How To Make A Relationship Stronger And Successful
Want to know how to make a relationship work for life?
So did Jay, a 43-year-old husband who became a Shogun Method client last year.
Poor Jay had already gone through two divorces. And now his third relationship seemed on its way there…
“I love Jennifer, and I want our relationship to last forever,” Jay told me about his wife.
“But lately, she’s been showing the exact same signs my first two wives showed before things went under.”
Table of Contents
- 1 How To Make A Relationship Stronger And Successful
- 2 Signs Your Relationship Is Failing
- 3 How To Make A Relationship Work – For Real
- 4 How To Make A Relationship Work When It’s Falling Apart – Ten Rules To Obey
- 4.1 Rule #1: Make Her Chase You.
- 4.2 Rule #2: Don’t Say “I Love You” First.
- 4.3 Rule #3: Let Her See You Have Options.
- 4.4 Rule #4: Be The Rock In Your Relationship.
- 4.5 Rule #5: Never Let Her Figure You Out
- 4.6 Rule #6: Have Irrational Confidence In Yourself
- 4.7 Rule #7: Have A Purpose Greater Than Her
- 4.8 Rule #8: You Make The Rules
- 4.9 Rule #9: Be Ready To Walk Away
- 4.10 Rule #10: Put Her On Emotional Rollercoasters
- 5 YES DEREK: Teach Me How To Give Her Emotional Rollercoasters
Signs Your Relationship Is Failing
Jay then told me the signs:
- She was becoming much harder to please
- She was becoming more manipulative… like a female sociopath
- She was becoming more critical of everything he did
- She was becoming more disrespectful
- She was acting crazy in stressful situations
She was turning into a dominant woman who is taking charge of the relationship.
“Worst of all, the more I try to make things work, the more things fall apart,” Jay told me.
“What should I do, Derek? I don’t think I can live through another divorce! Please… teach me how to make a relationship work.”
In this Shogun Method guide, you’ll discover the same advice I gave Jay that day…
…and how it made him understand relationships on a deeper level…
…and how it saved and strengthened his marriage…
…and how you, too, can lead a strong, happy relationship that lasts a lifetime.
And no, you won’t find any “Oprah advice” in this guide.
How To Make A Relationship Work – For Real
What’s “Oprah advice,” you ask?
It’s the feel-good bullshit that goes around the media these days:
- You must make your wife feel like a queen!
- You should never look at another woman!
- You should always do more for the relationship than your wife!
- You should treat her as your equal!
Guess what? This is the crap that CAUSES divorces.
If you’ve ever followed any of the above advice (or similar) – then you’ve been duped.
You weren’t making your relationship work – you were digging its grave.
Here’s the deal…
“Oprah advice” might be good for getting audiences to clap and hug strangers. It might be good for ratings and clicks and “Likes” on Facebook…
…but you know what? It DOES NOT work in real life.
Think of it this way:
50-70 years ago, when “equality” wasn’t the norm, only 10% of marriages ended in divorce.
Today, where “equality” is a buzzword… a whopping 45-55% of all marriages end in divorce.
In relationships and marriages, equality is a death trap.
And if you want your own relationship to work, you’ll need to change your mindset.
When Jay told me his problem, that’s exactly what I told him. And to help him along, I gave him ten new relationship rules to follow.
And if you want your relationship to work out, too… then take notes…
How To Make A Relationship Work When It’s Falling Apart – Ten Rules To Obey
Rule #1: Make Her Chase You.
Bottom line: don’t be a suck-up.
At all times, you’ll want your wife to feel that if the relationship failed, SHE would have more to lose than you.
She’ll lose her security, her happiness, her validation, her purpose, etc.
How to do that?
Simple. Make her chase you.
Here’s the “Golden Ratio” to follow –
Make sure that at all times, you’re doing (at most) 40% of the work. She should do (at least) 60%.
If she texts you three times, you text her back twice. Something like that.
The more people invest in something, the more they value it. It’s true.
You’ll want her to value you and your relationship as much as she can. So… get her to invest in you.
Rule #2: Don’t Say “I Love You” First.
Yes, it’s important to show your affection. (Well, not too often, anyway.)
But here’s the deal: you shouldn’t be the first one to show it. (Not all the time, anyway.)
This ties into the first rule: the one who says “I love you” first is the one who’s more invested.
And again, you want HER to be more invested than you.
Rule #3: Let Her See You Have Options.
By “options,” I mean other women.
Your woman needs to know that if she did leave you, you’ll likely be in another relationship before too long.
Now, this doesn’t mean you should go out and start seeing other women. Doesn’t make any sense, right?
Instead, keep meeting your friends.
Keep building your network.
Don’t subscribe to the piece of “Oprah advice” that says you shouldn’t look at other women EVER.
This lets your woman think she’s LUCKY to have you.
And when she feels that way, she’ll do everything she can to keep you.
Rule #4: Be The Rock In Your Relationship.
You’re the man. You’re the leader. You’re the head of the household.
Don’t EVER relinquish these roles to your woman, even if she challenges you for them. You must always dominate your woman.
Because let’s face it – if you’re weak, she can’t respect you.
If she can’t respect you, she can’t love you.
And if she can’t love you, there’s no reason for her to stay.
Don’t let that happen. Be the rock you need to be. Don’t be a pushover.
Rule #5: Never Let Her Figure You Out
One of the reasons she fell in love with you the first place?
You were dark.
You were addicting.
You were like a puzzle she couldn’t figure out.
But once she figures you out… guess what? She’ll get bored. And out of boredom comes frustration.
My advice? Never let it get to that point.
Don’t be upfront about everything. Don’t be 100% open.
If she needs to know, let her know.
But if she doesn’t, keep it close to the vest.
Also, never give her direct answers (unless it’s a “no”).
Rule #6: Have Irrational Confidence In Yourself
Super important – you MUST have irrational, ridiculous confidence in yourself.
Most guys make the mistake of wanting to be 100% right about something before saying or doing it.
Most guys are afraid of offending other people.
Don’t be like most guys.
Even if you’re just 70-80% sure you’re right about something, do it anyway.
Even if it makes you look jerk-y or douche-y.
Ever wondered why women love jerks and douchebags?
This is one of the reasons.
You’re the captain of your ship. Your woman is the first mate. And she needs the captain to know where he’s taking the relationship and how to get there.
If you don’t have that kind of confidence, she’s going to jump ship. Believe me.
Rule #7: Have A Purpose Greater Than Her
To make your relationship work, here’s the number one requirement:
You need a purpose in life.
And that purpose should be greater than simply making your woman happy.
Because if you DON’T have a purpose, what happens is your WOMAN becomes your purpose.
And women HATE that.
When you make her your purpose in life, you’re basically breaking all six previous rules at once
- You’re chasing her (Rules #1 and #2)
- You don’t have any other options (Rule #3)
- You’re not the rock – she is (Rule #4)
- She figures you out completely (Rule #5)
- You don’t zero confidence in your own ability (Rule #6)
Don’t have a purpose greater than her?
Find one quick… before your relationship goes to the dogs.
Rule #8: You Make The Rules
Remember the analogy of being the captain of your ship?
It bears repeating. You’re the captain. You set the destination, you set the course, and you make the rules for the relationship.
The more you give your authority to her, the more she’ll hate you. It’s true!
Rule #9: Be Ready To Walk Away
This ties into Rule #3 (having options). Sometimes it’s not enough to have options.
Lots of guys pretend to have lots of options in their lives. But deep inside they’re terrified of losing their woman.
Don’t be like that. You’ll have to be willing to lose her.
For one, by having a greater purpose than her.
If, for instance, her bad behavior is holding you back from achieving your greater purpose…
…then you have to be ready to walk away anytime.
This protects you from one of women’s most powerful techniques: Emotional blackmail.
When she knows she can’t blackmail you into doing something she wants, she’ll either:
- Leave you (good riddance); or
- Stand down, apologize, and go back to her respectful, submissive self again
Either way, you win.
So again: Be willing to lose her. Be ready to walk anytime.
Rule #10: Put Her On Emotional Rollercoasters
If you could follow only one rule out of the ten… I suggest you follow THIS one.
Emotional rollercoasters – they’re what women need most of all…
…and that’s not just in their relationships, but also in their everyday lives.
The female mind is wired to respond totally and completely to emotional rollercoasters. It’s something Mother Nature hard-wired into the female psyche over time…
Women want emotional rollercoasters. They need them. They look for them.
And they CREATE them if they can’t find them.
Ever wondered why women love drama so much?
Or why women can be so dramatic, especially when the relationship seems to be going well?
Guess what – it’s their need for emotional rollercoasters. They’re not getting enough of it, so they create some of it.
But when a woman DOES get enough emotional rollercoasters in her life…
- She’s completely happy
- She’s 100% satisfied
- She keeps her drama to a bare minimum
- She respects her man’s authority
- She follows his lead at all times
- She’s never critical
- She’s never offended
- She’ll never leave him
Here’s what’s interesting…
If you simply knew how to give your woman emotional rollercoasters…
…then you immediately satisfy all the other nine rules.
And when you make your woman go through emotional rollercoasters,
- She’ll chase you.
- She’ll show her affection first.
- She knows you have options, and so works extra hard to keep you.
- She’ll see you as the rock she can’t move.
- She’ll never figure you out completely – and she loves the fact.
- Shell be put completely at ease by your unshakable confidence.
- She’ll attach herself to your greater purpose.
- She’ll follow your rules.
- She’ll hang on to you for dear life.
- She’ll be the loving, submissive wife that you’ve always wanted.
Sounds great, right?
And the best part?
You can master how to give your woman emotional rollercoasters TODAY.
Sign up for my Online Masterclass on Mind Control. In the Masterclass, I’ll share with you some simple techniques you can use to make her emotionally addicted to you.
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Oh, and an update about Jay and Jennifer…
Everything worked out great for him. After following the ten rules, he told that me his relationship has never been easier and more enjoyable.
Guess what? Your relationship can be just as easy and enjoyable, too.
(If Jay could do it, so can you. Believe me.)
But here’s the catch, though…
You MUST learn how to give your woman emotional rollercoasters. It’s the key.
I’ll see you in the Masterclass,
P.S: Questions? Comments? Need help? Let me know below and I’ll answer personally.