How To Stop Being A Nice Guy

(Or, How To Stop Being A Nice Guy Without Being A Jerk)

Dear Derek,

I was hoping you may be able to help me. 

I have been single for over two years. Even though I have done my best to approach many lovely women, I cannot seem to find a girlfriend. I have made many female friends in the process, which has been nice, but…

Meet Jon. The classic “Mr. Nice Guy”.

That wasn’t the end of Jon’s email (he was only getting warmed up) but it was at this point that I could see the problem.

Nice Guy Jon was getting friend-zoned every time he tried to approach a woman.

In short, Nice Guy Jon was being too, well, nice.

He was operating from the honesty is the best policy maxim.

He was wearing his heart on his sleeve every time he approached a woman.

It sounds great in theory. But, unfortunately, that’s not how women’s minds work.

I know what you’re thinking: This is bad news for Nice Guy Jon. And yet guess what… it doesn’t have to be!

There’s a superior way to make a woman love you, and guess what? Not only does it work without fail, it takes a fraction of the time.

And it’s so mindbogglingly simple that it almost feels like cheating.

Dig in!

Jon’s Story: The Legendary Mr. Nice Guy From San Diego

We’ll get into the “how to stop being a nice guy” bit in just a moment, but for now, let’s talk a little bit more about Jon.

Let’s skip a little further into Jon’s email where, as you’ll see, the plot thickens.

Last weekend I did a Google search on how to stop being friend-zoned. I happened upon an article about men who call themselves “Pickup Artists.” Have you heard of these techniques? To be honest, they sounded a bit childish, but the article assured me that they would work.

So last night I gathered my courage (which I found towards the bottom of a bottle of bourbon) and put some of these techniques to work. What a disaster!

If you’re anything like me, you’re cringing right now. Nice Guy Jon is about to try Pickup Artist techniques? This can NOT end well.

The article I read said that women are attracted to men who are pushy. Since I’m basically the opposite of pushy, this was pretty hard for me! But I figured it was worth a try.

Yep, it was just as I’d feared. Nice Guy Jon was going to try to play the part of a bad guy.

Hold on to your hats, people. This is going to get a lot worse.

The article said that women like it when men are aggressive. It said, “Don’t ask for permission. Be pushy. Force her to rebuff your advances.” 

Now that’s not exactly the way I was raised – I was taught to respect women! But if there was even a chance it could work, it was worth a try.

A couple of nice-looking women were sitting on a sofa towards the back of a club. I took a deep breath, went over to them and said, “Make some room.” They looked at each other and laughed, which didn’t help with my confidence! But one of them shuffled over, so I squeezed between them.

I remembered the article suggested “deciding” to “sit in a position where you can rub her leg and back.” The same article said to “physically pick her up and sit her on your lap.”

In for a penny, in for a pound, I thought, so I did both. I put my arm around the one on my right and tried to drag her onto my lap, while putting my hand on the other one’s knee.

If you’re anything like me, you’re in a full-body cringe right about now.

What happened next?

I won’t go into the details (partly because I still don’t remember everything that happened). But somehow, I was slapped in the face, kneed in the groin, and dragged out by security within a very short space of time.

I ended up literally lying in the gutter, with a stinging red cheek from being slapped, and indescribable pain down below. Unless you’ve been kneed in the balls (and I truly hope you haven’t) you cannot even begin to imagine how it felt.

So here’s what I don’t understand. I tried being a nice guy, and that didn’t work. Women said they “didn’t see me that way” or “just wanted to be friends.” Then I tried being a Pickup Artist, and that landed me in the gutter. Literally.

What am I supposed to do? I just don’t understand women.

Why Nice Guy Jon Still Can’t Get A Date

Poor Jon. He went from one extreme to the other – nice guy to gutter ball – and still couldn’t land a date.

He tried being a nice guy and that ended up with him being friend-zoned faster than you can say…

“Sorry, I already have a boyfriend.”

He tried to treat ‘em mean to keep ‘em keen, and we all know how that ended!

This may sound familiar to you, too. I mean, I’ve experienced this many times personally that it’s not funny.

Have you ever felt like you just don’t know how you’re supposed to treat women to get them interested in you?

Should you be nice, or be a complete asshole to them?

I’ve got the answer to this question (you’ll find out in a short moment), but for now, let’s ponder over this…

Is there help for Jon?

Oh yes, and guess what? It’s nowhere near as hard as Jon thinks it has to be.

Don’t worry, I put poor Jon out of his misery (so to speak). I told him a little secret – the same secret that I’ll share with you shortly.

And you know what? Jon couldn’t believe that there was a solution that didn’t involve him being a “good guy” or an aggressive “bad guy.”

Being A Nice Guy Gets You Nowhere

Before I tell you when I told Jon, let me answer a question that I have a feeling you might be asking. 

Why do Pickup Artist tricks fail so badly?

Why did Jon strike out so spectacularly when he tried to be pushy and aggressive with women?

The answer is simple. Pickup Artist tricks are impotent for one reason:

They violate fundamental truths about the female mind.

I’ve talked about these fundamental truths inside Shogun Method in detail, but for now, just know this…

Women are programmed by nature to be sexually repelled by nice guys.

And guess what?

They don’t respond well to pushy, bad boy types either.

Here’s what you need to know…

Women need to be manipulated.

Yes, MANIPULATED.

Here’s what women respond to:

Emotional control. Dominance. Authority.

(Not some pushy sleazebag pawing all over them.)

This is exactly what I told Jon, and what I’m going to explain to you next. So, keep reading!

How To Stop Being A Nice Guy (In 3 Simple Steps)

Step 1. Hide Your Intentions

The problem with being a nice guy is that you’re putting all your intentions up for the world to see.

When a man comes up to a woman and starts being nice to her, of course she knows what he’s up to.

Makes sense, right?

Let’s divert to the relationship “experts”: Joey and Ross from the 90s TV show Friends.

Ross: Hey, Joey. Are men ever nice to strange women for no reason?

Joey: No, only for sex.

Men know this. And heck, you’d better believe women know it too.

Understand this –

Women are biologically wired to reject DIRECT proposals.

A man pulling the nice guy routine is a direct proposal. Think about it.

The bottom line?

A woman will reject the nice guy routine without fail.

And she does this even before she even knows what she’s doing. Remember – it’s hard-wired inside her psychology, and this rejection is automatic to her.

Step 2. Destroy Her Boyfriend (If She Has Got One)

As a famous Disney movie once said, a boyfriend is little more than a “temporary arrangement.”

Do you know that it’s possible to “erase” a woman’s feelings for another man? And you don’t even need to meet the guy!

You can do this with Boyfriend Destroyer sequences, or subtle one-liners known as Implanted Commands.

(Shogun Method includes a complete list of 44 ready-to-use Implanted Commands.)

Implanted Commands reach a woman subconsciously, mimicking the way she talks to herself.

Results?

She’ll believe everything you say because it will be as if she is saying it to herself!

Sneaky, right?

Implant the right commands – ones that show you to be superior to her boyfriend in every way – and you’ll have her eating out of the palm of your hand.

And the boyfriend? Forgotten.

Step 3. Enslave, Not “Seduce” Her

So many Dating Gurus out there claim to teach you how to “seduce” a woman.

“Seduction” seems to be the name of the game.

There’s no wonder these cookie cutter Dating Guru tricks fail so spectacularly… they’re fundamentally flawed from the outset.

You’re a Shogun Method disciple, and you know better:

The aim should never be to “seduce” a woman.

“Seduction” may last for a night, sure. If short-term, one night stands are what you’re looking for, then fine…

Enslavement, on the other hand, will ensure that the connection you have built up will last for eternity. 

Yes, you read that right. Build up the connection using Mind Control and the connection you’ve built will last a lifetime.

Sounds great, right?

It gets better…

You can enslave a woman emotionally using a simple Mind Control technique…

A Mind Control technique known as Fractionation.

We’ll talk more about Fractionation in awhile, but you first need to be aware of this –

There’s one downside to Enslavement which I need to warn you about.

Once you get a woman Enslaved to you emotionally, the connection is almost impossible to break…

This means that you’ll need to be careful who you do it on.

Once you enslave a woman, you won’t be able to turn that connection off.

You can learn about Fractionation by signing up for our Online Masterclass here.

And when you’re done with the Masterclass, come back to find out what happened to Jon…

No More Mr. Nice Guy

After learning why Pickup Artist techniques don’t work, Jon gave up on the pushy, macho style of “seducing” women. 

And like everyone else, he needed a “Quick Start” technique that will put him on the right track.

Fractionation was that “Quick Start” tactic that I taught him.

Jon’s a quick learner, and he mastered Fractionation in no time. Fractionation is as simple as telling stories in a particular way to bring a woman in and out of a trance.

With Fractionation, the results are immediate. (Done well, Fractionation may even cause a woman to become addicted to you after a single sentence!)

And that’s exactly what happened with Jon. He role-played some Fractionation scripts with me, then brought them out into the real world.

He told me the results were shocking (in a good way!)

While Jon had been prepared to try his Fractionation techniques on multiple women, he didn’t need to.

The first woman he approached responded beautifully to his prepared Fractionation script, and the seed was sewn.

I won’t go into the details, but let’s just say that Jon no longer spends Saturday nights cruising the bar scene. He’s got much more interesting plans with a woman who is completely addicted to him.

Amazing, right?

Are You Ready For Your Own Transformation?

Is there a part of you that identifies with Jon?

Have you struck out with women after trying the “nice guy” routine?

Have you ever been tempted to attempt Pickup Artist techniques, knowing you’re likely going to strike out even harder?

If so, I’d like to offer you the same advice that I gave Jon.

For Jon, Fractionation was the solution he was looking for.

With it, he left behind two years of singledom and continued failure with women.

And now? He’s in a sexually fulfilling relationship with a woman who is emotionally enslaved to him.

Guess what? You are just one step away from tremendous success yourself. I know this for sure, believe me.

After all, if “Nice Guy Jon” could do it, so can you.

Take this next step: request an invite for my Online Masterclass by clicking on this link:

Request Invite For The Online Masterclass On Mind Control

Follow the instructions on that page and you’ll be all set.

See you at the Masterclass!