How Can I Deal With Troubled Girls?
“Hi, a quick summary of what I’m dealing with: This girl was coming to my workplace for more than a year and throwing me crazy hints. I thought it was her way of being nice since she was hot, then I eventually asked her on a date and we hit things off. But when she started having two jobs, we started to stress out, too.
That’s when we started waiting for things to calm down and a crazy ex appeared out of nowhere. She ended things with him half a year before we met and she changed her phone number three times because he kept finding it somewhere. The third time, I didn’t get her number until two weeks afterwards. Then I learned this ex of hers threatened to end of her life if she ended things with him and the reason why I hadn’t heard from her for two weeks was because they had gotten back together. Now, she has filed a restraining order against him and she told me everything when we met up. Still, she says she has tons of emotional healing to go through before we can be together again. She wants to stay in touch in case the time ever gets right. What am I supposed to do? I have no idea why she got back in touch to meet up just to tell me she doesn’t want to go out with me at the moment! How to deal with a narcissistic ex-girlfriend?“ – Edgar W. from Werneth, VIC
Derek Rake’s Answer:-
That is one troubled child you’ve got there. I think you should use her past and learn from it and keep her away from your overall dating life right now.
She will bring you trouble, and if you already have problems with her right now – before even having sex with her – just think about what will happen if you start a real relationship.
Girls like this are best left alone, so you can lead a much happier life. Trust me: I have gone through the same thing – the hassle, drama and mind games (you need to know if she’s playing you) – before. The rewards simply aren’t worth the risks.
How Can I Escalate Things If The Girl Has Had A Difficult Past?
“Hey, my relationship has some new developments that require me to ask something. Basically, I learned that my girl has had a bad sexual past and she said that I was being too pushy and demanding by trying to escalate things. I don’t know why she waited to tell me about this. (Btw, she’s a virgin.) My question is: what can I do now that I know about this past of hers? I feel that if I try to escalate things, I will push her over her comfort zone far too fast. So, should I let her take the lead instead?” – James S. from Coeur D Alene, ID
Derek Rake’s Answer:-
Her virginity and her past both offer up several problems. Fortunately, the solution to both of them are the same:
Just take your time. This isn’t a race, most of all because she’s still a virgin. If and when you choose to have sex, you will be her very first, which will form a great bond between the two of you.
So, her troubled past included, the regular rules of “getting her into bed fast” do not apply here at all.
Sadly, this is quite common with women. As a matter of fact, it can be quite scary to know the amount of women who have been sexual abused in the past.
To get past this, concentrate on nothing but protection and comfort. Make sure you touch her, sure, but touch her in a protective manner so that she feels comfortable with you instead of trying to build a lot of sexual tension. She needs to trust you more than anything. (I’m not surprised if she’s a female psychopath.)
Having this trust will make you extremely attractive in her eyes and even arouse her. Plus, you’ll end up feeling much better about the situation once you do end up having sex.
How Can I Pick Up The Strippers?
“I want to learn how I can attract strippers and pick them up.” – James S. from Shallotte, NC
Derek Rake’s Answer:-
Picking up strippers happens to be a one-of-a-kind situation, most of all if you want to date a particular kind of stripper. I know someone (who I am going to call MrX) who uses a certain system to meet strippers, which I am going to summarize here:
- Keep going to the exact same club. Repeatedly.
- While at the club, learn more about the manager, the DJ, the wait staff and the bartenders.
- Do not approach any strippers to begin with.
- After getting to know everybody else, start your game with a girl.
- Clean off and repeat things with another girl.
Mr X says this system is fantastic and he has used this in clubs with me around. I could see girls eating up all of his words. So, if you wish to go on a date with a stripper, that is what you should do.
There is a dangerous part in dating strippers, though. A lot of the time, a stripper will go out with guys, thinking that she can push them over or game them. She will also want a sugar daddy to pay off her bills so you can sleep with her.
So, make sure that you stay dominant in that kind of relationship. This happens to be all the more important when it comes to strippers or professionals compared to with other girls.