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Are you dating a single mother?
Well, you may already know this, but dating a single mom is an entirely different ballgame.
I mean, we can understand this, right? After all, what appeals to a single mom is different from, say, an 18-year old looking to make a mark on the world.
So, why is knowing how to date a single mom is important?
Well, it’s because conventional dating knowledge no longer applies.
Indeed, “Single Mom Dating” comes with a lot of pitfalls. If you treat a single mom like a girl you picked up at the bar, you’re going to fail. Believe me because this is true.
But don’t worry because I’ve got your back. In this article, I’m going to share with you a very special method which works especially well on single moms.
I call this method the E&E Technique.
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The E&E Technique
What’s E&E? Here’s a teaser just to make things a little more fun…
E&E stands for Elicit and Exploit. It’s about finding a weak point in the mind and then exploiting it.
OK, I know “Eliciting and Exploiting” can sound quite evil or immoral… but hear me out. Keep reading until the end and you’ll understand everything. And, I guarantee you it’s nothing like you’ve ever seen before anywhere. So, trust me on this.
If you do a quick Google search about “how to date a single mom” you’ll find lots of stuff… and guess what? Most of the “tips” you find are useless, or worse: downright dangerous.
For example, here’s what those Relationship Gurus teach about dating single moms:
“Understand that her kids come first!”
“You must show that you’re not only a good lover, but you can be a good father!”
“Don’t get involved in any drama!”
You know what? These are dangerous advice which will lead you directly to relationship hell. It’s no joke at all.
So, what’s wrong with those three things? That’s what you’re going to find out next… but first, I want you to do something for me.
Dating Single Moms: The Myths
Let’s debunk the bullshit advice about dating single moms number one:
“Understand her kids come first”
Well, to many moms, their children will come first, and there’s no doubt about that…
…but let’s be real here. Most of the time, it’s not the “either, or” thing at all. In most situations, she’s not forced to choose between you and her kids.
And here’s one thing that you should know about women (and this applies to ALL women, not only single moms):
If a woman likes you, she will bend over backwards for you.
The opposite is also true! If she doesn’t like you, she’ll find excuses just to stay away from you…
…and it’s easier when she’s a single mom. She could use her kid as the excuse!
So, if a single mom turned you down for a date because “she had to attend her kid’s piano recital”, guess what?
She’s not into you at all. I’m sorry but that’s the truth.
It’s not about “understanding that her kids come first.” If she really likes you, she will bend over backwards to make things happen between you and her. It’s true.
So, I want you to watch out for the “Kid Excuse” that she may use to keep a distance from you.
After all, it’s her trump card of sorts… she can use it to push you away while keeping you hanging… you know the sort of mind games that women like to play, right?
Do You Need To Love Her Kids Also?
Of course, Shogun Method fixes this, and will make her silly excuses evaporate like mist in sunshine. More about Shogun Method later, but for now, let’s move on to the second myth about dating single moms:
“You must show that you’re not only a good lover, but you can be a good father”
100% bullshit. And I’ll tell you why.
When you date a single mom, you must first be AWARE of why she’s dating you.
Does she want a partner, or does she want a provider?
This is SUPER important and so I want you to pay attention to what I am going to say next.
I want you to know that many single moms are out there looking for guys to pay the bills for them.
You may think that she’s “in love” with you, but who knows what she really thinks?
If she tells you she’s also looking for a “good father for her daughter”, then beware. She wants a PROVIDER, not a PARTNER.
And you know what? I’ve heard too many stories of guys getting strung along by single moms… only to get dumped when they ran out of money.
Sad, but true.
Emotional Drama: Good Or Bad?
Now, moving on to the third myth…
“Don’t get involved in any drama”
Well, it’s fair to say that single moms tend to have more drama in their lives than regular women…
…and there’s a good reason for this. There is usually conflict with some other guy, especially with an ex or co-parent.
The conventional advice is to “be supportive of her, but stay out of it”.
Well, I gotta admit that it makes sense somewhat. After all, dealing with your woman’s ex is an enormous waste of time and energy. Why give a fuck about an ex, right?
At the same time, understand the importance of DRAMA in a woman’s life. Simply put, women cannot survive without a certain amount of “conflicts” in her life. It’s weird, but it’s true!
So, if you “stay away from the drama” then guess what? She will get her source of drama from her ex… which means that she will never quit him.
Women get addicted to emotional drama, and we know this is true. You should, therefore, use the opportunity to introduce even MORE drama in her life… so that she becomes emotionally addicted to you instead!
How To Exploit A Single Mom’s Love For Drama
This is where it gets even more interesting, so pay attention.
I’ll teach you a way to “exploit” the drama in her life to your advantage… so that she will never be able to quit you.
And when you’ve done this, you’ll see all her petty excuses and shit tests go away instantly.
No more “Sorry, I need to fetch my son for his soccer practice” bullshit excuses.
No more “Will you love my daughter like a father would?” bullshit questions.
You certainly would want that, wouldn’t you?
Well, you’re going to learn all that in the E&E Technique which I am going to show you next…
So, let’s recap what we have covered so far.
- If a single mom likes you, she will bend over backwards for you. If she uses her kid as an excuse, guess what? It means she’s not that into you.
- If a single mom likes you, it doesn’t matter if you’ll be a “good father” to her kids.
- You should get involved with the drama in her life… because it gives you the opportunity to make her emotionally addicted to you.
So far, so good, yes?
Now, the question is: how do you give her the emotional drama that will make her addicted to you?
With the E&E Technique, of course!
Elicit And Exploit Your Way To Success
The E&E Technique comes in two steps. Step one is what we call “Elicitation”, or the first “E”.
Now, don’t let the phrase scare you. What “Elicitation” means is simply finding out what’s important to her.
Let’s say she is still somewhat entangled with her ex-partner, the father of her kid. He could be a source of emotional drama for her… and you want to involve yourself in the drama.
Ask her this question:
“What’s the one thing that you want in a man?”
Let’s say she says LOYALTY. Then, ask her to describe what she means. She could, for example, say:
“I want a man who is loyal… someone who can be my partner forever… someone who I can trust with my life, a man who wouldn’t cheat on me…”
In Shogun Method, we know this as Value Elicitation. Knowing a value or emotion that is important to a woman is useful. Why is that?
Well, it’s because the way to a woman’s heart is to know her values. Every woman is different – and you must find her unique weakness, her Achilles Heel if you will…
…and as anyone who knows Shogun Method will know… her values can be her weakness.
And once you have know the weakness, what do you do?
Well, you can then Exploit it to your advantage, of course. And that’s what the second E in the E&E technique is… to exploit.
You now have two pieces of important information about her from the Elicit stage:
- One, she is still embroiled with her ex-partner, and…
- Two, she places LOYALTY above everything else in a relationship.
Remember that you wish to get yourself involved in the emotional drama in her life. You can do this by “inserting” yourself into her affairs by asking her about her ex. Let’s assume his ex’s name is Dicky.
“What do you dislike most about Dicky?”
And I can guarantee you this…
You’ll find that every complaint about Dicky would narrow down to one thing:
Now you have something you can use to trigger emotional drama in her life whenever you want.
For example, you can link anything to Dicky’s disloyalty. Let’s say you’re watching Netflix with her. And, there’s a scene in the movie where there’s someone who cheats on his woman.
Trigger her by saying:
“Wow, that sounds just like our old friend Dicky.”
“God, I hate cheaters.”
“That’s a Dick move.”
Get the idea?
Implicate, Don’t Explicate
Now, that’s just the first half of the process. The second half is to make her think that you’re the OPPOSITE of what she dislikes. In this example, you want to IMPLY that you’re a LOYAL partner, the ideal man in her mind.
“I can’t stand cheaters. Why can’t guys be loyal to their women?”
See that you’re IMPLYING that you’re a loyal guy who’d never cheat on your woman. This is far more effective than saying it outright like: “Believe me, I’m not like Dicky! I’m a really loyal person!”
Again, if Dicky is her source of grief, then you must be her source of comfort. Makes sense, right?
Now here’s the thing…
You can only be her source of comfort IF there’s something else which is troubling her. So, you MUST trigger her emotional drama from time to time… so that she can run to you for safety and assurance.
I know this may sound sneaky, or maybe even unethical. So, I leave it to your judgment on where to draw the line…
…but remember that everything’s fair in love and war. If you’re not using this tactic, I’m sure Dicky would.
Trust me on this.
Now, if you play your cards right, then over time, the emotional addiction to you will kick in. She will become needier and “stickier” to you, and you might even get sick of her sometimes. This is natural. At the same time, though, I gotta warn you…
Emotional addiction is usually irreversible. Once done, it’s done. So, I’d ask you to only use this on a woman whom you really care about.
If you’re looking for a short-term fling with a single mom, for example, this is an overkill. You don’t want a needy single mom stalking you, believe me. It’s no fun at all.
In fact, Shogun Method is not for those who are looking for short-term relationships. You don’t need something as powerful as Shogun Method for picking up women. That’s like bringing a grenade launcher to a stick fight. Ridiculous, right?
However, if you’re really in love with this single mom, and you know she will be happy with you (and believe me, you must train her well to be happy with you), then yes –
You should use Shogun Method on her.
Where To Go From Here
Now, here’s the thing…
The E&E Technique I taught you – it’s based on a Shogun Method strategy known as Fractionation.
When you Fractionate a woman, you make her go through a cycle of emotional highs and lows. Remember that a woman needs her fill of emotional drama every day. Once you become the provider of drama to her, she will be emotionally addicted to you.
If anything, Fractionation works even better on single moms. Why? Well, it’s because single moms have more emotional baggage than, say, a girl in her 18’s. The more emotional baggage a woman has, the more effective Fractionation is on her.
So, if you are dating a single mom, here’s what I recommend that you do…
First, use the E&E Technique that I have already shared with you. I can guarantee that you will see some surprising results right off the bat.
And then, go ahead and use Fractionation on her. It’s fast, it’s easy, and it’s deadly effective. What’s better than having a single mom as a submissive girlfriend?