How To Break The Ice With A Girl – In Person, Online Or Over Text
“I’m just so bad with women, Derek,” Dan, a young man just a few years out of college, told me.
“I’ve never had that much experience in dating. I can’t even hold a proper conversation, and approaching women freaks me out. What should I do, Derek?”
Dan is the latest in a long line of Shogun Method clients with the exact same problem:
If the idea of approaching women and starting conversations with them freaks you out, too…
…then this guide on “how to break the ice with a girl” is for you.
Table of Contents
- How To Break The Ice With A Girl – In Person, Online Or Over Text
- It’s Not Your Fault
- Pickup Lines: Why They Suck
- The Magic Of Intrigue Pings
- How To Break The Ice With A Girl In Person
- What To Do After Breaking The Ice
- Jon’s Happy Ending
It’s Not Your Fault
First, let’s get this out of the way:
It’s NOT your fault you have approach anxiety.
It’s a disease that modern society seems all too happy to spread among today’s men.
So if you got infected, don’t worry about it. Most guys have this problem.
Again, it’s not your fault…
…and yet guess what? It IS your responsibility to overcome it.
That means you must DESTROY approach anxiety if you have it.
And this Shogun Method guide will show you how.
Let’s start by dispelling some myths about approaching women out of the way…
Pickup Lines: Why They Suck
Men with approach anxiety tend to use “pickup lines” as a sort of “crutch.”
They can’t start conversations with women themselves, so they let pickup lines break the ice for them.
Some common (and embarrassing) pickup lines include:
- “Hey girl. Glad I brought my library card – I’m totally checking you out.”
- “Are you a thief? ‘Coz you stole my heart.”
- “Can you touch me? I wanna be touched by an angel.”
Well, guess what?
Not only are pickup lines embarrassing, but they also DON’T WORK. And if you think you can make a woman open up to you, and you can build sexual chemistry with her just by using pickup lines then you’re sorely mistaken.
Women know all about pickup lines. And the moment you use one on them, they’ll instantly go on the defensive.
If you use pickup lines to start conversations with women, the only women who will be interested in you are:
- The needy ones
- The clingy ones
- The desperate ones
Unless you’re okay with that… then I suggest you DON’T use pickup lines.
Instead, use the Shogun Method technique you’re about to learn in this guide.
The technique’s name is “Intrigue Ping,” and here’s how it works…
The Magic Of Intrigue Pings
Just like pickup lines, Intrigue Pings are designed to “open” women. However, Intrigue Pings are very different from pickup lines:
- They’re not scripted
- They’re not embarrassing
- They’re relevant to the situation and/or environment
- And most importantly – they WORK
So, how do you construct an Intrigue Ping?
Well, the formula goes as follows:
- You say the first part of an Intrigue Ping to catch her attention
- She responds in some way, showing you have her attention
- You say the second part of the Intrigue Ping, normally with a question relevant to the situation you’re both in
We’ll get into some examples below, but here’s what you need to know for now:
The result is starkly different from when you use a pickup line on a woman:
- Instead of feeling defensive, she’ll feel intrigued
- Instead of being awkward, the conversation will feel natural
- Instead of wanting to get away from you, she’ll spare a few minutes to talk to you
Sounds great, right?
How To Break The Ice With A Girl In Person
For Dan, who was an artist, I gave examples of Intrigue Pings he could use on women he met at the places he loved the most.
For example, if he spotted a pretty woman in a museum and he wanted to chat her up, he could say:
- HIM: “Excuse me, I know I shouldn’t be asking, but…”
- HER: “Hmm?”
- HIM: “…is flash photography allowed in this place?”
Or, if he wanted to chat up a woman at a concert:
- HIM: “Hey, I know I’ll regret saying this, but…”
- HER: “What is it?”
- HIM: “…can you tell me about when this band started playing together?”
Or, if he was painting at the park, and a pretty woman was watching him work:
- HIM: “Hi there. Can you do me a favor?”
- HER: “Yes?”
- HIM: “It’s time for my ice cream and I need some company. Join me for a minute?”
Pretty simple, right?
And it doesn’t even matter what your question is. It can be silly. It can even be nonsensical.
As long as it keeps her from getting defensive, and as long as it makes her INTRIGUED about you… you’re in!
What To Do After Breaking The Ice
The first month Dan used Intrigue Pings, he scored more dates than he had in the last few years.
But he soon realized that he had ANOTHER problem. Starting conversations were no longer a problem for him…
…but he didn’t know how to turn friendly conversations into romantic ones.
“Meeting women is fun, but I’d like to have a girlfriend now,” he told me. “What should I do?”
I helped Dan with that problem, too. I introduced him to two other Shogun Method concepts:
The IRAE Model, and Fractionation.
The IRAE Model
“IRAE” (pronounced EYE-ray) is an acronym for the four stages of any relationship with a woman:
- The Intrigue Stage, where she first feels intrigued by you
- The Rapport Stage, where she gets to know you better and trust you more
- The Attraction Stage, where she feels romantically attracted to you
- The Enslavement Stage, where she becomes emotionally addicted to you for life
Hence, “IRAE” – Intrigue, Rapport, Attraction, Enslavement.
If you want a woman to become a girlfriend (or even better, your wife), then you MUST follow the IRAE Model. No exceptions.
And you must lead her through all four stages, one stage at a time, without skipping any stage. (There’s a good reason for this – trust me.)
Escalating To Rapport Stage From Intrigue
Intrigue Pings takes care of the first IRAE Stage: Intrigue.
The Rapport Stage is a bit trickier. And here’s why…
Build too much of the “wrong” kind of Rapport with her, and she’ll end up friend-zoning you.
This usually happens when you have “platonic” instead of “sexual” Rapport with her. When you have platonic Rapport with a woman, she’ll only see you as a friend or brother… and nothing more.
And when that happens, it will truly suck for you. Believe me.
So, the key to success is this:
Build the right kind of Rapport with your woman – i.e. of the “sexual” variety.
And that’s where the second technique, Fractionation, comes in.
Fractionation is a Mind Control technique which is super effective in building sexual Rapport with a woman.
It’s powerful because it uses storytelling to build an emotional connection with a woman on a subconscious level.
With Fractionation, you’ll tell stories which put your woman on an emotional rollercoaster.
And guess what? Emotional rollercoasters are the most ADDICTING thing a woman can ever feel with a man, bar none.
Now you might be wondering:
“Now why in the world would I put my woman on an emotional rollercoaster? Why in the world would I give her NEGATIVE feelings? Wouldn’t that put her off?”
Actually, no. Here’s why…
- If you only give her GOOD emotions, she’ll get bored.
- If you only give her BAD emotions, she’ll hate you.
- But if you give her BOTH good and bad emotions… she’ll LOVE you.
Jon’s Happy Ending
Within a few days of learning Fractionation, Jon got his first girlfriend.
“I can’t believe it, Derek!” Jon called to tell me.
“Just a few weeks ago I would never have imagined having a beautiful girlfriend. But now I do. I’m so glad I found Shogun Method.”
Not to toot my own horn here…
…but as of this writing, about 17,000 other men have written similar praises for Shogun Method.
The best news? Shogun Method can help you, too.
If you want to master Shogun Method, I invite you to take the first step today.
How? By joining my Online Masterclass on Mind Control.
In it, you’ll master the art of Fractionation… and more.
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So, here’s a quick recap:
Your relationships with the women in your life go through four stages:
Want to make new female friends? Make it past Intrigue.
Want a girlfriend or wife? Then you’ll need to make it past Rapport stage, and beyond.
For that, you’ll need Fractionation.
And you can master Fractionation today. Start RIGHT NOW. Sign up for the Online Masterclass here.
P.S: Have you ever used a pickup line (or routine) on women? How well (or how badly) did they go? Tell us a story in the comments section below.