How To Tell If A Female Coworker Likes You Or Is Just Being Friendly
Let me ask you this: is there a girl you like in the workplace?
Does she seem like she likes you, too?
But do you want to be 100% sure she likes you too BEFORE you make a move?
Here’s a fair warning before we continue: Gaming women at work is DANGEROUS.
There’s a saying that goes: “Don’t shit where you eat.” And trying to attract a girl at work is a risk you’ll need to think twice about taking…
I mean, if you don’t do it correctly, you might:
- Get transferred to another department
- Get fired
- Get demoted
- Get charged with sexual harassment
- Get a bad reputation in the workplace
- And other crap you might not want to deal with at this point
In other words… you’re RIGHT to want to be 100% sure she likes you first. In short, knowing how to tell if a girl likes you at work is extremely essential! And that’s what this exclusive Shogun Method article will help you do.
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What’s more, my Dating Your Female Co-Worker Quick Action guide will teach you a technique not covered in this article.
That technique is called “Multiple-Outs,” and it’s a great way to guarantee a date with that female co-worker you like… and making her like you more, at the same time.
(I am hiding the technique inside the Quick Action guide because it’s controversial, and not very politically correct. You’ll understand once you read it.)
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Table of Contents
- 1 How To Tell If A Female Coworker Likes You Or Is Just Being Friendly
- 2 (Three) Signs Of Attraction Between Coworkers
- 3 What To Do When A Coworker Likes You
- 4 How To Date A Coworker
- 5 How To Turn Your Casual Coworker Into Your Girlfriend
- 6 Frequently Asked Questions
(Three) Signs Of Attraction Between Coworkers
Forget the usual “signs she likes you” you’ve probably seen elsewhere.
At the workplace, these are the only three signs you’ll need to watch from her:
Sign #1: When She Looks At You First in a Group.
Imagine you’re with her in a group of other co-workers. Someone tells a joke and she laughs along with everyone else.
Does she glance at you, too?
If she does, that’s a good sign. It means, among all the guys in the group, she likes you the most.
This is a natural sign of interest, and so even if she’s playing hard to get with you, she’ll still display it.
Sign #2: She Hints About Wanting Something But Can’t Get It.
When she’s chatting with you one-on-one, take note of the things she tells you.
If she hints about wanting something, but not being able to get it, that’s a sign:
- If she says: “I miss lasagne. I could really go for some Italian right now,” it means she wants YOU to take her to lunch.
- If she says, “I love Star Wars! I want to see the new movie, but I hate going alone,” it means she wants YOU to take her to the movie.
So that’s a sign she likes you. Go ahead, ask her out, and schedule the date. She’ll be thrilled you did.
Can’t get much more obvious in the workplace than this…
She might tell you:
“My friends at Accounting keep asking me if we’re a couple. What’s up with that, huh?”
She’s checking to see if you’ll say something like:
“I don’t know. Do you like me, too?”
What To Do When A Coworker Likes You
So let’s say she shows you one or more of the three signs above. What’s should you do next?
You should promise yourself that if you did decide to date her, it’s for the long haul.
That is, you should go and make her your exclusive girlfriend… and NOT just a one-night-stand.
Why make her your girlfriend, and not just some fling?
It’s just way too risky, both for you and for her.
And the risks that come with starting a casual relationship with a co-worker are just not worth it.
Think of it this way:
Your workplace is like your social circle. There’s probably a girl in your social circle who secretly likes you.
If you jumped her and dumped her, everyone will find out… and you become a pariah in your own social circle.
But if you dated her and became exclusive with her, then everyone will love you two.
Your workplace is like that. Do it wrong and your reputation will take a hit… but do it RIGHT, and everyone will love you.
And why wouldn’t they? 20% of all couples first meet at the workplace, anyway. It’s normal.
So if you’re not ready to commit to an exclusive relationship yet, then DON’T do anything. Even if she shows you all three signs she likes you.
Keep things professional, and just game women who DON’T work with you. Just trust me on this.
On the other hand, if you ARE ready to commit to an exclusive relationship with your co-worker…
…then here’s what you should do next.
How To Date A Coworker
Tip #1: Keep It A Secret.
Don’t let anyone else know that you’re planning to date your co-worker.
Don’t brag, don’t show off, don’t make bets with the guys.
Everything should be just between you and her.
The reason? It’s to keep word from going around. The more people know about your intentions, the bigger the risk to your career and hers.
So don’t do anything dumb and keep quiet.
Tip #2: Make Her Feel Like She’s Chasing You.
Whatever you do, don’t “court” her.
Not only does it blow your cover, but it also makes her feel you’re chasing her.
Pro tip: You should NEVER be upfront with a girl.
Instead, always – ALWAYS – conceal your intentions.
It keeps her guessing and makes her want to “figure you out” – and, in effect, start chasing you.
Here are some examples of what you can do:
- When she asks you for instructions, smile and reply in a low voice. “It’s always MY direction you need, isn’t it, (her name)?”
- When she follows up on your reports, slyly whisper: “It’s always MY reports you want, hmm?”
- When she asks for your input on something, you can reply in a sexy voice. “If only you were interested in more than just my input, (her name).”
But here’s the secret: Don’t flirt on and on.
Instead, flirt on and OFF.
After she smiles and flirts back, “You know your reports are my favorite, (your name)…”
…you then give her the reports, smile at her, and go back to work.
Then, later on, flirt with her again when you find the opportunity…
…and then continue working.
Keep doing this until you can find an opportunity to ask her out.
QUICK NOTE: Want to learn a technique that’s almost guaranteed to set up a one-on-one date with her? Then read about the “Multiple Outs” technique in my Dating A Female Co-Worker guide. Download your copy here and try it out before it’s too late!
Tip #3: Go One-On-One.
No group dates! You’ll go nowhere if there are other people with you.
Just ask her out on any date where you can be alone together, away from everyone else.
And then, in your conversations with her, use the following pattern:
- Start with a non-romantic topic (like work)
- Switch to a romantic topic (like your new relationship)
- Switch back to a non-romantic topic (like work again, or her plans, etc.)
- Switch again to a romantic topic (like the possibility of dating exclusively)
Before long, she’ll be madly in love with you.
Congratulations – you’ve just gotten yourself a new girlfriend, and no one at work knows any better!
Now for the long haul…
How To Turn Your Casual Coworker Into Your Girlfriend
Did you notice something?
Many of the interactions you’ll lead with your co-worker have a back-and-forth movement.
From friendly, to flirty, to friendly again, to flirty again…
From non-romantic, to romantic, to non-romantic again, to romantic again…
What’s going on?
It’s a simple technique called Fractionation. It’s a Mind Control technique that taps into a woman’s weakness for emotional roller-coasters.
And in case you didn’t know it yet: Women LOVE (and get addicted to) emotional roller-coasters.
They want it. They need it. They look for it.
Emotional roller coasters give women an addicting rush of good feelings. And here you are, giving it to her.
With Fractionation, it’s easy to make a female coworker fall in love with you. It’s so powerful that just to be with you, she’ll even risk putting her career in jeopardy.
So use it carefully!
Normally, I only teach Fractionation as one of the essential parts of Shogun Method.
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Finally, remember this…
Gaming in the workplace is risky.
But it’s not uncommon to meet “The One” at work.
So if you feel she’s the one, and if she’s showing signs that she likes you, too…
Then you’d better go big, and make sure you don’t mess things up!
Fractionation is the key to making her fall in love with you. Learn how it’s done in the Masterclass.
I’ll see you there!
P.S: Questions? Comments? Leave them below and I’ll reply personally.
Frequently Asked Questions
What Are The Signs A Married Coworker Likes You?
Think only unmarried female coworkers can have the hots for you? Nope.
Don’t look now, but your married female coworkers may even be “thirstier” than their single peers. This is especially true if they’re unsatisfied with their marriages.
The signs are the same as the ones we’ve already covered in the article. Your married coworker will show she cares what you think. She’ll drop hints. She’ll say “other people” are asking about you and her.
And yet the biggest sign of all is this: She complains about her husband to you.
This is the clearest indication she’s unhappy in her marriage, and that she secretly wants YOU to make her happy. (And she desperately hopes you’ll pick up the hint and take the lead.)
Needless to say, dating a MARRIED coworker is even riskier than usual.
If you dated a single co-worker, you could end up a pariah in your workplace.
If you dated a MARRIED coworker, it’s worse. You’d become a pariah, you’d mess her up, and you might deal with an angry husband down the line.
Do I have to say it? I don’t advise dating a married co-worker. Even if she’s showing the signs, ignore them if you know what’s good for you both.
What Are Subtle Signs That A Female Coworker Likes You?
In addition to the signs we covered in the article, watch out for these less-obvious signs (often shown by shy women):
#1: She asks you – and only you – about your weekend. This is a subtle, subconscious sign that she likes you more than the other guys in the office.
#2: She tells you about her family and friends. This indicates two things: (1) she trusts you more than all the other guys, and (2) she subconsciously wants you to know her family better. It’s a known psychological “tell” for attraction.
#3: She asks YOU about your family and friends. This is yet another “psychological tell.” What if she doesn’t ask about your family, and instead asks about your living arrangements? Then it’s a sign she only wants you for a short-term fling or one-night-stand – not good.
These signs are subtle because they can come off as friendly, warm, and open. Harmless, right? And yet anyone with some psychological training – Shoguns included – will easily spot them.
What Are The Signs A Female Coworker Is Flirting With You?
Here are a few common ways women flirt with guys at work:
- She might tell cute jokes from time to time, in an attempt to make you laugh
- She might use naughty puns, analogies, and metaphors
- She’ll put sensual overtones on the stories she tells you
- She’ll walk away, then look over to glance at you with a smile
Now here’s an important tip: If you like her too, then you must act quickly. Her attraction has a short shelf life.
If you don’t grab the opportunity, it’ll fizzle out and she’ll treat you coldly from then on.
My advice? Use the Multiple-Outs technique as soon as possible. Coupled with her burning interest in you, it’s guaranteed to set up a date.
If you want to learn how to use the Multiple-Outs technique, check it out in my Dating Your Female Co-Worker guide.
What Are The Signs A Female Co-worker Wants To Sleep With You?
Keep an eye out for female co-workers who show these signs:
Sign #1: When she’s alone with you, she consciously makes herself look more attractive. She might undo one button on her shirt, or hike up her skirt an inch, or run her fingers through her hair.
Sign #2: When she shows you photos on her phone, she readily displays pics of her in bikinis or other revealing outfits. (If your workplace has strict dressing requirements, this sign is even more telling.)
Sign #3: The biggest sign of all: She tells you she hasn’t had sex for a long time. If she’s more discrete, she’ll tell you “her friends” have been “concerned” about her lack of sex life.
Now, let’s say you want to take the risk and get her into a one-night stand. What’s the safest way?
Aside from using the Multiple-Outs technique to set up the first date, you’ll need something more.
You’ll want to make her think that the one-night stand was HER idea, not yours.
And that’s where the Fractionation technique comes in. It will make her so ADDICTED to you that she’ll eventually snap. She’ll kiss you, jump your bones, or at least beg you to take her somewhere private.
Want to have that magnetic, addictive effect on women?
Then sign up for my Online Masterclass on Fractionation here. It’ll change your life forever, trust me.
Enslavement, not seduction!