“I Want To Save My Marriage. What Am I Doing Wrong?”
Is your marriage on the rocks?
Are you doing everything you can to save your marriage, but it seems like you’re the only one trying to?
Do you feel your wife is pushing your marriage closer and closer to divorce?
I know how it feels – it’s frustrating as hell, and you can’t help but feel like a loser. You work so hard for so many years, but your wife doesn’t even try. You give and give, but your wife takes and takes.
You’re wondering if you should just cut your losses and give up…
…but at the same time, you have this burning desire in you:
“I’m going to do WHATEVER IT TAKES to rekindle this marriage.”
If that’s how you feel, then here’s some good news:
It’s entirely possible to save your marriage, even if you’re the only one trying to.
In fact, as this Shogun Method guide will show you how to save a marriage when only one is trying. Heck, it’s even BETTER if you’re the only one trying.
Here’s how to save your marriage by yourself and forge that “happily ever after”… even when your spouse doesn’t want to.
Table of Contents
- 1 “I Want To Save My Marriage. What Am I Doing Wrong?”
- 2 Can One Person Save A Marriage?
- 3 How To Save A Marriage When She Wants Out
- 4 Four Steps To Save A Marriage
- 5 Going Beyond “How To Save A Troubled Marriage”
- 6 What’s Next?
Can One Person Save A Marriage?
First of all, let’s get the bad news out of the way.
Saving your marriage? It really IS on you.
When you want to save a failing marriage, you only have two choices:
- You can save your marriage all on your own, or
- You can wait and hope your wife starts “doing her share of the work” and help you save your marriage.
By now, you should already know that Choice #2 is essentially waiting for nothing.
Your wife will NOT help you save your marriage. Especially not in America, where the divorce route is a much more attractive choice for her.
So again, that’s the bad news. Saving your marriage is entirely on you.
The good news?
If you’re wondering is one person can save a marriage, then the answer is YES.
YOU are all you need to save your marriage.
How To Save A Marriage When She Wants Out
Whenever any man comes to me help with his failing marriage, I always give him the same advice:
Follow the VCRD Model.
What’s the VCRD Model?
“VCRD” stands for the four steps to saving a failing marriage:
Throughout the whole four-step process, you’ll be doing all the work.
But at the end of it all, not only will you save your marriage and prevent a divorce…
…but you’ll also make your wife so happy and committed that she’d never even think of leaving you again.
Just this: You’ll be inflicting some emotional pain on your wife.
And if that’s something you’ve never done before, then you might be thinking: “Oh, geez, suddenly I don’t think I want to do this.”
That’s a fair sentiment. But you’ll also need to remember that you really only have two choices at this point:
- Would you rather hurt her emotionally and save your marriage?
- Or would you rather preserve her feelings, but surrender to divorce?
If you really DIDN’T have that burning desire to “do whatever it takes,” then you’d probably surrender and choose option #2.
But if you DO have that desire…
…if you WILL do whatever it takes to save your marriage…
…then you’d pick Choice #1 in a heartbeat.
If that sounds like you, then let’s not waste any more time.
Four Steps To Save A Marriage
Here’s how the VCRD Model works:
Step #1: Validation
In the Validation Stage, you make your wife feel like you’ve accepted the reality that your marriage is over.
- Tell your wife you agree that parting ways is the best course of action, or
- You initiate the breakup yourself.
Why would you intentionally end a marriage when you’re trying to save it?
Because you need to be covert. Hidden. Unreadable.
When you OBVIOUSLY try to make the marriage work, you actually give your wife more power. You’re showing you’re working to win her approval, and she can control you by NOT giving you what you want.
But when you suddenly “give up” and part ways with her, she loses that power. Now she can’t control you.
Now the ball’s in YOUR court.
Step #2: Confirmation
Here’s a fact: 80% of all breakups mend themselves within a month.
That’s because when a woman wants out of her relationship, she only looks forward to the positives of it. The freedom, the stress relief, the fun, etc.
But they don’t expect the negatives:
- They start missing their partners’ affection
- They start missing their partners’ provision
- They lose their sense of identity (“who am I without you?”)
- They start missing their old comfort zone within their past relationships
So after you break up with her, she’ll eventually come back to you. She might go all-in and ask to come back, or be coy about it and just “check on you.”
In either case, you DON’T get her back.
Instead, you CONFIRM to her that your original decision to part ways is final. You can express this to her in several ways:
- You’re happier now
- Your life is more meaningful now
- You don’t want to waste any more time with her
- You’re excited about being single again
- You’re already seeing someone new
It’s all part of the plan, You don’t want her to come back to you the easy way.
You want her to FIGHT for you.
Stage #3: Restoration
Once you’ve “crushed all hope” for her to get you back, then you’ve successfully hit the “reset” button on your marriage.
Now, a few days after the Confirmation stage, you can reach out to her again. This time, you’re starting your relationship from scratch. It’s like you’re dating for the very first time again.
But your job’s not done yet…
Stage #4: Dependence
Here, you complete the process by making her believe leaving you was the worst mistake she ever made.
You do this by implanting False Memories in her mind. Here’s a simple way of doing it:
- Talk about an experience you shared in the past (good or bad)
- The more details she can remember about the experience, the better. (e.g. People you were with, things you did, the weather, etc.)
- Slip in a “false memory” that “proves” her love and commitment to you. (e.g. when she was about to doze off, she “promised” she’d never leave you)
You keep implanting false memories into her mind until she’s completely dependent on you.
Congratulations – you’ve successfully saved your marriage.
Going Beyond “How To Save A Troubled Marriage”
Notice something? The VCRD Model is very different from conventional “how to save a troubled marriage” or “get your ex back” advice.
That’s because Shogun Method is not Pickup Artist (PUA) advice. In fact, it’s Anti-PUA.
Pickup Artist advice requires your wife to play a part in the mending process. And since the first thing your wife wants to do is get away from you, PUA advice falls way short of the goal.
Instead, the VCRD Model is founded on something a thousand times more powerful than PUA:
With Mind Control, your wife doesn’t have a say. She WILL come back to you whether she likes it or not – because in the end, she WILL like it.
Now, some worried clients ask me:
“Isn’t That Manipulative?”
Sure it is.
Human beings are natural manipulators.
If we didn’t manipulate our environment, situations, and relationships, we’d be extinct.
What’s more, your wife manipulates you, too. Think of all the emotional blackmail, the silent treatment, and the mind games she played on you.
Well, two can play that game. Only while she manipulates you to get what she wants from you, you’re manipulating her to save your marriage.
Which outcome do you think is nobler?
Yours is. It always has been.
In the end, you just got to ask yourself:
- Do I want to save my marriage?
- Am I willing to do whatever it takes?
If your answer to both questions is “yes,” then this guide just introduced you to the only solution you’ll ever need.
The next step for you is to get into the Mind Control mindset. And you can do that today.
Simply sign up for my Online Masterclass on Mind Control. To check it out, click on this link now:
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You can’t wait for your wife to “do her share of the work.” If you want to save your marriage, it’s on you.
Fortunately, “you” is all you’ll ever need.
Want to save your marriage? Then take the Online Masterclass on Mind Control.
P.S.:What particular problems are you having in your marriage right now? What have you tried so far? What worked, and what didn’t? Let me know in the comments section below.