Sex Questions And Answers

How Am I Doing Down There, Size-Wise?

“Alright, I have a real problem. My pecker is only 5 inches long and 4 inches wide. I heard that this is an average size, but if this is the case, then how come some women – ex-girlfriends and friends, that is – tell me it’s too small?

The thing is, I had a girlfriend before who was a playboy model and she loved it, but I’m thinking that might only be because I was taking Cialis to get pumped up. And my current girlfriend says it looks bigger than before, as well, but I haven’t told her about the Cialis. Now, my real problem is that I absolutely abhor Cialis because I get crazy headaches when I take it and it’s so expensive.” – Brian M. from Murphysboro, IL

Derek Rake’s Answer:-

This is usually where the joke starts, but to be honest, you’re alright. 5+ inches really is the norm.

So, what you should concentrate on instead is this:

1. Know that your size is fine. Trust me. I don’t pack heat down below and my best friend keeps bragging about how he lacks in the size department, too.
2. Your exes and friends suck – for telling you such lies, that is. Seriously, those girls were just bitter. If they really cared about you, they would never say that.

And dude, if you are getting headaches from those pills, just stop taking them! They aren’t worth it.

Again, you do not have any size problems, so stop worrying about it. Instead, have a ton of fun tonight and stop communicating with those loser exes of yours while you’re at it.

How Can I Get A Ton Of Sex?

“I have an objective – to have sex with at least three girls every week. Unfortunately, girls in Mexico – where I live – aren’t very open-minded, so how can I make things easier for me?” – Scott B. from Beaumont, TX

Derek Rake’s Answer:-

Wow. You pretty much summed up every man’s dream in a single sentence! Well, I have two answers, both of which require you to know that wherever you are, whatever language you can speak and regardless of how tall or short or skinny or fat or sexy a girl is, it doesn’t matter.

Women of every place in the world like dominance, sexual tension and intrigue. Although your specific tactics might vary, the principles will always remain the same. So:

1. Talk to more than fifteen women every day and get great at setting up dates with low pressure. Three women a week isn’t exactly ambitious, but unless you actively talk to more women than that, it isn’t going to happen. Some women won’t be available during the week or will want to see you again after having sex with you. So, if you talk to more women, you will sleep with more, too. Also, the better you become with them, the more times you will sleep with girls you just met.

2. Escorts. Excuse me? Well, you asked about sleeping with more then three women a week. You never mentioned doing it for free. 😉 Fine, fine. If you don’t condone this, stick to 1. It works anyway.

How Can I Have Sex With A Girl In The Bathroom Of A Club?

“Last week, I got my very first lay in a club after a cold approach. It was in an empty toilet hidden in a back area. Meet to lay lasted around an hour and my friend did a great job in keeping her friend busy during that time. I’m a bit busy right now, so I can’t write up a complete report (going to Hong Kong soon for a few months to sort out a bunch of stuff).” – Mark S. from Oklahoma City, OK

Derek Rake’s Answer:-

Great work! Sexual tension happens to be very powerful. And a meet to lay that lasts an hour happens to be very, very good. My longest meet to lay was half an hour – maybe even 15 – and Duncan, my trainer, has had sex with a woman only 15 minutes post-meet. However, if you keep on going like this, you are sure to catch up soon. 😉

Thank you for the update and because your email shows others how easy it can be to meet women, most of all with sex as a goal in mind. Sex happens to be very easy to get. All you have to do is turn a girl on, make sure she’s comfortable and give her reasons to be with you – alone. Then, smoothly escalate things on a physical level (just follow the Seducer’s Blueprint) and you will succeed.

How Can I Sexually Arouse My Wife?

“After a marriage of 42 years, my wife sleeps in another bedroom. It has been a year since then and we haven’t had sex throughout that time. What can I do? I’m incredibly horny!” – John G. from Gaithersburg, MD

Derek Rake’s Answer:-

I think I’d go nuts after 42 years in a marriage. I have dated my girl for 6 years, but as much as I love her, I just can’t imagine adding on an extra 46 years to that because I think we’d lose the intimacy and passion for one another.

The many clients that I have taught through long-term relationships and marriage all say the exact same thing: after you’ve been married for a long time, you risk losing all of the passion and going back to the friend zone. That can’t be any good.

So, to get out of that, use more of sexual tension and be as dominant as you possibly can. Take full control, lead, and escalate things physically. Use a lot of sensual language and teasing.

Essentially, you have to talk like it’s your first date all over again. Talk with the same passion and fire that you used to have for her and vice versa. Touch her as if for the very first time in bed. This will be surprisingly fun for you two.

This problem’s solution really is that easy as – unless serious details are being left out here – she isn’t ready to have sex because your mind isn’t in its proper place. You are no longer being dominant (fix this problem by using these techniques) and have long forgotten about sexual tension. Re-tool yourself with female psychology knowledge and tactics and you’ll be set.

Bring some foreplay back into the picture, as well as some romance, and you are sure to break that cold streak of yours. If you have any details that might help me help you much better, email me again. 🙂

When Should Sexual Tension Be Put To Use?

“Hi Derek, I have some questions for you. Are sexual presence and sexual tension the same thing? If so, should I only put sexual tension to use when I am alone with a girl or can I use it several minutes after actually meeting her, as well?” – Thomas G. from Six Mile, SC

Derek Rake’s Answer:-

They are different. Sexual presence refers to the vibe or energy that you have when in the presence of women. This primarily comes from your focus and lets women know how sexual you are, so they don’t see you as a mere friend.

Sexual tension, on the other hand, refers to the electricity that exists between the two of you. To build sexual tension, you have to use sexual language, innuendo, touch and tons of intrigue.

Sexual tension also needs to be used a lot before having sex with a woman. Why?

A. This will make you very attractive in her eyes.

B. The sex will be much better since she will be dying to get rid of that tension between you.

Tactics of sexual tension tend to be quite risque, so email filters aren’t fond of them. However, you can look at this step-by-step Attraction Roadmap inside SeductionOnSteroids.