Loving Someone Who Doesn’t Love You – Gary’s Story
It was 8 pm. My phone was ringing.
“Are you busy? I need to talk to someone.”
The voice on the other end was one of my ex-students. Since I’d last seen Gary, he had met “the one” and gotten married.
“I’ve never been so unhappy,” he said.
“What? What do you mean?”
“My wife hates me. I’m miserable. I do everything for her, but it’s never enough. All she does is complain.”
He paused and I could hear tears in his voice. “And now that we’re married and living together, I’m trapped.”
“But I thought you two were in love? How can she just change?”
“That’s not it. I changed. In the beginning, I did everything you told me. But over time, I relaxed. I got sloppy. I started doing whatever she wanted.But it doesn’t work. Our relationship has gotten worse.”
Gary had once been my student. Now he was a friend who needed someone to talk to. He hadn’t kept up his long-term relationship game. And now he was paying for it.
“I love her but I want her to treat me with respect and kindness.”
“I Love Someone Who Doesn’t Love Me Back. What Do I Do?”
Table of Contents
- 1 Loving Someone Who Doesn’t Love You – Gary’s Story
- 2 Biggest Lie In “Dating” You’ll Ever Hear
- 3 Is She Playing You?
- 4 Should You Dump Her?
- 5 You Need To Enslave, Not “Seduce” Her
- 6 How To Enslave A Woman To You Emotionally
- 7 “If You Do What You’ve Always Done, You’ll Get What You’ve Always Gotten”
- 8 Frequently Asked Questions
Biggest Lie In “Dating” You’ll Ever Hear
“This relationship has to be 50-50” is the biggest load of bullshit ever uttered by women.
Relationships work best when the balance is 55-45, or 60-40, favoring the man.
It’s biology. It’s true whether feminists and modern women want it to be or not.
Want to hear another doozy?
How about this…
“Happy wife, happy life.”
Whoever coined that phrase was either a woman who couldn’t articulate her own attraction switches, or a man who had no idea about female psychology.
Fact: There are no perfect relationships. But the best relationships are those where the man leads.
It’s why relationships worked better for our parents, and grandparents, generation. It’s also why the divorce rate is sky-high these days.
“Relationships take work,” Cosmo and relationship gurus tell us.
No, they don’t.
If you’re doing your job as a man – taking charge and leading your woman – they’re easy.
Is She Playing You?
Do any of these apply to your relationship?
- She disrespects you in public
You’ve lost value and respect.
- She compares you to her girlfriends’ boyfriends
If she’s assessing other guys to see how you measure up, you’re in trouble.
- She bitches at you for even minor offenses
Love blinds us to people’s flaws. If she’s nagging you over every tiny thing, the love is gone.
- You try to please her but her requests get even more unreasonable
You feel like you’re negotiating with a terrorist.
If any of these apply to you, you’ve lost the upper hand. You’ve been emasculated.
But don’t feel bad – it happens to us all.
(Yes, it happened to me, once upon a time, before I turned into this dating superguru that you now know.)
You were strong in the beginning of the relationship. You needed to be strong to attract her. You were indifferent, charming, exciting, and dominant.
But over time you grew more comfortable and started to backslide.
It’s a slow creep. Like boiling a frog, you don’t realize what’s happening until it’s too late.
Now you’re terrified she’ll leave you. And I bet she’s been using that threat often. Even if she doesn’t verbally threaten to leave you, she’s already showing signs that she is moving on.
Should You Dump Her?
Faced with this state of affairs, many dating gurus will tell you to “Next” her and find a new woman.
I disagree. You’ve invested a lot, you still love her, and you want to make it work.
The good news is you can turn it around.
The bad news is you can’t do it by trying to please her or fix the relationship – that just throws water on the fire.
You need to look at YOU and change YOU: Remember our golden rule – you lead, she follows.
The closer you become to a domineering, chauvinist pig, the more she will be devoted to you. And the easier your relationship will be to manage, and the more enjoyable life will be.
Yes, you read that right.
If that truth makes you uncomfortable, ask yourself:
“Which has been around longer: political correctness or evolution?”
You Need To Enslave, Not “Seduce” Her
Look here… I’m not here to teach you some lame “Pickup Artist” tricks you can use to collect a notch. This is a lifestyle. It’s not about pretending to be somebody you’re not to get a lay.
It’s about being a different man, today and for the rest of your life.
Guys come to me when they’ve had enough of collecting notches. “Pickup” can be fun but most guys want to settle down with one girl.
It’s great to have somebody to care for you when you’re sick. Somebody to cuddle with at night. Right?
There’s no better feeling in the world than loving and being loved.
But love doesn’t last.
That’s why you need Enslavement.
Yes, you read that right. Girls fall in and out of love. It’s fickle, but enslavement is consistent.
The way you avoid losing your girlfriend or wife is by focusing on yourself and learning to enslave her.
What you will learn from my methods (as opposed to useless Pickup Artist trickery) – and the man you become, will stay with you for life.
The skill set that you’ll acquire from Shogun Method (I’ll let you know what Shogun Method is in a moment) – they are yours to keep – no matter what happens.
You could get married, or get dumped. But nobody can take your Shogun Method skills from you – no unreasonable woman, no divorce court, nothing.
Does that sound good to you?
How To Enslave A Woman To You Emotionally
The IRAE Model
The core of Shogun Method is what we call the “roadmap” to the Enslavement of a woman: the IRAE Model.
It maps the simple process of reaching the end point where you can completely enslave a woman to you emotionally:
- Step 1: Intrigue her (Stage “I”)
- Step 2: Build Rapport with her (Stage “R”)
- Step 3: Develop Attraction (Stage “A”)
- Step 4: Enslave her (Stage “E”)
As you can see, Enslavement is the last step of the IRAE Model.
You can’t suddenly start making demands in your relationship and upsetting the dynamic. As you can see in the IRAE Model above, it’s a process. It’s a process that any motivated person can learn and master in relatively short time.
It’s not a magic bullet, but it’s certainly not rocket science, either.
The IRAE Model is described entirely inside the Shogun Method, and is beyond this article. There is, however, a “quick and dirty” technique which you can use to replicate the Enslavement effect quickly – and that technique is Fractionation.
Despite its rather esoteric name, Fractionation is pretty much used everywhere.
Master salespeople, best-selling authors, and Hollywood script writers have used Fractionation in their wares for decades. And you know what? When you stay up till 3 am watching an entire series of your favorite show on Netflix, it’s Fractionation that keeps you hooked.
So what’s Fractionation?
Simply put, Fractionation is essentially storytelling which follows a very specific structure. (I’ll share with you what this structure is shortly.)
Some good news…
Fractionation is storytelling, but you don’t need to dedicate your life to being a writer to learn it. If you take a look at our free online Masterclass, you could be applying it tonight.
Yes, literally tonight.
With Fractionation, you’ll be pulling your woman through a roller coaster of emotions so she becomes addicted to you.
There’s something I’ll need to warn you about though…
Fractionation is a powerful technique, and so you need to know what you’re doing or you could mess a girl up.
But if you do it right, you can say goodbye to head games, hot/cold behaviors, and drama. She’ll be too caught up in your manufactured drama.
But the difference is that you’ll be handling the drama with ease. You’ll be the puppet master. You’ll be the author behind your very own love story. You can make the characters do exactly what you want.
Imagine if you had that power.
Feels good, right?
Through Shogun Method, I turn guys around and help them revive a flagging relationship. You’ll learn the proven, step-by-step process on how to make your ex want you back. And the first step in the process is Fractionation.
Shogun Method is a Ph.D. in the Enslavement and relationship game. But just like an academic Ph.D. is spread out over 4-5 years, I won’t throw the whole syllabus at you right now. I’m offering you the first class – Fractionation.
Click the link below and to watch the Online Masterclass on using Fractionation to turn the tables on a woman, shift the balance of power back towards you, and save the relationship:-
But beware – it’s a powerful tool. All powerful tools – from a hammer to fire – can be used to help or harm.
“If You Do What You’ve Always Done, You’ll Get What You’ve Always Gotten”
Your relationship is going down the path of mutually assured destruction.
You can’t change what’s happened but you have the choice right now to course correct.
Are you passively accepting how things are? Or are you going to be proactive and write your own love story?
You can do nothing or do something.
Either way, it’s a choice.
Frequently Asked Questions
How To Stop Loving Someone Who Doesn’t Love You Anymore?
To answer that question, do a quick sanity check:
Is she worth it or not?
If you love her, then she’s worth fighting for.
And guess what? Reviving a relationship is pretty straightforward if you know exactly what needs to be done.
The same IRAE process applies – Intrigue, Rapport, Attract, Enslave. Follow these four steps and you’ll rekindle that lost passion in her for you in no time at all.
Letting Go Of Someone Who Doesn’t Want You – How?
Look: we rarely ask any of our readers to “give up” or “let go” for one simple reason:
It’s pretty easy to get an ex-wife or girlfriend back as long as you do exactly what I say.
This has worked for more than 1,000+ guys that I have coached (both face-to-face and online) – and there’s a high chance that it will work for you.
It’s just a matter of having faith in the process, and then do what I tell you – with DISCIPLINE.
So, here’s the deal: I know jack shit about “letting go” and dealing with your own emotional turmoil. Frankly, I ain’t here to help you wallow in your self pity.
But, if you’ll put on your big boy pants and do whatever it takes to get her back, then I’m here to help. First, watch this online Masterclass and then we’ll figure out what to do next.
In short: forget “letting go”, and start “getting her back”.
Signs She Doesn’t Love You Anymore – What Are Those?
You think she doesn’t love you anymore? Well, to know for sure, just look out for these top ten “tell tale” signs that she has moved on:
- She has become indifferent to you. In other words, she just doesn’t give a shit anymore.
- She starts being mean to you – both in private, and in front of other people.
- She posts more frequently on Facebook or Instagram (a very telling sign that she’s out fishing for someone else).
- She starts playing mind games on you.
- She has stopped saying “I Love You”.
- She has been emotionally distant even when making love.
- She would be annoyed with small things, and use those as excuses to insult you and be demeaning to you.
- Everything you do doesn’t seem to be enough for her.
- She prefers to go out on her own or hang out with her friends than to spend time with you.
- She starts to flake on you… canceling dates at the very last minute.
Hardly a comprehensive list, but if you see any (or more) of the above in your woman, then ring the alarm bells.
What To Do When The Person You Love Loves Someone Else?
Obvious answer: make her love the other guy less.
Even better – make her fucking HATE him.
And yes, this can be done, absolutely. It’s entirely possible to “erase” a woman’s love for another man. It has been done. And you can learn how to do it.
Of course, these techniques are, frankly, pretty nasty. And I’ll be completely frank with you here: – not many guys have the balls to do it. The weaker ones usually complain to me that these are “mean” (true), “evil” (maybe), and “women-hating” (not true at all).
So, I’ll let you decide. Watch this online Masterclass where you’ll learn how to use Mind Control to enslave a woman emotionally to you, and at the same time, destroy that fucking jerk who stole your woman.