How To Tell If There’s Sexual Tension (And How To Deal With It)
Is there a woman in your life right now you’re having some sexual tension with?
She could be someone from work, from school, or in your social circle.
She’s the one who you share the following signs with:
- You like her, and…
- She seems to like you too, but you’re not sure…
- There’s some tension between you, but you’re not sure if it’s sexual or just friendly
Other people may have different terms for sexual tension. They might call it “connection,” or “chemistry,” or “that spark.”
But they all mean the same thing: Sexual tension. And it’s an absolutely crucial part of the courting process.
Now here are the big questions:
- How can you be 100% sure it IS sexual tension?
- How can you be sure she’s not just being friendly with you? Or, is the sexual tension mutual?
- How can you be sure she won’t be turned off or offended if you courted her for real?
In this Shogun Method guide, you’ll find the answers to all three questions, and more.
We’ll take a closer look at sexual tension, what it does, and how to use it correctly…
…so that your woman will be absolutely THRILLED when you escalate from “awkward tension” and things get romantic between you.
Let’s dig in!
Table of Contents
- 1 How To Tell If There’s Sexual Tension (And How To Deal With It)
- 2 How To Tell If There’s Sexual Tension
- 3 How To Deal With Sexual Tension
- 4 Want Her As Your Girlfriend? Here’s What NOT To Do
- 5 How To Make A Woman Fall In Love With You
- 6 The Key To Dominating A Woman: Fractionation
How To Tell If There’s Sexual Tension
If you want to know if there’s sexual tension between you and her, look out for these signs:
Seven Signs Of Sexual Tension Between A Man And A Woman
- She stares at you from a distance, often very intensely
- She acts differently around you. She’s a confident gal elsewhere, but when she’s with you, she fumbles and gets nervous
- She’s exhibiting VERY open body language when she’s with you, but never with others (this is known as “sexual tension body language“)
- There’s a sweeping feeling of overwhelm when you are with her
- You’re completely focused on each other, and nothing else, when you’re together. Everything else zooms out of focus
- You feel strangely powerful because you’re in complete control on how and where you want to escalate
- You imagine getting physical with her very vividly… because you’re “hungry” for her
If your interactions with her show at least some of these signs, then yes – there’s sexual tension between you.
The good news: If you play your cards right, she can become your next girlfriend very soon.
The bad news? Do it wrongly, and not only will you miss out on a potential relationship…
…but she’ll also end up disliking you, possibly for life. Not good!
So, here’s how to make sexual tension work for you… plus the one thing you should NEVER do.
How To Deal With Sexual Tension
Here’s a tip: think of sexual tension as a “bubble” containing you and her. No one else is in it.
The longer both of you are inside this bubble, the more likely she will fall in love with you. It’s true.
Therefore, the biggest mistake of all is “bursting” that bubble.
And that happens when the sexual tension gets broken or relieved. It usually happens in one of two ways:
- When a third party butts into your interaction and bursts the bubble
- When you burst the bubble by ending or interrupting the interaction in some way
In either case, when you burst the bubble, she’ll feel like you really weren’t interested in her.
The more she liked you, the more disappointed she’ll be. And she’ll probably grow to hate you for getting her hopes up like that. Not good, right?
And to think… she could have been your next girlfriend. What a waste, right?
How To Handle “Third Party” Situations
Thankfully, there are ways to keep the bubble intact and the sexual tension sizzling.
Let’s first deal with the “third party” problem. When he tries to butt into your interaction with your woman:
- Ignore the intruder and keep chatting with her. Don’t even look at him. Most of the time the intruder will go away.
- If the intruder doesn’t move, glance at him, then glance back at your woman. Then ask her: “Do you know him?”
- If she says “no,” then keep ignoring the intruder. If he’s really pesky, just take your woman elsewhere so you can continue being alone with her.
- If she says “yes,” then let the intruder in and chat with her for a while. But all the while, glance away, as though waiting for them to finish. They’ll get the message and finish quickly.
- If the intruder is someone YOU know, just tell him: “What’s up?” And let him say their piece. Then tell him: “Okay. Hey, I’m in the middle of something important right now, so I’ll just wrap this up and get back to you later, okay?”
Unspoken Tension: How To Keep Things Sizzling Hot
OK, the second situation is a little …tricky.
Let’s say you’re having a great interaction with your woman, and the sexual tension is high… but under control.
But unfortunately, you’re running out of things to talk about, and you feel an awkward silence is about to strike.
And so you feel the urge to do one of these things…
- Bring her with you to join a bigger group of people
- Excuse yourself to go to the bathroom or get a drink
- End the interaction and just hook up with her again later
Instead, if you REALLY want her to become your next girlfriend, you’ve got to keep the sexual tension alive.
It’s the only way to bring your relationship to the next level.
And speaking of the next level – that’s up next…
Want Her As Your Girlfriend? Here’s What NOT To Do
What exactly is the “next level,” anyway?
To answer that, I’d like to introduce you to the IRAE Model. It outlines the stages your relationship with your woman should go through with you.
The IRAE Model goes like this:
- Stage #1: Intrigue (She’s just an acquaintance interested in you)
- Stage #2: Rapport (She knows you better, and develops a connection with you)
- Stage #3: Attraction (She becomes your lover or girlfriend)
- Stage #4: Enslavement (She becomes committed to you for life)
Here’s the most important thing about the IRAE Model –
This process is linear. This means that you should go through each stage, one stage at a time, without skipping a stage.
Since there’s already some sexual tension between you, you’re at the Attraction stage with her.
And the only way to complete the Attraction stage is to become lovers.
For most guys, that can be quite a challenge. Why? Well, it’s because this is where the “number one” mistake is usually made…
The Number One Mistake That Guys Make With Women
Most guys make the HUGE mistake of confessing their feelings.
Why is that a mistake?
You’ve probably experienced it before. When you confess your feelings to a woman you like, even when there’s some sexual tension between you…
…chances are she’ll reject you.
It’s something Mother Nature hard-wired into women over the last 200,000 years. It’s embedded in the female psychology. And it’s present inside every woman you’ll ever meet.
Understand this (very important!) –
Women are programmed to reject direct proposals from men, including confessions of love.
Two reasons for this:
- The social reason: They don’t want to look too “easy to get”
- The biological reason: They prefer strong men who SHOW their love, not weak men who just say it
These two reasons comprise their “logical defenses.” And they kick in whenever women sense a guy has romantic or sexual feelings for them.
And yes, even if it’s you, who shares some sexual tension with them.
It’s automatic. They just can’t help it. It’s true.
So, whatever you do…
Don’t confess your feelings.
Don’t trigger her logical defenses.
Instead, I suggest you do this…
How To Make A Woman Fall In Love With You
It’s important for you to know this…
A woman’s logical defenses are your biggest enemy.
So, how do you bypass her logical defenses then?
Good question! First, let me ask you this… what do the following things (and people) have in common?
- TV dramas like Game of Thrones
- Hollywood chick flicks like 50 Shades of Grey
- Romance novels like Mills & Boon
- Brands like Louis Vuitton
- Celebrities like Brad Pitt or Channing Tatum
They are popular with women. Specifically, they make the ladies hopelessly addicted to them by doing one thing:
Bypassing women’s logical defenses and appealing their emotions.
That’s how they do it. And guess what? You’ll be learning the same techniques they use to control and dominate women’s emotions.
Excited yet? 🙂
The Key To Dominating A Woman: Fractionation
The female mind has certain flaws or weaknesses. And one of those weaknesses happens to be emotional rollercoasters.
You see, when a woman is put on an emotional rollercoaster, her logical defenses tend to shut off. And as a result, she instantly starts “following her heart.”
TV dramas, Hollywood blockbusters, erotic novels… they all put women through emotional rollercoasters.
And this is how they make the ladies hopelessly addicted to them.
That’s the opening you’re looking for… the ability to put them on emotional rollercoasters.
A Mind Control technique known as “Fractionation” gives you this ability.
When you use Fractionation on her, she will:
- Stop worrying about being seen as “too easy” or whatever
- Stop thinking about other men, and just focus on you alone
- Starts “following her heart” and falling in love with you
Sounds great, right?
Here’s the thing, though…
Because of how effective it is, Fractionation is a fairly lengthy topic.
I can’t write everything you need to know about how to use Fractionation on women in a single guide…
…which why I created something better: an Online Masterclass on Fractionation you can JOIN RIGHT NOW.
In this Masterclass, you’ll learn:
- How Fractionation works
- How to use Fractionation on your woman
- Real-world sample Fractionation scripts you can copy and adapt to your conversation style
- …and more!
Click on the link below for your very own Invite to this Masterclass:
Finally, remember this:
Sexual tension is great… but only if you know what to do with it.
And don’t forget –
NEVER confess your feelings, or you’ll lose her for good.
Instead, be covert about your intentions. You’ll need to bypass her logical defenses.
You must make her start following her heart, not her mind.
And Fractionation is the fastest and easiest way to do it. So join my Masterclass today to learn about how to get her to Fractionate.
Attraction has an expiry date.
If you don’t take action right now, the sexual tension will fizzle out.
I’ll see you in the Masterclass,
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