Or, How To Get Out Of The Friend Zone, Fast!
Man, why does this keep happening to me?” sighed Cody.
“What, Cody?” I asked.
“I met this girl, Penelope, at a wedding. She’s a 27 year-old yoga instructor from Mexico. A delicious smile and a killer body. We went out three times.”
“And?” I prodded him.
“We’re having sushi one evening. We’re laughing, talking, it all feels great. I drive her home. Walk her to the doorway. I go in for a kiss and…she gives me her cheek…”
“What then?” I inquired.
“She tells me:
“Cody, you’re a fantastic FRIEND. Let’s keep it that way!”
“Derek, the ladies ALWAYS dig me at first,” Cody continued, shaking his head.
“But then I make a move on them and… BANG! They just want to be FRIENDS!”
Cody is one of my most typical coaching clients. And he’s no hideous freak, either.
He’s a 6 foot 1 pediatrician from Seattle. A cultured and athletic hockey aficionado with a great sense of humor.
And holy shit, if had a million for every time he strikes out, I would be richer than that Facebook goof! (No offense, Zuckerberg 🙂
“Cody” I told him, “You CAN escape the Friend Zone. And it’s easier than you could ever imagine”.
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Look, Lady, I Don’t Want To Be Your Friend!
Let’s face it… tons of dudes get “friend-zoned” by hot girls – all the time.
The way it happens is so fucking simple it’s scary:
- Guy meets hot girl. Acts super nice, like a true “gentleman”…
- Girl is initially interested. Then gets bored – QUICKLY…
- Girl tells guy they are “just friends” (cringe!). Dude comes running to me for help, his balls shrunken to the size of pistachios…
You see, most “Pickup Artist” ebooks talk about the “Friend Zone”.
And they offer “advice” on how to get out of it…
But it’s usually the same shit, over and over!
You know, stuff like:
- Act like a jerk, women LOVE jerks! (Yes, the weirdo/insecure/lame ones…)
- Pretend like you don’t care! (She’ll look for a dude who does, pronto.)
- Make fun of her a.k.a “neg” her! (See her pretty hand make contact with your face…)
Please, forget this idiotic Pickup Artist junk and listen to me carefully…
Because you, like Cody, can get out of the Friend Zone easily – as long as you do exactly what I tell you to.
How To Escape The Friend Zone… Forever
To be frank, getting out of the Friend Zone is just the beginning. I’ll tell you why in a moment…
Just like Cody, you probably want to do things most men only dream about:
- Convert a hot female friend into an even hotter lover
- Never get Friend-Zoned by a woman – EVER AGAIN
- Get the woman you like to see you as sexual material – right from “Hello”
What I’m about to tell you has changed the lives of literally tens of thousands of men…
… and my techniques have helped them to master and rule female psychology – triggering unstoppable desire in a woman AT WILL.
Friend Zone? After this, you will forget what this even means.
After you learn how to apply my techniques she will only want you as HER MAN – physically, mentally, sexually.
So, do I have your attention now?
Good 🙂 Fasten your seat belt and read on…
How To Get Out Of The Friend Zone: By Manipulating Female Psychology
To get out of the Friend Zone, you’ve got to have some basic understanding of female psychology.
Here’s what you need to know…
The female brain has two sides – conscious and unconscious.
The conscious brain does the thinking, the calculating, the analyzing.
Leave this part to her boss and gay friend. 😉 Why? You’ll need to focus on the unconscious part of her brain.
The decisions she makes with her unconscious brain are based on:
- Emotions
- Subconscious Thoughts
- Uncontrolled Reactions
And here’s something very important, and so pay attention!
The unconscious mind is where her most primitive emotional and sexual instincts reside… just waiting to be unleashed!
This is the command center of her desires, feelings and deepest emotions…
…and you’re about to hijack the command post!
Before you do, captain, you have to learn about what we call the VAKSOG Framework.
VAKSOG Framework: How To Manipulate The Female Mind
No, my friend, VAKSOG is not a Swedish dish. 🙂
It’s an acronym for the six senses by which women process information:
- V is for Visual processing (Seeing)
- A is for Auditory processing (Hearing)
- K is for Kinesthetic processing (Acting, Doing)
- S is for Somatosensory processing (Touching)
- O is for Olfactory processing (Smelling)
- G is Gustatory processing (Tasting)
Why is VAKSOG so important?
Because to build strong rapport you must “match” her VAKSOG modes.
(And the key to avoiding the Friend Zone is through strong rapport.)
There are six elements inside the VAKSOG model, but usually a woman would rely on only two or three “default elements” to process information.
So here’s what this means…
If you can identify a woman’s default VAKSOG elements then you can instantly hack her mind into thinking she has a deep emotional connection to you.
And guess what? This is how a woman becomes strongly, instantly and inevitably sexually attracted to YOU.
Next, let’s look at some examples on how VAKSOG works its magic. Continue reading!
VAKSOG Matching: Some Examples
Rapport Building Scenario #1
Imagine you are talking to her about movies.
She tells you her favorite ones. You ask:
“So what is it about Pretty Woman you like so much?”
She answers:
“The beautiful cinematography and scenery. The camera shots of L.A. are incredible. And Richard Gere looks stunning!”
BINGO!
She likes to process information visually (V in the VAKSOG framework).
In response, you show her you do the same:
“True. I remember seeing it at the cinema, on a beautiful day. The sun was shining, the sky was blue. And Julia Roberts was gorgeous!”
Bravo – you have just triggered powerful feelings in her unconscious mind. You’re matching her “Visual” processing mode through the choice of your words (highlighted in the dialog above in bold).
Let’s try another one, shall we?
Rapport Building Scenario #2
You are talking to the same girl about the holidays.
She tells you:
“My hotel had a fantastic selection of sweet wines, I couldn’t get enough. And the food was to die for – all kinds of exotic fruits and absolutely delicious ice cream…”
It’s clear she’s processing information in the Olfactory and Gustatory way (the O and G in the VAKSOG framework).
So, you can match her VAKSOG modes and tell her something like:
“We should definitely try this restaurant I know. They make fantastically tasty dishes – you can smell the spices from the street, and their apple cake is made fresh…”
A+ buddy.
You’ve just created even more rapport with her strongly, quickly and with brutal efficiency.
You have by sheer force turned her unconscious into a puppet – and you’re pulling the strings.
She is becoming attracted to you without even realizing it. See how easy it gets?
And guess what?
The Friend Zone is disappearing from sight, as she starts seeing you only as a potential LOVER!
(And this, my friend, is the next level “how to make a girl fall in love with you” knowledge that you’ll never see in Pickup Artist blogs.)
Getting Out The Friend Zone Is Just The Start
So far, so good, right?
Well, it gets even better. 🙂
Because VAKSOG is just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to the “Mind Control” style of attracting women.
(We are drawing a distinction between what we do, and Pickup Artist junk that clutters the Internet these days.)
And if you’re not familiar with Mind Control, then understand that it is fundamentally different from cookie cutter “Pickup Artist” or “Dating Guru” advice in at least three ways:
- Mind Control is about Enslavement, not Seduction. You’ll seek to enslave a woman emotionally to you, not just “seducing” her.
- Mind Control is about the long-term. Sure, you can use Mind Control techniques to fuck that skank you met at the bar, but that’ll be like bring a nuclear bomb to a gunfight.
- Mind Control is about one woman at a time. It’s all about focus and dedication. If you’re out trying to “pick up” ten women at the same time then it may not be suitable for you. Unless you have the libido of a Greek God.
Here’s a taster of what’s inside the Mind Control body of knowledge:
- Advanced Mirroring – a powerful sequence that can make any woman fall in love in less than 10 minutes (crazy powerful stuff)
- Truth Camouflage – this will make her take anything (yes, anything) you say to her as the truth!
- Barnum Statements – killer cold reading techniques that will make her think: “Gawd, he really understands me!”
- October Man Sequence – the legendary pattern which makes a woman fall in love in 15 minutes, flat
- Boyfriend Destroyer – she has a boyfriend? She won’t anymore after you apply this gem of a technique…
And many more – tried and tested, and ready for you to apply successfully.
The choice is yours:
You can continue being the “friend” of women. You know, one of the many. Good luck! 🙂
Or… you can choose to be a rare find and take up the smarter option – be the MAN who will enslave her mind and seduce her body.
Choose the second option. You know it makes sense.
Take the first step by signing up for the online Mind Control Masterclass –
Click Here
Just follow the instructions on that page and you’ll be all set.
Over and out,
P.S. By the way, using the VAKSOG technique I’ve shared with you above, Cody told me that Penelope has fallen. And Cody assures me her bed is very comfortable 🙂
Frequently Asked Questions
How To Get Out Of The Friend Zone Fast?
Here’s the truth: you can’t hurry the process.
Getting out of the friend zone takes time. You see, it’s not a trivial task to “switch” a woman’s perception of you inside her mind.
Despite what “Pickup Artist” ebooks say, there’s no magic bullet you can use that can immediately propel you out of the friend zone.
Having said that, however, there are certain things that you can do today which can kick start the process of “reframing” your perception (from friend to boyfriend) in her mind.
Follow these steps:
- From now on, match her VAKSOG modes when talking to her. Read the article above in its entirety to find out what this means.
- Use Fractionation on her. Everything you need to know is in this online Masterclass.
How To Get Out Of The Friend Zone With Your Best Friend?
Look: being a girl’s “best friend” is possibly the worst thing that you can do.
Being seen as a “friend” is shitty enough when you’ve got romantic feelings for her. Being her “BEST friend” is almost like a death sentence!
All is not lost, however…
Here’s what you need to do. First things first: learn all about VAKSOG mode matching by reading the entire article above. You’ll then have the skills to build REAL sexual rapport (as opposed to fake “BEST FRIEND” rapport which is killing you).
Then, use the “Incite Jealousy” tactic on her.
The full technique is inside Shogun Method, but here’s the simpler version of what to do:
- Reduce your contact with her. When she calls or texts you, respond much, much later. Just tell her you’re busy.
- Act as if you’re out there having a social life which is separate from her. Go out with as many women as you can. Take pictures and post them on Facebook.
- Ask her for “dating advice”. Say that you’re interested in a certain “Mandy”, and ask her to help you attract her.
This works better if she knows who “Mandy” is – this will fire up the competitive streak in her like never before.
Before anything, she’ll start to see you in a whole different light. Trust me on this.
How To Tell If You Are In The Friend Zone?
Here are the top ten signs that you’re in the friend zone with a woman:
- She calls you up for relationship advice
- She talks to you about OTHER guys
- She asks you to “hang out”… but only when she is dateless
- She tells you “you’re different”
- She’s completely relaxed around you
- She tries to set you up with ANOTHER woman
- You’re always doing the thing that she wants to do (not the other way around)
- She introduces you to other people as her “friend”
- She asks you to do things for her – like, help her move her furniture, or to fix her toilet
- There’s zero touching involved
How many do you score? Let’s be real now… even one is one too many.
For a more comprehensive guide, click here – Friend Zone Signs.
How To Get From Friend To Girlfriend?
When you’re seen as a “friend”, the rapport that you have with a woman is called “Contextual Rapport”. In order to be seen as more than a friend, you will need to break Contextual Rapport (or “Friendly Rapport”) and replace it with sexual Rapport.
We go in length about Contextual Rapport inside Shogun Method (page 127 in the Second Edition), but here’s one powerful way to break it: Fractionation.
With Fractionation, you’ll bring her through an emotional roller coaster where she will experience both happiness and sadness through storytelling. You can learn how to use this technique (as well as a slew of other industrial strength Mind Control tactics) in our online Masterclass.
How To Get Out Of The Friend Zone With An Ex?
So you’ve broken up and now she wants to keep you around as a “friend”?
Call bullshit.
Why stick around and be her emotional tampon? It makes no goddamn sense at all.
Your choices are clear:
- Move the fuck on, or
- Do all you can to get her back.
And if you want to make her come back to you, then agreeing to be her “friend” is, frankly, stupid.
The smart thing to do is to go balls to the wall and use Mind Control techniques on her. Don’t be a pussy!
Watch this Masterclass and you’ll be on your way to get her back in your life as your lover, not a “friend”.
Dear Derek
Hello Sensei Derek. This is Roxic The Dark Shogun from The West again appearing. The Brent Becks Blues Story Is a truly an inspiration to my self and many others who have read the story. Like I saying my scenario is worse than Brent’s. This girl who is a hot Mexican nurse who I’ve known for about 6 six years now. Doesn’t look at me as desirable anymore. My attraction for her has died. She just treated me cold last time I saw her and it was like she didn’t see like she before. Not even as a friend! Its true and it really SUCKS! I hate the Friend Zone, nobody wants you and nobody likes you Friend Zone. Using VAKSOG modes will take me a while to learn because I have a hard time listening to the words somebody uses. Ive tried practicing with other girls who have no value, but in the end everything has to do with your SVG. Apparently I’m not worth her time and she just wont let me bring any Sexual Rapport with her. Part of it is because I miss the opportunity when I had the chance to ask out, but I just didn’t do it. I felt like I couldn’t trust at all, put it this way she might have been playing the whole time and only wanted my money. She seemed very concern and interest me when we would talk at her job as a cashier at a recycling center. One time I decided to park my car outside her business so her boss wouldn’t see me, and she came up to me. We talked an hour and 20 minutes. Of course she gave a shit test, by asking me if I had met other girls at the Coach Festival. You see back then I didn’t have Shogun with me…I was totally helpless and unable to do anything. Probably back and now…she would of been lucky enough to have me as her BF but nope….NEVER HAPPEN. One day I go back to her location were she works. The next you know the place is completely shut down! For 6 months I would go check and see if this place would be opened, but no luck. I had to think fast! What I did was I had decided to cope my targets major as a nurse. I had to get another degree as a nurse to deploy shogun on my target. Ill tell you this…I had copped a shogun sequence from Fredo Hills YouTube Channel its called the Jakyle Me Hide Sequence on my target. She seemed not to be interest in the sequence which I would say went down flat and then used my FIRST IMPLANTED COMMAND and it landed. We had talked for about 10 to 15minutes and had showed her pictures of my dog and had already fallen in love with my dog. Told her I could cook, as a matter I had dress up all nice with a black suit and pants, which got into hot mode. Made her think that I was working, in those moments felt the rapport was good and might have used VAKSOG modes with her without even realizing it, she felt like I understood her and was very agreeable. I could she wanted to ask out to eat with that Saturday afternoon, but I disqualified her immediately and that might have fucked it up for me, and didn’t touch back then. Even worse when she wanted a huge I didn’t do it. So I lost my chances, even If I would have asked out she probably would of just seen me as nothing more than a stranger that’s it! That’s when a couple of months later I had gone to her job place and it was closed for good, that’s when I decided to follow my target by going back to school and copy her major as a nurse. If you read my other posting then you can connect this story with the other one I had here. Thanks for reading my long ass message! Fuck the Friend Zone!