“Is She Using Me, Or Does She Like Me?”
Have you ever felt “used” by a woman?
Or worse… are you dating a woman who’s just “using” you RIGHT NOW?
A good percentage of Shogun Method clients come to me BECAUSE of this particular problem.
For some reason, they find themselves dating a woman who seems to be “using” them.
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Using them for what? Many reasons! The five most common reasons a woman would use you for are below…
Why She Uses You – Five Reasons
- She’s a gold digger, and she wants your money
- She has approval addiction, and she wants the ego boost from the attention you give her
- She just went through a breakup, and she wants a temporary replacement… and you’re it
- She has self-esteem issues, and she wants the emotional support you give her
- She wants to make her ex jealous, and she does it by pretending to date you
And whatever it is she wants from you, she’ll do nasty, sneaky things to get it:
How She Uses You – Ten Ways
- She’ll keep secrets from you
- She’ll play mind games on you
- She’ll make you feel guilty or ashamed
- She tries to control every part of your life
- She’ll threaten to leave you
- She’ll ruin your reputation
- She’ll make you feel like the bad guy if you don’t give her what she wants
- She’ll lie, cheat, and steal… and act like a sociopath
- She acts batshit crazy to get your attention
- She acts like an asshole until she gets what she wants from you
But here’s the worst part…
You’re never sure if she’s just using you.
On one side, you love her, and you think it’s normal for couples to “use” each other sometimes…
…but at the same time, you have the nagging feeling she’s getting too needy and entitled.
What should you do?
That’s what this Shogun Method guide will show you the light.
You’re about to learn if your woman really IS using you… and what to do if she is.
Dig in!
Signs She Is Playing You (The “Is She Using Me” Quiz)
Quick recap: here are the five most common reasons your woman would use you would be the following:
- To get your money
- To get an ego boost from you
- To get a temporary replacement
- To get emotional support
- To get back at her ex
Here are the signs to watch out for…
Is She Using Me For Money?
She’s using you to get your money if she does the following four things –
- She keeps asking about your financial status
- She keeps asking for expensive gifts
- She keeps asking you to pay her debts
- She’s obsessed with status (look at her Instagram or Facebook for clues)
Is She Using Me For Attention?
She’s using you to get an ego boost from you if –
- She basks in your attention and enjoys bossing you around
- She plays mind games and tries to dominate you
- She’s showing you off to her friends
- She’s extremely hot-and-cold with you
- She gets angry if you stop paying attention to her
Is She Using Me To Get Over Her Ex?
She’s using you as a temporary replacement if –
- She keeps talking about her ex (or at least she misses him a lot)
- Your relationship feels “empty” or platonic at times
- You have the nagging feeling she just picked you out of the blue (she starts dating you almost immediately after breaking up with her ex)
- She keeps liking her ex’s Facebook or Instagram pictures
Is She Using Me For Emotional Support?
She’s using you to get emotional support if –
- She always plays the victim
- She’s super-needy, all the time
- Her happiness depends on your validation of her
- She blames everything that goes wrong in her life on you
- She complains that you’re not “there” when she needs you
Is She Using Me To Get Back At Her Ex?
She’s using you to get back at her ex if –
- She never seems to get over her ex completely
- She secretly (or worse, openly) stays in contact with him
- Your relationship is highly sexual, but she doesn’t want commitment
Here’s the cold, hard truth…
If you see any of the above signs in your own relationship, then I have some bad news for you…
You’re probably in a purely functional relationship.
You might really love her, but she’s really just using you.
Well, guess what?
Functional relationships never last.
Sorry, buddy. That sounds rather harsh, and yet it’s true.
And here’s what’s even worse:
You can’t fix the problem using the “conventional” solutions:
- If you asked her to stop using you, she might end up leaving you.
- If you don’t do anything, she’ll STILL leave you. Once she gets enough of what she wants from you, or finds another guy with more of it… see ya.
You’re stuck both ways, right?
So, if your woman is using you, is it really a lose-lose situation?
Not if you use the unconventional technique you’re about to learn from me next.
If you feel your woman is using you, but you still want to keep her, then here’s what you MUST do…
How To Make Her Stop Using You
Time for some tough love. 🙂
Here’s the root cause of why she’s getting away with using you:
You’re weak.
You’re a pushover. You’re easily manipulated. You’re someone she can control.
And if you want to make her stay, then you’ll need to make her stop seeing you as a guy she can control…
…and start seeing you as a guy she truly, madly, deeply LOVES.
You’ll need to:
- Make her stop using you, and make her start SERVING you
- Make her stop pushing you around, and make her start following your lead
- Make her feel she’d die before she’d do anything to offend you
How do you do all that?
Short answer:
By DOMINATING her.
Not by force, by the way. Instead, you dominate her MENTALLY and EMOTIONALLY.
You stop her addiction to what she’s getting from you…
…and get her addicted to YOU.
And you do that with a technique called Fractionation.
Here’s how it works and how to use it… continue reading!
How To Control And Dominate A Woman (With Fractionation)
Fractionation is a psychological manipulation technique that uses storytelling. It makes the person on the receiving end feel intensifying cycles of pressure and relief.
In other words, Fractionation will put your woman on an emotional rollercoaster.
Fractionation has been used for centuries…
- Entertainment companies use it to make shows that draw millions of addicted fans
- World leaders use it to lead millions of loyal followers
- Commercial brands use it to satisfy millions of rabid customers
And guess what? It’s Fractionation that’s going to make her stop using you, and instead feel HOPELESSLY IN LOVE with you.
Fractionation Powers Up The Shogun Method
In the cases of my Shogun Method clients who are being used by their women, I tell them to:
- Inflict some emotional pressure on their abusive girlfriend by disappearing. They don’t contact her for days, even if she frantically calls or texts them.
- Give her some emotional relief by re-establishing contact after a few days. This time, her abusive tendencies will be overpowered by her need to know what happened.
- Inflict emotional pressure again, this time by telling her: “I don’t think this is working out. I feel used in this relationship.”
(That’s Fractionation in action: you put her on an emotional rollercoaster.)
At that point, the woman usually does one of two things:
- She readily ends the relationship, which is a dead giveaway that she really WAS just using you. That’s good for you, really! You’ve proven SHE’S the bad guy in the relationship, not you.
- Or she begs for a compromise with you. She might promise never to use or hurt you again, and you’ll hold her to it. That’s ALSO good – you get to keep her, AND you’ve regained control over your relationship.
See? With Fractionation, you turn a lose-lose situation into a win-win!
Sounds great, right?
Enslavement, Not “Seduction”!
Guess what? When you do get to keep her, you don’t stop there.
Instead, you keep using Fractionation to build your dominance over her. Remember to keep striking while the iron is hot!
You can use the same pressure-relief-pressure process to:
- Let her know you’re not “tied” to her, and that you have other options in life
- Let her know that she’s not your #1 priority, and you have more important stuff going on
- Let her know you love her, but you won’t tolerate being insulted or undermined
And you don’t stop until she is emotionally enslaved to you.
(This is also how Shogun Method is different from the others. We teach ENSLAVEMENT, not “seduction”.)
My Shogun Method clients have been using this simple formula for years. The results are miraculous, believe me.
They have turned:
- Gold diggers…
- Attention-seekers…
- Habitual blamers…
- Approval addicts…
- Emotional blackmailers…
- Chronic complainers…
- And other abusive women…
…into docile, respectful, happy and 100% submissive girlfriends and wives.
Today, it’s your turn.
If you, too, are stuck in a relationship with a woman who’s using you…
…then two can play that game. You, too, can “use” her back – and create a stronger, happier, healthier relationship at the same time.
But you MUST learn Fractionation to do it. It’s the key.
Do the smart thing and learn Fractionation TODAY.
Sign up for my Online Masterclass by clicking on this link:
Request Invite For Derek Rake’s Online Masterclass
In the Masterclass, you’ll learn:
- What Fractionation is all about
- How to use Fractionation in normal everyday interactions with your woman
- How to stop her bad habits and reinforce good behavior with just your words
- Real-world examples of Fractionation in action
- And more!
In the end, just remember that if your woman is just using you…
…then you’re in a purely functional relationship. And it’s not going to last.
Unless, of course, you stop the bullshit and dominate the relationship like you’re supposed to.
And if you want to keep her at the same time, then you already know what you need.
Look – it’ll be crazy to wait until she uses you up and gets away. Learn Fractionation now!
I’ll see you in the Masterclass,
P.S: Is your woman using you? Then, let me sort you out. Leave me a message below and I will reply personally.
Your course sounds amazing. I am a middle-aged guy, pretty savvy, have had marriages and plenty of relationships. Thought I was pretty good when it comes to women. Then I fell for a much younger, very attractive girl back in January. She got to me emotionally. All of a sudden, 8 months later, I’m out thousands of dollars in cash and gifts. She’s always needy. But she never had any time for me. Too ill, too sleepy, doesn’t want to talk to anyone. Just wants to disassociate from people and life. So she said.
I got suspicious so I drove over to one of her guy friend’s houses one weekend. I saw her car parked in his driveway. Because of the time of day, I could tell it had been there all night. Sort of explained why she was never available Saturday nights and Sundays. She was always with this “guy friend.” She had told me about him before, but swore it was not a relationship, just a good friend she had known for “years and years.” Yeah, right.
I texted her, want to meet today? She texted back, “I’m home sick. Really need to get to an ER soon, but need a hundred dollars.” I said, ok, let’s meet and I’l give you the hundred. She texted back, “Not now, later. I can’t even move right now. Can’t get out of bed.” I waited a few minutes and texted, are you sure. She said, “Yea, I’ll stop by your place later for the hundred. Got to rest now.”
So I took a picture of her car in the driveway and texted it back to her with a message, “Sick at home in bed, huh?” We haven’t spoken since, and it’s been 2 weeks. Before that we talked every day. Maybe it’s over. I still have feelings for the girl but at the same time know I’ve been used. Not a good feeling. Stings like a bitch.
I know the feeling – believe me.
I’m stuck in the same long distance relationship situation sir.
I need your help!
Am in what I personally call a ‘contrast’ relationship *or spinning plates, if you will* since am dating both girls of different personality – one is extroverted (and knows about the other girl and is very accepting) while the other resonates more with introversion and more often tends to fish for assurance than excitement on her ‘crisis/crazy’ times. The extroverted of the two speaks her mind most of the time, the other I sense, likes a sort of tension game – she likes to drop flirty hints and drag info until for a later time [“I’ll tell you / do such later” she smirks]. Let me point this out though; this setup wouldn’t have been a practicality if it weren’t for your work – it really helps a lot for instance maintaining frame and provides certainty. I seek your view on this question I’ve been trying to figure out but can’t. Question: what does it really mean when she expresses the idea of tying the note (settling down). Is it a test, head games, a form of masculine-style talk? Does it spell bad news? Is the woman the one to propose and make that sort of choice?