How To Be Dominant In A Relationship (In Three Steps)
Last Friday, a young man (let’s call him Eli) came to see me during for our weekly office hours session here at Derek Rake HQ in sunny San Diego.
“Derek, I need you to teach me how to be dominant with women, fast.”
“Whoa, hold your horses,” I said to him. “First, tell me more about your relationship.”
“Well, my girlfriend holds the power in our relationship,” he sighed.
“She argues better than I do. Our days revolve around what she wants to do. We moved to the town that she liked, we got a house in the neighborhood she wanted, and we’re following her plan of getting married and renovating the house. She’s really controlling, and I hate it.”
Well, Eli, I thought, this is not unfamiliar to me at all.
Eli slumped into his seat. “But, that’s not the worst part, Derek.”
“The problem is that she doesn’t respect me. It’s the little things… you know, like she gives me orders and doesn’t listen to me. I want to be the alpha male in the relationship so badly.”
“OK, I’m beginning to see a pattern. Tell me, what’s your job?”
“I’m a high school teacher. I teach 8th grade.”
“Mmm, interesting. Do you have any behavior problems in your classes?” I asked Eli.
“I did in the beginning. But once I learned about behavioral psychology, I was able to control the kids easily,” Eli replied.
I smiled. “Look here, Eli. I’ll help you be dominant with women… but first you have to tell me about how you get the respect of your students.”
“But Derek, how will that help me be dominant with women?”
Table of Contents
- 1 How To Be Dominant In A Relationship (In Three Steps)
- 2 Why Your Woman Is Disrespecting You
- 3 How To Dominate Women: In Three Steps
- 4 Step #2 – Do The Faux Break Up
- 5 Step #3 – Make Her Emotionally Addicted To You
Why Your Woman Is Disrespecting You
Before I continue with Eli’s story, let me say this:
If you feel that your woman doesn’t respect you, you’re not alone.
Millions of men around the world have the same problem – especially in more “progressive” countries.
Men begin looking for answers.
First, they follow the mainstream advice and try to be her “best friend”.
They let her take the lead. “I’ll have to ask the wife”, “She’s the boss”, etc.
And of course, that fails miserably.
I mean, you can’t get somebody’s respect by giving them everything they want. Common sense, right?
So, what happens? Men overreact and go to the other extreme.
They turn to the “Pickup Artist” or “Seduction” community. They start being a jerk. They play games. They over-analyze every action. They take on a false persona.
Bitterness, creepiness, over thinking, and over-reliance on Pickup Artist tricks.
So, what gives?
How To Dominate Women: In Three Steps
I have an even better idea – there’s a third way…
…a way where you’re not a jerk and you’re not her best friend.
Instead, you’re her master.
And in the rest of this guide, I’ll show you how to become that dominant man.
In fact, I’ll teach you my 3-step formula for complete dominance and authority over women.
Let me show you how this works. Here are the steps:
- Step #1: Make her suffer
- Step #2: Do the “Faux Breakup”
- Step #3: Make her emotionally addicted to you
Let’s go through each one in detail!
Step #1: Make her suffer
“Dating Gurus” and “Pickup Artists” tell you to make a woman feel good.
They tell you that women move towards pleasure and away from pain.
And you know what?
Here, I agree with those pickup guys.
Let me tell you why…
In the beginning of the relationship, you want the woman to associate you with good feelings.
After all, you’re offering to pluck her out of her mundane existence and let her join in your fairy tale life.
But guess what?
Later in the relationship, negative emotions work much better.
That’s right. Fear, dread, jealousy, anger is good for your relationship.
Look at this example: women love drama, right?
They gossip, watch TV dramas, and fall out with their girlfriends.
All. The. Time.
The truth is that women yearn to experience negative emotions. They can’t just “stay” happy all the time.
Or, in other words, they want to suffer.
I know this sounds fucked up, and yet it’s true.
Need more proof?
In your experience, do women prefer tender lovemaking or rough sex?
I don’t care what they say they like. How does a woman respond when you are an animal in bed?
Let me share a secret with you:
Women get off on pain.
Now what I’m saying isn’t politically correct, but you know what?
I don’t care.
I only care about what works.
I don’t have a political career to protect – I’m here to tell you the truth.
It all comes down to this:
Pain bonds people on a deep level.
Ever heard of a sports team pulling together after a disappointing loss? Or a death that brings a family closer together?
This makes total sense if you think about it.
Here’s something you probably don’t know…
Consider this question: Why does a woman leave a man?
99% of the time, the reason is this:
Because she got bored and he was too “nice”.
Truth: women don’t leave men who put them through drama and pain.
So here’s Step #1 in our “How To Be Dominant With Women” in a nutshell:
Arguments and crying will increase her devotion to you.
Betcha no “Dating Gurus” or “Pickup Artists” will tell you that!
(This is also why having Dark Triad personality traits will help you be better with women, but that’s another article for another day.)
Step #2 – Do The Faux Break Up
The “Faux Break Up” is like a valuable employee threatening to quit the company. It’s your trump card.
But be careful, the more you use it, the less powerful it will be each time.
Here’s the right way to do it:
Ghost on her for 3 days
This means ignoring her calls while having the self-discipline to not contact her.
She will whimper, scream, howl… and she’ll do anything to get you to respond. Don’t give in. Stay the course.
Reappear with a bombshell text
Your first message to break the deadlock should go like this:
“It’s probably good for us to go our separate ways.”
Say nothing. Shut up. Don’t explain or elaborate. Let her imagination run wild.
By the way…
Do you notice the range of emotions we are taking her through here?
Worried and angry that you haven’t been in touch…
Then relieved when you finally reappear.
And finally confused and shocked by your break up message.
Remember that pain bonds people on a deep level? This is exactly what’s in play here.
Now, onward to the final step of the Faux Breakup tactic…
Reluctantly agree to meet up
I guarantee you she will want to “talk things over”.
No woman will let you go out like that. She will also want to know your reasons.
(Pro tip: whenever a woman tells you that she wants to “talk things over”, it means that you now have the power over her.)
Here’s what I want you to do…
Give a little bit of resistance before meeting up with her to seal the deal.
Seal the deal?
Yes. At this meeting is when you will seal your domination over her.
It’s the make-or-break moment. It’s what the previous two steps have been leading to.
Step #3 – Make Her Emotionally Addicted To You
At this “heart-to-heart” talk you must do this:
Use Fractionation on her.
What is Fractionation?
Fractionation is a Mind Control technique. It’s nothing like the the lame “Pickup Artist” tricks you see elsewhere.
It was reputedly first discovered by Sigmund Freud, the preeminent psychologist. Later, it was used by hypnotherapists to treat their clients.
In layman terms, Fractionation is about making a woman emotionally addicted to you.
But a word of warning:
Once you use Fractionation on a woman, there’s no going back.
You can’t undo the effects. You won’t be able to turn off her devotion like a light switch.
Marriages may break up six months after both people swear to love each other “until death do us part”…
…but Fractionation is for life.
Make no mistake now…
Techniques like Fractionation are psychologically manipulative, no question about it.
Do it, but do it with your eyes open.
OK, enough with the lecture.
I would go into the “how to” of Fractionation but this article is already getting too long.
So here’s the deal…
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You’ll learn the weapons-grade Mind Control tactics that can make a woman obsessed with you quickly.
Think about it:
Within minutes, you could learn a valuable skill that will put you in control of all your relationships for the rest of your life.
Sounds great, right?
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Wishing you love, wealth, and relationships,
P.S. Remember Eli the school teacher I spoke about at the beginning of this article?
When I asked him to tell me how he controlled a class full of unruly teenagers, this is what he told me:
“In the beginning, I tried to be their friend, but they walked all over me. When I focused on being a strong leader who was respected rather than liked, the behavior problems stopped.”
How about this one?
“Instead of letting the kids do what they want in class, I take control and tell them what we are going to do. They feel secure knowing what the rules are. They feel safe knowing there’s an authority figure there to stop them from indulging in their worst instincts.”
After this, I asked him if he still wanted advice on how to dominate women.
He smiled broadly, stood up, shook my hand and walked out.
I never heard from him again.
P.P.S: Comments? Questions? Leave them below.