
- Does she make you wear clothes that you hate just because she “thinks” they look good on you?
- Does she have a final say on sex? Do you hear “I have a headache” way too often?
Give yourself one point for each “YES” that you answered. And here’s how to score this quiz:
- 0 – Congratulations. You don’t have a controlling girlfriend. Go live your merry life, and if you decide to marry her, then congratulations. You don’t need my help. I wish you all the best.
- 1-10 – You’ve fucked up. She’s running (and ruining) your life. You’re dealing with a female psychopath for all you know. You’ve got to get off your butt and do something about it… FAST.
(Friendly advice, though: Even if she’s not controlling now, remember that she can STILL become a control freak in the future if you’re not careful. To keep her happy, supportive, and submissive to you for the long-term, I suggest you impose the “Master/Slave Frame” on your relationship – as early as now, preferably.
To learn how to impose the Master/Slave Frame, download the How To Control Your Girlfriend Action Checklist and check out the “Bonus Content” section.)
What All “Controlling Girlfriends” Have In Common
Here’s something else that you should know about a “Controlling Girlfriend”, and it’s this…
She is unhappy.
Surprising, right? After all, you would assume that she’ll be happy if you’d surrender control to her, wouldn’t you?
Here’s the truth: being in control is not what women want.
I’ll repeat that because it’s super important!
Women do NOT want to be the one who controls the relationship.
(And guess what? If she tells you she WANTS to be in control, then she’s either lying or delusional.)
And when a woman has control of a relationship, she’s fucking miserable.
You know why?
Well, it’s because of this:
Leading and taking control is not in her nature.
You see, female psychology is not designed that way. This sounds extremely “un-politically correct” these days, but it’s TRUE:
A woman is psychologically wired to defer to a man when it comes to love.
So, when a woman is “forced” to lead, she becomes unhappy.
Millions of years of genetic programming tell her that it’s not her role to be the leader. Deep down, her gut tells her that it’s wrong. That’s why she’s unhappy. And if that goes on for a long time, she might just lose interest in you altogether.
So, what can you do to fix the problem?
How To Control A Woman Emotionally
How do you then deal with a controlling girlfriend?
The straightforward answer would be to CONTROL HER BACK.
So, the first thing that you must do is this: stop trying to appease her.
Know this –
Being “nice” to her will only give you short-term relief.
The more you try to be nice to her, the more irrational her demands will be.
And guess what? As her irrational demands go up, her attraction levels to you go down.
Again, if you thought that it was best to be “nice” to your girlfriend and be her “best friend”, then it’s not your fault.
You’ve been conditioned to think like that since you’re young. You just can’t help it.
The society wants you to think that way. Call it “systematic brainwash” if you like. They’ve been trying to emasculate and neuter men on a large scale. And if you’ve not been aware of this, it’s time to open your eyes.
Now, no matter what the society wants you to believe –
Your girlfriend doesn’t want “nice”.
Your girlfriend doesn’t want a “best friend”.
She wants a strong leader.
She wants someone to look up to.
She wants someone she admires.
She wants to be controlled.
She wants to be led.
And guess what?
She has been testing you to see if you’re man enough to lead her.
And the “nicer” you are to her, the bigger failure you’re going to be in her eyes.
The more you give in, the weaker you’ll be.
No woman wants to be with a weak man.
Good. Next, I’ll show you how to be strong, turn the tables on her and be the dominant partner in the relationship.
You’ll learn our patented three-step “Female Mind Hack” strategy to (1) control your girlfriend, and (2) make her submit to your authority and dominance.
Female Mind Hack – A Three-Step Strategy
Step #1: Do The “Withdrawal”
It’s a myth that the opposite of love is “hate”.
Guess what? Love and hate are pretty much the same thing. It’s the opposite sides of the same coin.
I mean, don’t you feel both “love” and “hate” for your girlfriend at the same time? My point exactly.
Here’s the real opposite of LOVE:
When you stop loving a person, you start feeling indifferent towards her. You don’t hate her.
So, here’s the first thing you need to do: step back and be INDIFFERENT to her.
You’ve been nice and accommodating to her all the while, right? From now on, I want you to do the opposite: become emotionless to her.
In short: stop caring that much.
This, of course, will shake her reality.
She has never expected you to behave like this. She thought you’re firmly placed under her thumb.
So, as you back off, she’ll be taken by surprise. You’ll knock her off balance completely.
Here are some things that you must do to take the power back from her:
- “Delay” your reaction to her
- When she asks you something, give her a short, vague answer like “Yeah, maybe.”
- If she deliberately provokes you into an argument, act tired and disinterested
- Spend time away from her, and keep busy doing things that don’t involve her
- Stop answering her calls and texts
That should get you started! 🙂
Step #2: “Dump” Her
If you’ve done the first step correctly, then you’ll feel this:
The power dynamic in the relationship is shifting to you.
You’re shattering her illusion of control. And you’ll probably freak her out, big time.
She’ll be completely startled. And she will be most vulnerable at this point.
This is when you deliver the KILLER BLOW:
“I think we need to spend some time apart.”
As you’ll see, this is supposed to be VAGUE. You DON’T tell her that you want a breakup outright.
In other words: NEVER say “it’s over”.
What you want to do is to completely fire up her imagination and make her thoughts run wild:
“Am I getting dumped?”
“Is he seeing someone else?”
“What did I do wrong?”
“Why does he hate me now?”
Remember: the more triggered she gets, the better it is for you.
After you “fake dump” her, then get outta town and STOP contacting her for three days.
She’ll be calling you in a frenzy. Her texts would be fast and furious. Expect all this, but STAY STRONG – don’t reply.
Step 3: “Finish” Her
After about three days, then send her a quick text:
“let’s talk things over”
If you’ve done everything as I said before this, expect her to reply enthusiastically to you.
(Women love to “talk things over” when the shit hits the fan. It’s just their nature.)
You’re now at your most powerful position, and she’s at her weakest. So, make full use of your advantage!
This is your moment. Don’t screw it up 🙂
In the final step, you’ll use a Mind Control technique that will make her dominating personality a thing of the past.
This Mind Control technique is Fractionation.
Fractionation: How To Control Your Girlfriend And Make Her Emotionally Enslaved To You
You should now realize that we are different from the conventional “Dating Guru” and “Pickup Artist” stuff that you find elsewhere.
There’s a good reason for that… because we are the only ones who are preaching the Mind Control school of attraction.
Frankly, “Pickup Artist” tricks are for wimps. Mind Control is what you need. For one simple reason. It works.
Fractionation is one of the strongest, military-grade Mind Control tactics that you’ll ever find. And guess what? It’s pretty easy to learn, too.
If you want your girlfriend to surrender control to you, then using Fractionation on her will pretty much seal the deal for you.
It’s as simple as that. This is the “magic bullet” solution that you’ve been searching for all the time, believe me.
Now, before you use Fractionation on your girlfriend, I have to warn you…
Misusing it on a woman could turn her into a permanent mess emotionally.
Do it wrong and she’ll need weekly therapy sessions and depression pills for life.
And this is why I am cautious about who to teach Fractionation to.
So, here’s the deal:
I will only teach you IF you meet each and every one of the three criteria below:
- You want to use it on ONE woman you TRULY love (this is not a “pickup” or “get laid” technique)
- You want to use it to make your relationship better, and not to hurt her or get revenge on her for treating you badly
- You want to be with your girlfriend for the long-term (or, it’s not a short-term fling)
If you don’t qualify, well, you know what to do… leave this site and don’t come back again. Maybe go post at some Pickup Artist forum maybe? 🙂
Now if you promise that you’ll obey ALL three criteria above, then here’s what you need to do next:
Click on this link below –
Request Invite For Derek Rake’s Online Masterclass
On that page, enter your best email address. If you qualify, we’ll send you an invite to our Online Masterclass.
In the Masterclass, you’ll learn how to use Fractionation and Mind Control on women. You’ll find the exact script and routine as well as the dangers to watch out for (so that you don’t screw her up emotionally!).
See you at the Masterclass,
P.S.: Comments? Questions? Leave me a message below 🙂
Frequently Asked Questions
How To Know If Your Girlfriend Is A Control Freak?
In addition to the 10 signs covered in the article, here’s what you need to ask yourself: Does she try to ruin your reputation when you resist her control-freaky tendencies? She might complain to your friends, relatives, and even co-workers about how you’re such a “bad boyfriend.”
If your girlfriend is a control freak, you can either break up with her OR shock the control-freakiness out of her. And you do that with the Female Mind Hack strategy (see above).
How To Control Your Girlfriend’s Mood Swings?
I have some good news and bad news for you…
The bad news is that her mood swings will never go away, even if she’s 100% happy and contented in your relationship. The good news is that the happier she is, the fewer and further between her mood swings become.
To minimize her mood swings, I suggest you impose the Master/Slave Frame as early as you can in your relationship. If you haven’t imposed it yet, that’s okay – it’s never too late.
You can learn how to impose the Master/Slave Frame in the How To Control Your Girlfriend Action Checklist. If you haven’t downloaded your copy yet, get it here now.
How To Control A Girl With Daddy Issues?
Girls with Daddy Issues tend to have a host of emotional problems. The word “crazy” comes to mind. She might be too clingy, too aggressive, or too spoiled. She might be into body mutilation or Tumblr feminism. You get the idea.
The key to controlling a girl with daddy issues is the same: To mentally dominate and lead her. In a sense, you’re replacing the role her asshole dad is just barely filling in her life.
For the full treatment of this matter, complete with my suggested solutions and recommended techniques, read my article on Dating A Girl With Daddy Issues here.
How To Gain Power In A Relationship With Your Woman?
This article and its companion handbook contains everything you need to gain power in your relationship. However, if you only had the time to master ONE technique, I strongly suggest you learn Fractionation.
It’s a simple storytelling technique that slowly and steadily makes a woman – ANY woman – feel addicted to you. And with this addiction naturally comes the irresistible urge to submit to you.
In fact, Fractionation can solve a whole host of relationship problems besides a controlling girlfriend. Try it out – you’ll immediately see why.
To master Fractionation, click here now.
Youre a misogynistic pig says
This is fucking disgusting. Thanks! (It doesn’t take a scientist to realize that this is literally abusive behavior on all levels, regardless of how you see it.) Women aren’t yours to control, just as men aren’t women’s to control. If you realize that this kind of behavior can put women in therapy then why the fuck would you do it in the first place? You know what your doing is wrong. Why the fuck can’t anyone just be a good person these days? Instead, you’re out here encouraging douchebags to psychologically damage their girlfriends. Delete this PLEASE.
Now I’m a feminist.
Derek Rake says
No, I’m not deleting this BECAUSE there are people like you in this world. Deal with it, scumbag.
I love what you’re doing, Derek.
I found this site because I was horrified by the massive growth of feminism. It’s getting pretty bad, and we all know it.
Here’s the deal about Shoguns…
Some of us don’t even have sex w our enslaved victims at all. Admittedly, I do this only to feed my power lust. There’s a small fraction of the Shogun community who are like this, and I am one of them. Derek Rake tolerates our existence…
I was on a mission to learn how to turn the tables on the current cultural destruction of men. Shogun Method fits the bill.
Maybe some day women will learn how to say what they mean, know what they truly want, and not to treat men like junk. But until then, I will use Shogun Method every day and every way.
Derek Rake says
I know there’s a good section of the Shogun community are downright psychopathic, but people will need to take responsibility for their own actions.
You’re wrong, and this comes from a woman.
Derek Rake says
Of course. Why would anyone expect you to say otherwise?
Come on. You desperately want to be controlled by your boyfriend.
If anyone takes your advice, he is a smart man. I am a girl who likes to be led by man. You’re teaching them to do the right thing: be dominant men. Thank you, Derek Rake.
Derek Rake says
Thank you, Aldona. I certainly wish more women are enlightened as you are.
Enslaved women = happy women!
keep on going derek..merry x’mas hohoho~
Derek Rake says
There’s no stopping us Shoguns!
Stephie Babe says
So this is how my boyfriend have been controlling me! LOL
Shogun Method is intriguing but scary!
My girlfriend recently have intention to break up with me, she continually implied that she won’t have time with me, cant give love me like before because she will be too busy and stressful with works and taking care of her family, her daughter (she is single mom) or she would be exhaused, she has withhold sex with me for awhile for the reason that she was in bad mood and stressful and didnot think about is. Needless to say her family is wealthy and she is CEO of her family business, now business is went down recently then she is so busy and very stressful recenlty, because the business lost a huge money and she is responsible for the lost).
I have applied step 1 and step 2 of your above-mentioned tactics but it seem did not work, I did not answer her calls nor text her back for almost 3 days. She seems got angry and consider me as not respect her and didnot acted as a mature man. And after three days I text her that ‘she is right (about the intention of break-up), and she should find another guy who better than me who is suiltable for her current wealthy life.
Now she have blocked usual social network with me (zalo, similar to Wechat or Whatapps, Line), she did not answer my text or my calls (I just call her two times).
Please give me your advice what I have to do to pull her back. It seem I go too far.
I have purchased and read your Shogun Method, ReSeduction and Text on Steroids 2.0.
Derek Rake says
Alex: post your question inside ShogunMethod.net client’s area. I’ll assign a coach to you.
This would be the natural response for a woman. You didn’t do anything wrong except listen to this boy.
Damn, Derek! You are a savage. I like that! 😉
Derek Rake says
You gotta fight fire with fire. That’s the way of the Shogun.
Enslavement, not seduction!
Freddy Daniels says
I support Derek ..dude the shogun method changed my life and I like the way you use the techniques you teach on the students…it’s all crazy..the stories you tell in your guides are fractionation stories ..ppl who are looking for examples should look at them