How To Maintain A Long Distance Relationship With Your Girlfriend Or WifeOK, let me ask you this –
Are you worried your long-distance girlfriend might cheat on you?
Well, if you are, then guess what?
It’s a fear all long-distance boyfriends have, but almost never admit.
You see, most guys in long-distance relationships would hesitate asking for advice online.
Why? Well, they’re afraid they’ll get called out for being insecure, suspicious, or untrustworthy. Can’t blame them, really.
And what’s worse… online, there’s not much useful information about long-distance relationships at all. When you Google about “long-distance relationship tips” (or, specifically, how to keep your girlfriend from cheating), what do you get? Well, here’s what you get:
“Keep communication lines open!”
“Be open and upfront and honest with her!”
“Trust her completely!”
Unfortunately, it’s never that simple.
I mean, if you ask guys in long-distance relationships who followed that advice, you’ll hear the same story.
They kept communication lines open…
They were completely open, upfront, and honest with their long-distance girlfriends…
They trusted their girlfriends 100%…
…but in the end, they got dumped anyway.
And their relationships’ reasons for ending are all the same:
- Their long-distance girlfriends got tired of waiting
- Their girlfriends were also honest and upfront – about wanting to break up
- Many of the ladies started dating men who weren’t so far away
Make no mistake. In an LDR, the possibility of her leaving you for another man is serious.
In fact, the chance of her cheating on you is much higher in an LDR than when you live close to each other.
So don’t walk yourself into that trap. Don’t follow conventional LDR advice.
And instead, ignore the “taboo” labels and get to the heart of the matter. And that is to know how to keep your long-distance girlfriend from cheating on you.
That’s what this Shogun Method guide is all about.
Table of Contents
- How To Maintain A Long Distance Relationship With Your Girlfriend Or Wife
- The Biggest Problem With Long Distance Relationships
- How To Keep Your Girlfriend From Cheating In A Long Distance Relationship
- How To Make Your Long Distance Relationship Work
The Biggest Problem With Long Distance Relationships
When it comes to making your LDR work, the biggest problem you must address is this: Hypergamy.
What is hypergamy?
Hypergamy is a woman’s hard-wired tendency to choose the absolute best guy available to her.
In a woman’s mind, hypergamy is switched “on” ALL the time, even when they’re already in a relationship.
When a woman already has a boyfriend or husband, but suddenly meets a man who’s SO MUCH BETTER than him…
…you can bet she’ll think about leaving her partner for the new guy.
How Women “Score” The Men In Their Lives
There are three categories a woman uses to judge how a guy is “better” than other guys:
- He has a higher “alpha” score. (He excites and arouses her better than others.)
- He has a higher “beta” score. (He makes her feel more secure and loved than others.)
- He’s more easily attainable. (The more physically/emotionally available he is than others, the better.)
If your long-distance girlfriend is still with you, you’re lucky. It means you’re the “best” guy in her life at the moment.
But you have one HUGE weakness:
You’re not the most attainable guy in her life, simply because you’re not physically available.
You might Skype with her nightly, and that’s great. But the rest of the day, she’s out in town, meeting other guys all the time.
And when she meets a guy who’s just as good as you, but more attainable, since he lives in the same town as her…
…then you’re in trouble. You can bet she’ll be thinking about ending your relationship and starting a new one with the “better” guy.
Now, you might be thinking:
“Not All Women Are Like That!”
Or maybe: “Not MY girlfriend! She’d NEVER do that to me!”
Okay, your LDR might be going well now. But the longer you go without closing the distance, the less likely things will work out.
Check your LDR for any of the following signs:
- You’re chatting with your girlfriend less frequently
- She’s getting more and more preoccupied, even during your Skype calls
- She’s NO LONGER asking when you’ll be moving to her town/country
If you’ve noticed any of these three signs in your LDR, then be worried. She’s less concerned about your approval, and more concerned about dating closer to home.
And if you believe she’d “never” cheat on you, then you might be setting yourself up for a rude awakening.
So what should you do?
Simple: You need to make her see, feel, and believe that you’re the absolute best guy for her IN THE WORLD.
How To Keep Your Girlfriend From Cheating In A Long Distance Relationship
Take a good look at the happiest, most contented, most supportive women around. What are their boyfriends and husbands like?
You’ll notice that these happy, contented, supportive women have men who are:
- More attractive than they are
- Stronger and more dominant than they are
- More successful than they are
Meanwhile, you’ll also notice that the opposite is true. The unhappiest, most frustrated, and least supportive women have men who are:
- Less attractive than they are
- Weaker and/or less dominant than they are
- Less successful than they are
It’s not about how “honest” or “loyal” these guys are.
It’s not about how much they care about their women.
And it’s not about how much trust they put in their women.
Instead, it’s all about one thing: How much more attractive they are than their women.
There’s a “gap” in their attractiveness. In Shogun Method terms, this is called the “Sexual Value Gap,” or “SV Gap” for short.
And the more your SV Gap is in your favor (i.e. you’re more attractive than your woman)…
…the happier, more contented, and more supportive she is with you.
But when your SV Gap slips, that’s when she starts losing interest in you.
That’s hypergamy at work. Hypergamy cannot be denied.
What It Means When She’s Losing Interest
In the beginning, your girlfriend likely thought you were more attractive than her. That’s why she was happy, contented, and perfectly fine with waiting for you to move to her town.
But as the months went by, things happened that lowered your attractiveness in her eyes:
- You revealed some traits/habits she didn’t like
- You missed a few Skype calls with her
- You had to reschedule a visit or two
- You weren’t clear on when you were moving to her town and how
All these little slips add up. Soon she’ll start wondering if your relationship is making her miss out on better men in her own town.
The more your SV Gap shrinks, the bigger the risk she’ll end your relationship.
If you can move and settle into her town soon, do so.
But if you can’t, then you’ll need to increase your SV Gap, and fast.
How To Keep The Fire Burning In Your Long Distance Relationship
What’s the fastest way to increase your SV Gap and keep her from cheating on you and/or ending your LDR?
Answer: With Mind Control. Or more specifically, a Mind Control technique.
The technique is called “Fake Breakup.” Here’s how it works…
Try to imagine how SHE would break up with you. She’d probably say something like, “I think we should take a time out,” or “I think we should see other people,” right?
That’s how you do it. You stop being so affectionate and caring all the time, and add a little emotional drama into your LDR.
Here are three examples of how to do that:
- Low Risk: When having a casual conversation with her, talk about your ex-girlfriend(s). This will make her think you have options, which in turn makes you more attractive.
- Medium Risk:When you miss a chat/call or don’t get in touch when you promised, don’t apologize. Instead, when she asks what happened, tell her: “I just needed some alone time,” and don’t explain any further. It’ll get her thinking about you.
- High Risk:When she gets mad, don’t apologize or supplicate. Instead, angrily tell her: “You’re just like everyone else. I thought you were different.” Then end the call or walk out on her.
Of course, once she apologizes or does anything you approve of, restore the balance. Give her lots of loving reassurance. Very important step to the process.
Through it all, avoid apologizing or doing anything that lowers your attractiveness. That’s the key.
And instead, you want to do more things that raise your attractiveness. Show strength, dominance, dispassion, and independence.
You want her to think: “Wow, he’s attractive and dominant, and he has options… but he’s choosing ME!”
When she has that thought in her mind, she’d be crazy to risk losing you by seeing other guys in her town.
How To Make Your Long Distance Relationship Work
How do you know your LDR is doing well again? It’s when your girlfriend is reverting to her old self:
- Always excited to see you or hear from you
That’s the power of Mind Control. Mind Control is all about bending the female mind to do your will, and “Fake Breakup” does that very, very well.
Is Mind Control evil?
No, it’s not. Then again, it’s not good either. It’s neutral. The purpose BEHIND Mind Control makes it good or bad.
In your case, if your purpose is to lead a great relationship, make your woman happy, and marry her for life…
…then Mind Control is very, very good.
Want your long distance relationship to work?
Then master Mind Control.
It’s your best choice by far – definitely better than to “just trust each other,” right?
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Now go ahead – make your long distance relationship work.
P.S.: Are you in a long-distance relationship right now? What are the specific challenges you face? What has worked for you, and what hasn’t? Let me know in the comments section below.