“A Girl Is Playing Hard To Get With Me. What Should I Do?”
OK, so you’re here to look for signs that she’s playing hard to get with you. Is she playing hard to get or just plain uninterested? Well, we’ll get to that in a moment, but first, answer this question –
Have you ever experienced something like this:
- A woman you secretly like suddenly flirts with you…
- But when you flirt back, she suddenly withdraws or pulls away…
- Then, when you stop flirting or get out of touch for a while, she starts flirting with you again!
Think of the times in your life when a woman played this “hard-to-get” game on you.
Now think about this: What happened to your relationships with those women?
Let me guess: Mostly nothing…
- She might have stopped seeing you the moment you flirted back
- She might have immediately hooked up with another guy after flirting with you
- The flirting may have gone back and forth for a while, then slowed down, then stopped completely
- You might have gotten into a relationship with her, but it quickly ended soon after
- Or some other confusing, frustrating outcome
Even I’ll admit – when a girl plays hard-to-get with you, it can be frustrating and confusing.
Well, guess what? This article will dispel that confusion and frustration for you, once and for all. Dig in!
Table of Contents
- “A Girl Is Playing Hard To Get With Me. What Should I Do?”
- Is She Playing Hard To Get Or Not Interested?
- Why Do Women Play Hard To Get?
- So How Do You PASS the Test?
- Three Signs She’s Playing Hard To Get With You
- How To Deal With A Woman’s Mind Games
- Enslave Her.
Is She Playing Hard To Get Or Not Interested?
Here’s the deal with women who play “hard to get” with you…
Because what was REALLY happening between you and those women in your past was this:
Each of those women secretly DESIRED you.
One more time, think about each of those women who played hard-to-get with you in the past.
Now realize this: There’s a very high probability that each of those women actually WANTED you. Romantically, sexually, or both.
Believe it or not – it’s true!
Now, you might be wondering:
“Wait – if she really wanted me, why didn’t she just tell me? Why’d she have to play those mind games with me?”
This article will explain why. And then, it’ll teach you EXACTLY WHAT TO DO when a woman plays hard-to-get with you in the future.
Or better yet: Is there a woman in your life who’s playing hard-to-get with you RIGHT NOW?
Want to learn how to make her go on a date with you… or have sex with you… or even become your next girlfriend?
Then be sure to pay close attention!
First of all, let’s understand the problem a little better…
Why Do Women Play Hard To Get?
So why DO women play hard-to-get with a guy they secretly want?
Here’s the answer:
Because they’re TESTING him.
Basically, women play hard-to-get to see whether a guy is the alpha male as he appears to be. They try to make him CHASE them.
But here’s the kicker.
When a girl plays hard-to-get with you, and then you end up CHASING her…
…then you actually FAIL the test!
Because here’s a core fact of male-female interactions:
The one who’s being chased is the one who has the power.
Now here’s a question: Do you think women feel attracted to a guy who’s LESS powerful than them?
Of course not. And that’s why when you chase a woman, you FAIL the test.
Sometimes, a woman likes you so much that she’ll give you a second chance.
And heck, maybe even a third chance.
And so on.
Here’s the rule of thumb:
The longer a woman plays hard-to-get with you, the more she wants you.
But… the more you chase her, the more you fail the test.
And that leads us to the million-dollar question…
So How Do You PASS the Test?
To pass the test, you’ll need to do one thing first:
You’ll need to find out if she’s REALLY playing hard-to-get… and isn’t just being friendly with you.
Because rarely, a girl is just overly friendly with you. And sometimes, you can misinterpret her friendliness as flirting.
And when a girl is just being friendly to you, you shouldn’t move too fast.
Instead, if you want her to like you in a romantic/sexual way, you’ll need to move a bit more slowly.
(Because otherwise, she’ll get scared or offended, and stay away from you for good.)
So how can you tell if a girl is REALLY playing hard-to-get with you?
Then watch out for these three signs…
Three Signs She’s Playing Hard To Get With You
Hard-To-Get Sign #1: She’s Hot-and-Cold.
If she’s just being friendly, and you tried flirting with her a bit, she’ll turn cold, and STAY cold. She won’t go hot again.
But if she goes cold, and then goes hot again… she’s playing hard-to-get.
Hard-To-Get Sign #2: She Never Tells You She’s “Not Interested.”
If she’s just friendly and you flirted with her, she’ll tell you she’s not interested – politely or otherwise.
But if she’s being evasive and mysterious… she’s playing hard-to-get.
Hard-to-Get Sign #3: She Randomly Mentions the Other Guys in Her Life.
If she’s just being friendly, she wouldn’t care about you enough to tell you about the other guys in her life.
But if she’s telling you about her “other guys,” she’s trying to judge your reaction, and she’s trying to make you chase her.
If you see any of these three signs: Then it’s confirmed – she’s likely playing hard-to-get with you.
If you like her too…
And if you want to date her, have sex with her, or start a relationship with her…
Then you’ll need to PASS her tests… and with flying colors.
You’ll learn how to do that next… continue reading!
How To Deal With A Woman’s Mind Games
To pass her test, first, you’ll need to understand how the entire dating or attraction process works.
(Forget what you already know… this is entirely different from those flawed “Pickup Artist” theories you see elsewhere.)
This is the process that every male-female interaction goes through. It starts from the first meeting all the way to the lifelong relationship.
Of course, not all male-female relationships go through the entire process. You know, the full nine yards.
In fact, most of them fail at some point. And guess what? if you chase your girl, your relationship with her will fail, too.
So, don’t make that mistake!
The IRAE Model
First of all, understand that the dating process has four distinct stages:
- The INTRIGUE stage, where she first notices you and feels intrigued by you…
- The RAPPORT stage, where she gets to like you, trust you, and feel comfortable with you…
- The ATTRACTION stage, where she starts feeling romantically/sexually attracted to you…
- And the ENSLAVEMENT stage, where she falls in love with you so much she spends the rest of her life with you.
This process is also called the IRAE Model, which is the framework for my teachings in Shogun Method.
(IRAE stands for Intrigue – Rapport – Attract – Enslave.)
Here’s the deal…
If a girl is playing hard-to-get with you, then your interaction is probably at the THIRD stage already.
You caught her attention and interest at the INTRIGUE stage…
She learned to like, trust, and feel comfortable with you at the RAPPORT stage…
And now, she secretly feels sexually and/or romantically attracted to you. She’s at the ATTRACTION stage. (Or, Stage 3 in the IRAE Model.)
Warning! This Is Where Most Guys Fuck Shit Up
Pay attention, because this is important.
This is where things go HORRIBLY wrong for most guys…
When guys chase a girl who’s playing hard-to-get with them, then they basically give HER the power.
They basically BECOME ENSLAVED to her.
Which, of course, is a HUGE mistake! SHE is supposed to feel enslaved by YOU, and not the other way around!
If you make this mistake, you break the dating/seduction process. It dies at the Attraction stage. The flirting ends, the sex doesn’t happen, and the relationship never takes root.
What a waste!
So here’s the ONLY way to pass her test:
Here’s the only way to pass a girl’s “hard-to-get” test:
Bring your relationship to the ENSLAVEMENT stage of the process.
(Or, in Shogun Method terminology, you’ve got to complete the IRAE process.)
In other words, you’ll need to make her feel so emotionally addicted to you, that:
- She’ll stop playing hard-to-get and other mind games
- She’ll reveal how madly and deeply she’s really in love with you
- She’ll gladly date you, have sex with you, and even become your lifelong partner
And that’s what you can expect when you’ve successfully ENSLAVED her to you emotionally.
Here’s the catch…
Now, it’s impossible to learn the entire IRAE Model in a short blog article…
…but luckily, you don’t have to.
Instead, you just have to learn the ONE BASIC SKILL behind all four stages of the process.
That skill is Fractionation.
Fractionation isn’t a pickup artist (PUA) trick, by the way. It’s a skill that’s rooted in human psychology, hypnotherapy, mind control, and social science.
Fractionation is the same technique that’s being used by:
- Powerful politicians who lead nations
- Famous celebrities who change public influence
- Global brands that build die-hard followings
- Hotshot salespeople who score sale after sale
- Successful entrepreneurs who start one successful business after another
- Popular TV show producers who create hordes of raving fans
And yes – Fractionation is what will let you ENSLAVE your woman. You’ll make her so addicted to your strength, leadership, power, and dominance.
To learn how Fractionation works – and to use it to make your woman chase you instead, do this:
Request an invite for my free Fractionation Masterclass today by clicking this link:
Remember this –
In all of your interactions with women, the one being chased is the one who has the power.
When you master Fractionation, women will be chasing YOU… for the rest of your life.
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I’ll see you at the Masterclass,