How Can I Get A Younger Girl?
“I’m a 44-year-old man (turning 45 in a few weeks) and the woman I love is only 31. When we met a few years ago, we hit it off instantly. Everything seems to be perfect with the two of us – aside from out big age difference, that is. She can’t seem to accept this. Now, I don’t want to sound cocky, but I’m not like every other 44-year-old man out there. People say I’m good-looking and I’m also a bodybuilder who works out every day – a nationally ranked one, too. I am an open class competitor and compete against men who are decades younger than me. I’ve never fallen below second place so far. No grey hairs yet, either. Whenever people ask for my age, I always have to whip out my driver’s license as proof. This makes me very proud. When I started going out with this girl, she told me that when she is alone or with somebody else and some other guy looks her way, she knows it’s because of her looks; but whenever she is out with me and some guy looks, she knows he is looking at me. This doesn’t seem to bother her, though. She has already told me that the only thing stopping her from being with me is my age, though she has also mentioned that this doesn’t exactly rule us out. She would rather find somebody her own age, but each time she fails in her pursuit, she runs back into my arms. I am also dating other people, but I only want one girl: her. What should I do? I want to fix this. How do I go about dating younger women?” – Justin M. from Bloomington, IL
Derek Rake’s Answer:-
Age is actually not what is holding you back here.
It really isn’t. I have dated women older than me and younger than me before – a decade apart on both counts, and age in itself is actually never the real problem. (Unless you have a minimum of two decades holding you apart. Then you need to take care of deeper things.)
It’s painful to say, but you’re stuck in the friend zone, dude. This means that you aren’t having sex. However, after a girl reaches her thirties, sex won’t get to lock the relationship down, either. (If you want to know for sure if you’re in the friend zone, just look out for these obvious friend zone signs.)
Simply put, you are looking for a serious thing and she isn’t, really. That pretty much translates to a death sentence in the dating and attraction game. So, here is the best advice that I can give for you right now:
Don’t see her for two months. Then talk to her while using the tactics that you learned here. This will give you a brand new start and a great shot at winning this girl over. The path that you’re on right now won’t lead you anywhere. Sorry.
How Can I Bag Uber Hot Chicks?
“Hey Derek! I’ve been reading your stuff for at least a year now… I read The Rake Letter religiously and I even have your audio courses. Now I believe I’m quite awesome when it comes to women. I have no trouble attracting girls, but I do have one problem: I can’t conclude with uber hot chicks. I only get to attract girls I don’t really want and only pique curiosity out of the hot ones. I don’t have trouble approaching them or anything, but I do want to conclude with ones I actually want instead of the ones I don’t really want! How to seduce women that you really want… not just those who come to you?” – James P. from Prince George, BC
Derek Rake’s Answer:-
The fact that these girls are getting intrigued means that you’re going down the right road. The thing is: pretty girls are going to approach guys, but hot women will never be attracted from the start.
To get top quality women, you have to have a top calibrated game level. This doesn’t mean you’re hopeless, though – not at all! You simply need to practice some more with these extremely hot women. For example, whenever you see a girl you like, ensure that you approach her. End of story.
You have to gain experience from girls that you truly like before you can see what really works with them. More importantly, you have to learn about compliance and vision in order to attract uber hot women. Gaining experience with such women happens to be priceless, so don’t let that chance go. 🙂
How Can I Get Good With Girls But Not Look Like A Player?
“I’m a good guy – a virgin but not a pushover. I’ve given up a lot of chances because I want to wait to get married. I want to know whether there are ways to attract a girl that I can be happy with and let my bad side out when I want. I’m patient. Do you have anything that can help me step my game up without looking like a player? I’m open to all suggestions that might work.” – Michael C. from Marietta, GA
Derek Rake’s Answer:-
The majority of religious men ask this question, whether silently or out loud: how can I find the one for me? Well, to be honest, finding that perfect one is about as hard as finding that one needle in the haystack – if not worse.
There are billions of women on Earth, so searching for that one girl is, quite simply, impossible. But I have a solution here: shaping. It will be far easier to find an almost-perfect girl and shape her personality into that of your perfect girl, after all.
One easy way to get this done would be to give her physical rewards whenever she pleases you. My personal trainer Brian calls this the appreciative touch. Plus, when mixed with verbal compliments, it can be a very powerful kind of shaping.
For example, if you want your woman to be thoughtful and you get a funny video link from your girl, just say: “Aw baby, thank you for the video. You’re so thoughtful.” Then, touch her arm or give her a kiss or a hug.
If you use both verbal shaping and appreciative touch together, you will be completely unstoppable.