How To Win An Argument With Your Girlfriend
Have you ever lost an argument with a woman?
Of course you have, right?
I mean, what man hasn’t?
Arguing with a woman is something you can’t win at unless you know the RIGHT way to do it.
Unfortunately, most men NEVER figure it out until it’s almost too late.
This Shogun Method guide will show you how to win a fight with a woman… and make her surrender to your authority and dominance.
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“Arguing with a woman is pointless”
One of those men was Jeff, a 34-year-old man who came to me for help. He had been getting into frequent arguments with his girlfriend, Athena.
Arguments he could never win, as you might expect.
“I don’t get why I keep losing,” Jeff told me.
“When I’m logical, I lose.
When I’m emotional, I lose.
When I agree with her, I lose.
When I disagree with her, I STILL lose.
The arguments keep coming, and I keep losing.”
“Derek, is arguing with a woman rather pointless? I really don’t know what to do! I feel like such a pushover!”
We’ll get back to Jeff in a minute, but first let me ask you this:
Do you have the same problem with your girlfriend or wife?
Yes?
Well, then you’re at the right place. I will show you precisely HOW to argue with a woman… and win.
And you know what? This guide will not only show you how to win arguments with your woman…
…it will also show you how to MINIMIZE the arguments.
How does that sound?
Picture this for me:
Your woman will love you so much that 99% of the time, she won’t have a reason to argue with you.
That’s exactly what happened to Jeff after he followed the strategies in this guide.
If you’d like to make it happen to YOU, too, then read on…
How Women Communicate Differently From Men
First of all, here’s why you’re losing most (if not all) of your arguments with your lady…
Arguing with her is pointless.
(Jeff was right.)
Here’s what I mean by that:
When your woman argues with you, the issue she’s arguing about is NOT the issue.
It is always, always something deeper.
A Woman’s Argument Is Content-less
Here’s an example…
Let’s say you accidentally bought the wrong kind of diapers for your baby, and she flips out. Makes you wonder why she’d flip out over a trivial thing, right?
Here’s the reality: she’s not mad about the diapers.
She’s mad because you’re forgetful, or you don’t know your baby’s needs that well… and you don’t seem to care.
Or, let’s say it was payday, and you treated yourself by buying a few extra six-packs of beer on your way home….
…and when she finds out, she blows up in your face. Makes you wonder what the big deal is, right?
Again, she’s not mad about the beer.
She’s mad about your lack of thoughtfulness, your selfishness, your beta-ness as a male… or how you didn’t think of HER when you went shopping.
Women Communicate Covertly, Not Overtly
Now, you might be wondering:
“So why doesn’t she just SAY so? I’m not a mind reader!”
Answer:
Because women don’t communicate the same way men do.
Men and women follow different “rules” when communicating.
Men are hard-wired to use “overt” communication.
We’re rational.
We say what we mean, and we mean what we say.
We take words at face value.
Women, on the other hand, are hard-wired differently. They use “covert” communication.
They’re not rational – they’re emotional.
It’s not about WHAT they say. It’s HOW they say it.
“Getting” The Message That She Sends You
And here’s the thing…
The more you don’t “get the message” from your woman, the more arguments you’re going to have.
Think about it. If you “got the message…”
…if you understood how women communicated…
…and if you could “take hints,” and know what your woman REALLY wanted…
…and if you made the fundamental adjustments she desperately needs you to make…
…then she WOULDN’T flip out if you got the wrong diapers, or bought too much beer, or made some other mistake.
That’s because you’re a guy who’s smart and manly enough to know how to communicate with women.
That’s rare. And she’s not about to do anything to hurt her relationship with such a rare gem as you.
Get the picture?
She’s not about to just “tell you” what she wants. She needs you to be man enough to figure things out.
If she had to tell you overtly (like how a guy would)…
…then it’s the final nail in the coffin. She’s proven beyond reasonable doubt that you’re NOT man enough.
Are you man enough?
Moral of the story:
If you want to start winning arguments with your women…
…and as a bonus, start reducing the number of arguments you have to a bare minimum…
…then the key is to understand and accept how women communicate.
In the next section you’ll learn why knowing how women communicate is the key to understanding relationships on a deep level.
Understanding How A Woman Communicates
So here’s my advice:
Whenever your woman argues with you, DON’T argue back.
Why?
Well, remember that the issue of the argument is NOT the issue.
So, there’s no question of “how to win an argument with your girlfriend” at all. Because you don’t argue, full stop.
Decoding Her Behavior (And Not Her Words)
Here’s what to do instead:
Find the deeper, underlying issue.
Observe her behavior closely.
Take note of what she’s been REALLY stressing over recently.
Figure out what she needs from you, and then make the adjustments.
In Jeff’s case, he figured out the REAL issues behind Athena’s arguments with him:
- He was a careless spender, and they were falling behind the bills. Jeff applied for a raise and started cutting expenses ‘round the house.
- He was spending too much time with his friends. Jeff started spending more time at home.
- He wasn’t helping out around the house enough. Jeff started doing his long-postponed promises to clean this, fix that, etc.
Almost instantly, Jeff started seeing results. He started having fewer arguments with Athena. And the few arguments they did have were much less intense.
Better yet, Athena was slowly reverting to the sweet, giddy girl Jeff first fell in love with.
Later, Jeff would confide in me–
“I should’ve done this earlier. It’s all about the mindset. I had wanted to learn how to win an argument with my girlfriend. It turned out the correct skill to learn was how to train your girlfriend instead.”
Taking Things To The Next Level
All these were good things. But it wasn’t enough.
I warned Jeff that he’ll need to decipher Athena’s arguments and deal with the underlying issues as they came up. And he might need to do that for the rest of their lives together.
So if he wanted a longer-term solution – if he wanted to PERMANENTLY reduce their arguments…
…then he needed to do one more thing…
You Have To Manipulate Her Emotions
Every woman is hard-wired the same way psychologically.
For example, her feelings will always dictate her actions. (This is true for every woman… no exceptions.)
Now imagine that in her mind, you were the strongest, manliest, most capable man she’s ever met in her life.
How would she feel now that you’re her boyfriend or husband?
For sure, she’d feel super-happy, right? She’ll feel like she hit the jackpot!
And remember that her actions will always follow her feelings. She’ll be respectful, loving, supportive, and submissive for life.
Arguments? Few and far between. And most times, the argument is over even before it starts.
Would you like your relationship to be like that?
Yes?
Then here’s the key: you must learn how to manipulate your girlfriend’s emotions.
Join my Online Masterclass on Mind Control and you’ll learn how to manipulate your woman’s emotions so that she:
- Sees you as the strongest, most dominant, most confident man in her life
- Appreciates all the work you do for the relationship, and feel the urge to do more
- Feels completely addicted to you… for life
- Respects your authority and follows your leadership willingly
- Feels completely happy and satisfied, even if you’re not perfect (and no one is)
Next, click on the link below to sign up for the Online Masterclass:

Request Access To Derek Rake’s Online Masterclass
(When signing up, please use your best e-mail address. That’s where I’ll send the Invite Ticket if you qualify for the Masterclass.)
Here’s what you need to know, though…
If the talk of “manipulating a woman’s emotions” makes you leery, that’s okay.
Truth be told, Mind Control is NOT for everybody.
Because of its profound and permanent effects on the woman’s psyche…
…it’s only for men who want to spend the rest of their lives with their current girlfriend/wife.
So, if your relationship is NOT “the one” (or if you’re not sure)…
…or if you can’t understand or accept your woman’s way of communicating…
…then please DON’T use Mind Control on your woman. You’ll do more harm than good.
But on the other hand – if you’re sure she’s “the one”…
…and you want to make the rest of your lives together as smooth, happy, and argument-free as possible…
…then do the smart thing and sign up for my Online Masterclass here.
Onward and upward,

P.S: What was the craziest, most mind-boggling argument you’ve ever had with your woman? Tell us about it in the comments section below.
As a woman that has suffered emotional and physical abuse… I have this to say.
You might want to reconsider the type of behaviour you are encouraging here. Is “Enslave, not Seduce” really something positive?
I actually came across your page through a search I did on why I am madly in love with someone who seems to be following your techniques and used on me.
Whilst you are right about men not being inconsiderate and staying out of trouble to not have arguments, abusive behaviour should not be promoted.
Promote kindness and compassion, not ignorance and arrogance.
Best,
Belle
“Enslavement, Not Seduction” is practical.
There’s nothing in Shogun Method that have anything to do with “ignorance” and “arrogance”. It’s quite ignorant and arrogant to make such accusations without really understanding the other party, is it not?
Derek, ur a dick.
Thank you, Woman!