How Can I Attract Her Fast?
“The seduction game is really fun, but I do want to take things up a notch. And by that I mean that I want to start directly attracting her from the start and start things up right from there. I want things to go cool and fast.
Any ideas on how to help me here? Any info will be thanked and respected.” – James B. from Shawnee, OK
Derek Rake’s Answer:-
Everything has to do with your focus and your mindset. Focus on being attractive and you will be attractive. Even better – set your focus on her and getting physical with her. Then, have fun, relax and let your intentions lead the way.
As a matter of fact, take a look at the answer that I gave yesterday on your intentions. This will pump up your entire game in no time and is exactly what you need, I think. 🙂
How Can I Ensure A Third Or Even Fourth Date?
“I have been reading issues of The Rake Letter and find your ideas simply amazing!! It sounds like you have a lot of stories, tactics and tips on how to approach women and get them interested and such.
Well, I’m quite unlucky when it comes to women and have been for quite some time. I don’t even remember my last serious relationship and that truly bothers me. I don’t want a serious relationship right now or anything, though I do sometimes because of loneliness, like in the email you sent. That’s how I feel every now and then. I feel lonely, that nobody is around to listen, and though somebody will listen sometimes, I don’t trust that person enough to talk about my feelings the way I want to.
My most recent problem involves things going sour with a chick. We had two dates that weren’t really dates. I wanted to see if things could escalate, but instead, things went really bad. Me being so insecure sometimes made her not want to go out with me or even hang out with me anymore.
What should I do next? I don’t think I’ll ever go out with her again. We simply fight far too much.” – Lewis D. from Haverhill, MA
Derek Rake’s Answer:-
If you heard half of my stories, you would never believe them! I promise you that. Just last week, I threw a girl out of my house, had one ask me if I could be her sugardaddy and had her pay for dinner, etc. 🙂
Let’s focus on your questions for now, though, so you can gather up some stories for yourself. But what you’re asking can be essentially boiled down to this question:
I advise you to step back for several weeks. Around two or three. See, if she saw your tad bit of insecurity (which is alright; everybody has it), then contacting her straight away will make you look needy. She needs time to breathe. Then, by the time you contact her in a couple of weeks, she will remember the best parts of your conversations rather than the bad parts, giving you a fresh start.
For now, though, concentrate on getting more self-confident first. Talk to several more women to get comfortable around the opposite sex. Even just walking up to a girl for the time helps. After taking a couple of those baby steps, you will instantly be able to talk girls up more.
It’s great and you’ll get to fill your dating life with women, so all of your insecurities will get buried forever. 🙂 If you want a more permanent and faster solution for those insecurities, though, take a look at Shogun Method (read this review). I’ve included the information that had helped me improve my self-confidence back when I was a beginner in the female department. The same will happen for you.
How Can I Get A Second Date?
“I have trouble getting girls. Every time I talk to a girl, I mention that I would like to talk or see them again, but they never seem to want to. I have no idea if it’s because I’m boring or what. I also know that I lack good and funny conversation skills, by the way.” – Raymond C. Williamsport, PA
Derek Rake’s Answer:-
If you lack good conversation, you will never get a first or a second date with women. Fortunately, “good” conversation is very easy to get: just look into threading. Here are the basics:
1. Whenever she says something, look for threads (sentence parts or subjects that you can talk about). For example, if she says “I was at a friend’s house party last weekend”, the threads would be friend, party and last weekend. Can you see any more? Don’t worry if you can’t since three are more than enough.
2. Pick one of these threads, like “last weekend”.
3. Talk about it. For example, say something like “Yup, last weekend was quite crazy. My friends and I went surfing at the beach.” Bam. “Good” conversation in an instant.
If you put all of this together, your conversation can sound something like this: “I was at a friend’s house party last weekend.” “Last weekend was quite crazy. My friends and I went surfing at the beach.” or “I was at a friend’s house party last weekend.” “What was the party like?”
See? Provided you can talk about a thread or ask about it, you can keep a conversation going forever.
If you want something more advanced, look at “Barnum Statements“.
How Can I Maintain The Momentum When In A Relationship?
“I read Shogun Method right after my difficult divorce, which lasted for two years and drained out my self-confidence. It must be clear that my ex-wife was the one who cast me aside and told me to leave. This is why I feel for your experience since this woman was somebody I married and had kids with because I felt like nobody else would want me for who I am. I was pretty stupid back then, yes, and my life concept was ridiculous, too. Well, your advice truly made things clearer for me – things that I never realized until I actually read them on paper. Not long after reading the book, I got together with a great Brazilian woman and I am still with her. She cooks for me, follows my ideas on fun and activities, is up for sex anytime and is always there to support my ambitions and dreams.
Now, I have a question: how can I maintain the momentum in this type of relationship? I know there are a lot of pitfalls in a relationship for a serious man and a lot of ways to get sucked into female agendas or to lose control, so do you have any thoughts or advice on this?” – Joseph W. from New York, NY
Derek Rake’s Answer:-
I always answer a guy’s question if he comes to me for advice. However, as you mentioned yourself, I will send them straight to ShogunMethod.com. Even until now, no better book exists on dating women and the question of “how to dominate women“, after all.
As for your question… Heck, first of all, I want to fucking pat you on the back. You have this amazing girl now after breaking free of that crappy relationship. I know that sounds blunt, but re-read that because that truly is an amazing accomplishment!
The majority of men feel like they are trapped and that they are unworthy of women they actually want and are therefore afraid to approach such women. But you actually got someone great who likes you just for being you. So massive props for that.
You’ve got a great question on momentum. A ton of relationships today stall and lose all of their passion, but this passion happens to be 50% of why good relationships stay good. The other half consists of a mixture of variety and dominance, with dominance taking on 45% and variety only the other 5%. So, stay passionate and dominant around her.
The greatest way to spark passion would be by adding some variety to the time that you spend together, so don’t be boring or predictable. For example, do you normally have sex in bed? Try spontaneous quickies on the dining table or in the kitchen for a change.
Or, do you always watch movies at home? Take a hike together instead or have a picnic nearby. If you’re losing that physical spark, plan days where you can’t touch each other until night time. This might sound corny and it is, sure, but it will do wonders for you because your girl will always wonder what else you have up your sleeve.
This is why women like the bad boys – they are unpredictable. And, if you stay dominant throughout your journey, your passionate momentum will never stop – even after your dates end. 🙂
How Can I Put Your Stuff To Use To Get Sex Fast?
“I’ve been playing the nice guy card all year and would like you to elaborate some things for me, as a kind of Christmas gift. What are your thoughts on attainability? I know this is old and you probably don’t teach it anymore, but I don’t have any other products, so it’s what I use. However, I don’t see much difference with European girls.
As for your stuff, it’s powerful and potent, but it’s always geared to relationships or nice guys. Every girl I approach with your stuff in mind requires lots of work like talking about passion, building tension and shape, and getting compliance. Don’t get me wrong. It’s great, but it’s also such a sniper thing to do – choose a girl and win her over hard – and when I don’t succeed, I feel like I have wasted lots of time.
(It’s been fun, but I really feel like I’ve wasted so much time when I could’ve gotten ten girls instead of just two.) Basically, I want to know what I can do to change and accelerate my game to get random gorgeous girls. I’m 18, so that makes me horny as fuck and I don’t really care about ‘top quality’ women.
If you have any quicker ways to get women into bed aside from a ton of compliance and sexual tension, let me know, so I can use them.” – Robert K. from Newark, NJ
Derek Rake’s Answer:-
The secret to getting a girl to go home with you fast is this:
A. Timing. You have to be with the right girl at exactly the right time. There is no way you can bat 1000 girls in 15 minutes.
B. Sexual Tension. A ton of it. She really needs to want you.
C. Compliance. If you want her to go with you, you have to get her to work for you.
You should know about these things by now, so I’m just here to tell you to actually use them before escalating things. Hard!
Fast escalation happens to be the secret to get girls to either love or hate you fast. This will, in turn, fix your wasted time and problems with hornyness!
How Can I Seal The Deal?
“I work at an internet shop and meet a ton of girls. I have only had sex once using your tactic, though, and I have been gaming this girl for months now. Wow, you must think I’m a bore. 🙁 But, seriously, I need some help. I’m quite the playboy. I can get girls with no problem, but whenever sex comes up, I have no idea how to get in there. Please help me Derek.” – Randall M. from Vandergrift, PA
Derek Rake’s Answer:-
I don’t think you’re a bore at all. 🙂 You were able to get a girl with these tactics, so I am happy and fascinated for you – even proud, kind of like a big brother or a parent lol.
If you have no trouble talking to and approaching women, then you are very close to the finish line. You just need to put more sexual tension to use to arouse her. Use what you have in your Shogun Method arsenal – psychological manipulation techniques, Mind Control tactics… the works.