How To Build Emotional Rapport With The Woman You Love
Want to learn how to build rapport with a woman the RIGHT way?
So did “Tony,” a 37-year-old bachelor from Arizona. He came to me for help with Lisa, the woman he was dating.
“I just don’t want to screw this up, Derek,” Tony told me.
“I’ve dated women in the past, but they all friend-zoned me in the end. But I really think Lisa’s the one. I don’t want her to friend-zone me, too!”
Tony’s story represents the story of MANY single men today…
They meet a woman, chat with her, build rapport…
But just when things are getting romantic, she drops the F-bomb.
(The “F-bomb” is “friends,” by the way, though the guys tend to mutter a different F-word afterward… as a response.)
If you have the same problem with women, then let’s fix that today. Start reading!
Table of Contents
- 1 How To Build Emotional Rapport With The Woman You Love
- 2 The Importance Of Rapport In Attraction
- 3 How To Build Rapport With A Woman: The Basics
- 4 The Problem Of “Contextual Rapport”
- 5 How To Build The “Right” Kind Of Rapport
- 6 Fractionation: Advanced Rapport Builder Technique
The Importance Of Rapport In Attraction
Those who are familiar with Shogun Method already know this, but here’s a refresher anyhow…
All your relationships with women go through four stages:
- The Intrigue Stage, when she first feels interested in you.
- The Rapport Stage, where she sees you as a trusted friend.
- The Attraction Stage, where she sees you as MORE than a friend.
- The Enslavement Stage, where she falls in love with you for life.
This is otherwise known as the IRAE Model. It’s a core principle of Shogun Method, and it sits at the heart of this guide to building rapport with women.
(IRAE is simply an abbreviation of the names of the stages: Intrigue, Rapport, Attraction and Enslavement.)
And as you’ll see, IRAE theory has got nothing to do with conventional “Game” or “Pickup Artist” tricks.
Here’s how the IRAE Model works…
To make a woman fall in love with you, you MUST go through each IRAE stage, in order.
This means that you must go through one stage at a time, and no skipping of any stage.
This is crucial… and the next section shows you why.
Rapport Is Only “Stage 2”
What would happen if you tried to build rapport with a woman even before she felt intrigued by you?
Here’s what: you’d annoy her to hell.
You’d be like that pushy salesman who won’t leave you even after you’ve said you’re “not interested.” Not good, right?
In the IRAE Model above, notice that the Intrigue Stage comes BEFORE the Rapport Stage.
Likewise, you can’t move to the Attraction stage WITHOUT building enough Rapport.
Imagine how she’d feel if you tried it – you’d be that creep who started hitting on her after just meeting her 10 minutes ago.
Again, not good.
So, this is what you must understand:
- Rapport is useless in isolation.
- To make “rapport building” work for you, you must first develop Intrigue beforehand.
- “Rapport” is not the endgame. You must quickly escalate so that you can then Attract her to you. There’s no point spending too much time in the Rapport stage at all.
Next, we’ll look at the basics on how to build emotional rapport with a woman you want to attract.
How To Build Rapport With A Woman: The Basics
What IS rapport, anyway?
Is it “getting to know each other better”? Well, that’s too lightweight, and is pretty much useless.
Here’s a better definition…
Rapport is about building an emotional connection.
You want her to relate to you – like you understand her better than her friends do.
Think of how women talk to their girlfriends.
They tell them about their darkest secrets. They tell them about their deepest fantasies. And these are things they won’t even tell their parents.
That’s the kind of rapport you want her to feel with you.
Now, you might be thinking:
“But I DID! She told me her darkest secrets and deepest fantasies! But in the end, she friend-zoned me! Why, Derek?!”
The Problem Of “Contextual Rapport”
Like the name suggests, Contextual Rapport is the kind that’s confined to a certain context.
And if you got friend-zoned by a woman, it’s usually a Contextual Rapport problem.
If a woman tells you that she only sees you as a “friend”, it simply means this…
…that the rapport you shared with her got stuck at the “friends” context.
She might have told you her darkest secrets and deepest fantasies…
But here’s the kicker. Those are things she only tells her best friend.
And because you didn’t do any more than that – a “best friend” is all she saw you as.
Bad, bad, bad.
Or, this might have also happened…
You simply may have spent too much time as her “best friend” that she’s grown to LIKE you as a friend. Oops.
My advice? Don’t get stuck.
If you want to avoid getting friend-zoned by a woman, it’s simple – sidestep the Contextual Rapport right from the start.
This is how…
How To Build The “Right” Kind Of Rapport
So, what’s the formula for building deep rapport with a woman?
Well, it’s this –
The key is to build JUST ENOUGH rapport with your woman… and then ESCALATE quickly to the Attraction stage.
That way, you will pretty much avoid the Contextual Rapport problem.
Think of it this way:
You want her to see you as someone she trusts even MORE than her best friend.
You want her to be able to tell you her darkest secrets AND feel romantically attracted to you.
That’s how Tony did it.
The day Tony went to me for help, I taught him two techniques. (You’re going to learn both techniques in this guide.)
The first technique is called “VAKSOG Mode Matching”. Let’s see what this technique does next.
VAKSOG Mode Matching
VAKSOG represents the six ways humans process information.
The abbreviation “VAKSOG” stands for:
- Visual processing (sight)
- Auditory processing (hearing)
- Kinesthetic processing (doing)
- Somatosensory processing (touching)
- Olfactory processing (smelling)
- Gustatory processing (tasting)
Here’s what you need to know about VAKSOG:
Most women have two to three dominant VAKSOG modes.
(These are the two or three senses they use the most when processing information around them.)
The key to building great rapport with her is this –
“Match her dominant VAKSOG modes”
For example, if she’s a visual person, then you’ll want to communicate with her as a visual person, too.
When you do this, it pulls a deep, primal emotional trigger in her brain.
It gives her the gut feeling that tells her:
“Wow, this guy really gets me. He must be special. He’s cute, too… I wonder if he’s single and available?”
Of course, she won’t say that out loud. Instead, she’ll verbalize her interest by saying something like this –
“Wow, I just met you, but I feel like we’ve known each other for years!”
That’s the sign that you’ve built enough Rapport, and it’s time to escalate to the Attraction stage.
Real Life Example Of VAKSOG Matching
In Tony’s case, he noticed Lisa was a visual person.
He knew it because when telling him about her adventures and stories in life, she’d use visual words like:
And so he mimicked her VAKSOG mode. He communicated with her in a visual way, too.
For instance, this was what he told her:
“I see that you’re an adventurous girl. I think that’s beautiful. There’s so much of the world to see, and photographs don’t do it justice. Have you ever seen Barbados? It’s gorgeous this time of year…”
Soon enough, Lisa told him: “Wow… are you me? You know me so well!”
That was the sign Tony was waiting for, and he quickly escalated things into the Attraction stage.
How did he do it?
With the second technique I taught him on how to keep a girl interested: Fractionation.
Fractionation: Advanced Rapport Builder Technique
Fractionation is a “Mind Manipulation” technique that puts women on emotional rollercoasters.
The reasoning is simple…
You see, when a woman on an emotional rollercoaster, something magical happens:
Her “logical defenses” against romance disappear.
As the old song goes:
She becomes “bewitched, bothered, and bewildered.”
And guess what? That’s good for YOU.
This is why: love isn’t logical – it’s emotional. And you want her to be in an emotionally-awake state when you escalate to the Attraction stage.
How Tony Made Lisa Fractionate
Here’s how Tony used Fractionation to put Lisa on an emotional state and make her fall in love with him:
- LISA: “Wow… are you me? You know me so well!”
- TONY: (Romantic mood) “Well, you know, I feel the same way. Like we’re meant to be talking to each other like this.”
- LISA: “I know, right? It’s great that you love to travel, too!”
- TONY: (Non-romantic) “Speaking of traveling, have you ever been to Barbados?”
- LISA: “No, I haven’t!”
- TONY: (Romantic) “Oh, you’ll love it there. It’s sexy, it’s dreamy, it’s beautiful… you could be your wildest, craziest self and no one would judge you for it. We should go there sometime.”
- LISA: “I’d love that… so when are we going?”
Long story short – Lisa fell MADLY in love with Tony that night. Today, they’re engaged to be married. In Barbados, no less!
And that was because Tony had learned how to build rapport with a woman the RIGHT way: using Fractionation.
If you’d like to master Fractionation too, then I’m inviting you to sign up for my Online Masterclass on Mind Control.
In the Masterclass, you’ll learn the technique in full detail PLUS a slew of other rapport-building tactics…
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So, remember: you need to do two things…
- Build JUST ENOUGH rapport…
- And then escalate quickly to the Attraction stage.
If you don’t do these two things, you’ll end up in the friend-zone… or worse. That’s a near-guarantee.
Good news: The Online Masterclass will show you how to do it with the least amount of time and effort.
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Onward and upward!
P.S: Have you ever been friend-zoned before? Ever wondered what you should have done to change things? Tell us your story in the comments section below.