How To Build An Emotional Connection With A Woman

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Here’s the tricky thing about talking with women…

What you say may not be what she hears.

I mean, there’s where all problems with women start, right? Miscommunication is how relationships go to hell. It’s true!

Look, I used to be a complete and utter fuck-up with women. I’ve been dumped more times I could count… simply because I had zero clue on how to communicate with them.

Everything changed when I went to talk to my mentor many years ago, prior to me writing Shogun Method. And this was what he told me:

“Derek,” he said, “the problem with you and most guys is this.”

“You talk to a woman to get her to understand your point, right? But here’s the thing. You don’t just want her to understand what you say. You want to build an emotional connection with her.”

That was truly a lightning bolt moment for me. I failed with women not because I couldn’t get them to understand me. I failed because I had zero emotional connection with them.

And guess what?

Emotional connection is everything.

In fact, if I can sum everything up in Shogun Method in three words, they are these–

Building emotional connection.

Of course, we Shoguns take it a step further into emotional addiction, but I ain’t doing that. Advanced Shoguns even talk about emotional enslavement, but we all know how taboo that shit is and so I ain’t gonna touch it with a ten-foot pole… especially on a public blog. But if you want a submissive girlfriend or wife, then enslavement is what you must know.

Anyway, here’s what I’m gonna do for you in this guide. I’m gonna teach you how to communicate with a woman with a specific end in mind–

To build an emotional connection with her.

You already know how important this is to you, right? If you are failing with women right now, there could only be one reason. You don’t have an emotional connection with her. Why? Because a woman will bend over backwards for a guy with whom she is emotionally connected. And guess what? If you have no emotional connection with a woman, you can bet she’ll shit-test you to fucking hell. It’s true.

So, here’s the deal. In this article, I’m going to teach you the basics of emotional connection in just a couple of minutes. I gotta tell you upfront… this stuff is for beginners. If you want the more advanced shit then you gotta join the Shogun Method brotherhood.

When we talk to another person, there are two styles of communications:

Logical and emotional.

Logical communication is the default mode for guys. The content is factual, and the delivery is straight-to-the-point. The goal is to make the other person understand what we say so we can both get on with our lives.

Emotional communications is the opposite. The content is light on facts and the delivery is indirect. The goal is to incite emotions in the other person, and in ourselves.

And guess what? Men communicate logically, and women communicate emotionally. To seduce a woman, you must learn emotional communications.

Now, here’s the thing. Most guys find emotional communications to be a total drag. On the other hand, women find logical communication to be dry and intolerable. To make a woman like you, you gotta learn how to incite her emotions with your words. Shogun Method will help, but ultimately it’s up to you to master this skill.

So, how do you communicate emotionally?

Here’s a good way to start:

Talk feelings, not facts.

You’re not exchanging information. You’re expressing how you feel.

Now, compare these two statements–

Statement One. Rooms with blue walls are good for work. You can be really productive here.

Statement Two. I really like how you painted the wall blue. I feel it really brings out your personality.

So, what’s the answer? It’s, of course, the second statement.

Let’s look at it again:

“I really like how you painted the wall blue. I feel it really brings out your personality.”

Do you notice something about that statement? It has no factual information at all. All you’ve done is to express your feelings about how you liked the color, and how you feel it suits her personality.

This is not how most guys talk, of course. We never talk about how shit makes us feel, right? We go straight to the point. But here’s the thing… women never go straight to the point. To them, it’s all about feelings, feelings and feelings…

Make sense?

So, here’s a quick summary…

Your woman doesn’t give a shit about facts. She cares about how you make her feel. 

Want to build an emotional connection with a woman? Then, do this one thing. Stop sharing information. Start sharing emotions.

Get that?

Good.

Now, here’s the thing you must understand…

Let’s say you’ve mastered this one thing. You stopped talking to your woman about facts. Instead, you use the fact-free language of emotions to connect with her.

Is there all there is to it to win?

Well, the answer is NO.

Why?

Simple, really. Because you’ll need to incite the RIGHT emotions with you, yes? What if she only feels like shit whenever she’s with you? After all, shitty feelings are also feelings, right?

I gotta pre-warn you because most guys fall into this trap. They think all they need to do with a woman is to make her happy. This is a huge mistake. Why? Because your woman needs BOTH positive AND negative emotions to connect with you.

So, to recap–

One. Your woman doesn’t care about facts. She cares about how you make her feel. And,

Two. A woman connects with a man who makes her feel BOTH happiness AND sadness.

Got that? Good. Now, here comes the best part, so pay attention.

There’s a name for the process of making a woman feel both happiness and sadness. It’s called Fractionation.

And guess what?

There’s probably only one place in the world right now where you can learn Fractionation. And it’s from the man who formulated it in the first place–yours truly, Sir Derek Rake.

For many years, I have taught Fractionation in an Online Masterclass for free. To check if it’s still online, click here. If the enrolment is still open, you’ll see an online form. Fill it in and my trusted team of coaches will email you if you qualify.

(In case you’re wondering, it works on women you just met, a woman who is already your girlfriend, and a woman who is already your wife. In fact, it works wonders in marriages. If you want to know how to train your wife and turn her obedient, Fractionation is the answer.)

Now, here’s the thing… not everyone qualifies for the Masterclass, and there’s a reason for that. Let’s face it… this information is not for everyone. You know how people get triggered easily these days, right? For this reason, something like Fractionation can only be shared behind closed walls. Like it or hate it, that’s how things have become.