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How To Stop Obsessing Over Someone

December 28, 2017 Leave a Comment

How To Stop Obsessing Over Her (Using Mind Control)

How do you stop obsessing over someone?

That’s the $64,000 question, isn’t it?

I met Jay, an events guy, at a recent business convention.

He told me that he used to play the “pickup” game with reasonable success. Recently, he said, he decided to get a serious girlfriend and settle down.

“Her name was Nicole, and she was an old friend from college,” Jay told me. “I’ve had the biggest crush on her for the longest time, but never had the guts to tell her.”

Jay showed me his phone. A photo of Nicole, a petite but sexy Asian-American woman, was his wallpaper.

“Thanks to my pickup skills, I’ve gotten more confident and charismatic than I was in college,” Jay continued, grinning.

“So… a few weeks ago, I took Nicole out on a few dates, gave her a great time, then popped the question.”

“What did she say?” I asked.

“She said ‘no,’” Jay chuckled somberly, still staring at Nicole on his phone.

“Now get this, Derek, I got rejected LOTS of times in my pickup days. I’m supposed to be used to it.”

“But…?” I prodded him to continue.

“But I can’t get over her!” he said. “I can’t move on. I’m obsessed. I can’t stop thinking about her. It’s eating me up inside. I LOVE her, Derek, what should I do? How to stop obsessing over someone like this?”

Table of Contents

  • How To Stop Obsessing Over Her (Using Mind Control)
  • How To Stop Obsessing Over Someone Who Hurt You
  • The Comeback Plan (How To Overcome Rejection And Make Her Accept You)
  • Step #1: Learn The Real Reason Why She Rejected You
    • Four Stages Of Love
  • Step #2: Enslave Her Emotionally
  • How To Enslave A Woman Using Fractionation
    • Click Here For My Online Mind Control Masterclass

How To Stop Obsessing Over Someone Who Hurt You

Let me pause my story right there.

Have YOU ever experienced what Jay experienced?

Think about a woman you loved who rejected, dumped or hurt you in the past…

…but no matter what you do, you just couldn’t stop thinking about her.

Even now, she’s still on your mind, isn’t she?

Or worse, you may even be obsessing over someone you barely know.

In either case, let me tell you what I told Jay back then:

“Don’t fight the obsession,” I advised him.

“If you could get over her, you would have done so by now. But since you haven’t, it means you’ll need to do something else.”

“What’s that?” Jay asked.

“Make her say ‘yes.’”

Jay laughed out loud. “But she’s already rejected me!”

I shrugged. “So? Don’t tell me you’re quitting after one measly rejection.”

Jay hesitated. “But… she already said ‘no’…”

“Doesn’t matter,” I said. “If you really loved her, you wouldn’t just give up on her, would you?”

I then told Jay that since Nicole rejected his first attempt, he needs to do it differently the next time.

I suggested he do it the Shogun Method way.

And you should, too.

Here’s how it’s done…

READ ALSO: “Does She Still Love Me?” Here’s How To Find Out For Sure

The Comeback Plan (How To Overcome Rejection And Make Her Accept You)

This is how a “Pickup Artist” is trained to think…

Once a woman rejects you, that’s it.

You got to accept your failure and move on to the next girl.

And you know what? This makes complete sense in the pickup game.

Why?

Because the goal of “Pickup Artistry” is to have sex with women…

…NOT to start long-term relationships with them.

So, the faster you get over women who reject you, the faster you’ll meet women who WON’T reject you. That’s how Pickup Artist tricks work. The issue of “unrequited love” does not arise at all.

But alas, that’s also the mistake Jay made.

He thought that once Nicole rejected him, he had to get over her and move on right away.

Only this wasn’t pickup anymore. He was playing for keeps. He didn’t know how to make a relationship last, and that handicapped him severely.

And that’s why he got into so much stress. He was using Pickup Artist tricks (short-term) to try and start an exclusive relationship (long-term).

So that’s Lesson #1 for you…

If you really love her, don’t give up so easily!

Basically, you’ll need to try again. Only this time, you’ll need to do two things:

  1. Understand and accept the real reason why she rejected you, and
  2. Understand what you need to do this time around, and do it.

Let’s jump right into the really good stuff, shall we?

Step #1: Learn The Real Reason Why She Rejected You

So why did she reject you?

You might think it’s any of the following reasons…

  • She wasn’t attracted to you
  • There’s another man in her life
  • You flubbed the delivery
  • She wasn’t ready for a relationship
  • She friend-zoned you
  • Her best friend thinks you’re a jerk

…so on and so forth.

But here’s the thing…

All these possible reasons actually stem from the REAL reason why she rejected you.

If you had this REAL reason covered, she would NOT have rejected you…

…and instead, she would have been thrilled you asked, and would have gladly said “YES!”

What’s the real reason?

She wasn’t enslaved to you.

Yup, you read that right.

And NO, I don’t mean the physical kind of enslavement. (That would be illegal, not to mention immoral.)

I’m talking about EMOTIONAL enslavement.

how to stop obsessing over her

It’s about making her emotionally addicted to YOU – even more than she’s addicted to 50 Shades of Grey or Game of Thrones.

READ ALSO: How To Get Over Someone You Love

Four Stages Of Love

If you’ve never heard of emotional enslavement before, it’s like this…

Every relationship with a woman goes through four stages (also known as the “four stages of love“):

  1. Intrigue, when she first gets interested in you
  2. Rapport, when she starts to know you better
  3. Attraction, when she feels romantically attracted to you
  4. Enslavement, when she becomes emotionally addicted to you for life

In Shogun Method, this is called the IRAE Model. (IRAE = Intrigue/Rapport/Attract/Enslave.)

It’s meant to be followed one stage at a time, without skipping a stage, all the way to Enslavement.

This model explains why most Pickup Artists fail miserably when it comes to long-term relationships…

They don’t reach the Enslavement stage.

Most Pickup Artists only hit the Attraction stage, which ends with having sex with a woman. But beyond that, they have little (if anything) to offer.

That’s the reason why so many Pickup Artists are massive failures in exclusive, long-term relationships.

Makes complete sense now, doesn’t it?

So that’s Step #1. You need to understand and accept the IRAE Model as the ONLY way to build a relationship with a woman.

If you don’t, then you’ll keep making the same mistakes with women. You’ll keep getting rejected, and you’ll keep getting dumped.

But once you do accept the IRAE Model, then it’s time to take action.

Step #2: Enslave Her Emotionally

So how do you enslave a woman emotionally?

How do you make a woman emotionally addicted to you for life?

Without a doubt, the fastest way to do it is with a Shogun Method technique called Fractionation.

Fractionation is a mind manipulation technique that uses storytelling to persuade women covertly.

It takes a woman into a “trance,” then snaps her out of it, then takes her into it again. It does this over and over.

Fractionation works by exploiting one of the most basic vulnerabilities in the female mind:

The weakness (and addiction) for emotional rollercoasters.

You see, when you take a woman on emotional rollercoasters, a few interesting things happen:

  • She drops their “logical defenses,” which was what made her reject your first proposal
  • She snaps out of their coldness and pays full attention to you
  • She listens to you more closely
  • She wants you for who you are, right now
  • She feels more compelled to agree with you on many things
  • She gets more and more attached to you
  • She gets more and more addicted to you
  • She falls more and more in love with you

Fractionation may sound somewhat “exotic”, but the truth is that it is used everywhere.

For example, it’s Fractionation that’s at work when:

  • You get hooked on a TV show or movie series
  • You get hooked on a certain commercial brand
  • You get hooked on a certain celebrity or sports team
  • You get hooked on a certain video game
  • You get hooked on a certain addiction

It’s the emotional rollercoasters these things give you that make them so addictive.

READ ALSO: How To Deal With Heartbreak

How To Enslave A Woman Using Fractionation

Guess what… women are even more vulnerable to emotional rollercoasters than you are.

And so it’s this same emotional rollercoaster that’s going to make YOUR woman addicted to YOU.

Here’s how I suggested Jay to use Fractionation to overcome his first rejection with Nicole:

  1. He started hanging out with Nicole as just a friend she can talk about anything with
  2. He used Fractionation to make her trust him more than she did her best friend
  3. He used Fractionation again to make her feel romantically attracted to him
  4. He popped the question again – and this time, Nicole gave an enthusiastic “Yes!”

That’s what you should do, too! If it worked for Jay, it WILL work for you.

The whole process can take a few days or a few weeks, but you’ll have your dream girlfriend at the end of it.

Sounds great, right?

But here’s the kicker… you MUST learn Fractionation. It’s the ultimate key to your success.

You can discover how Fractionation can work its magic for you – join my Online Masterclass now:

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Remember:

Just because she rejected you once doesn’t mean it’s game over.

You just need to try again, and do things differently.

This time, you’ll need to:

  • Disarm her logical defenses;
  • Make her feel interested in you;
  • Make her like and trust you;
  • And make her feel attracted to you;
  • And THEN you pop the question again.

Fractionation will help you do all that. So, this is what I want you to do right now: learn Fractionation and give it another shot!

Click here.

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I’ll see you in the Masterclass,

Derek Rake

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About Derek Rake

Derek Rake is the founder of Shogun Method, the world's one and only relationship strategy for men based on authentic Mind Control technology. He is widely acknowledged as the leading international authority on using Mind Control and extreme hypnosis in dating and relationships. Shogun Method's "Enslavement, Not Seduction" philosophy makes it one-of-a-kind in the relationship coaching world. Attend his legendary Masterclass - click here.

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