Things To Say To Get Your Girlfriend To Forgive You
Have you wronged your girlfriend recently, and she’s now making your life hell as a result?
You might have hurt her feelings, lied to her, or cheated on her, etc. And now, she’s making you pay the price:
- She’s withholding sex from you
- She’s no longer doing favors for you (cooking, doing your errands, etc.)
- She kicked you out of her house
- Etc.
At this point, you may feel like you owe her an apology. You feel the need to “make things right,” but you want to know the best way to do it.
Guess what – if you’re reading this guide, and you have NOT apologized to your girlfriend yet…
…then you’re EXTREMELY LUCKY.
Because what you’re about to read in this Shogun Method guide is unlike anything you’ve ever seen elsewhere…
…and might very well SHOCK you.
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How To Apologize To Your Girlfriend And Get Her Back
Here’s the shocking part: You should NOT apologize to your girlfriend.
You read that right. Want to apologize to your girlfriend? DON’T.
And by the time you reach the end of this guide, you’ll understand completely.
Here’s why you shouldn’t apologize to your girlfriend…
Men and women see apologies in vastly different ways.
For men, we see apologizing as a way of making things right. It gives justice to the oppressed and restores honor to the oppressor.
To men, apologizing is a system of justice.
How She Sees Your Apologies
Women, on the other hand, view the act of apologizing differently.
To women, apologizing does NOT restore honor or justice or “balance.”
Instead, to women, apologizing is a VALIDATION of the offended party’s feelings.
Here’s why: Women are NOT wired to think logically, especially when they’re upset or under distress.
When women are upset, they think EMOTIONALLY.
We’ve all experienced it many times before, right? When a woman is upset, there’s no reasoning with her. You either make her feel better, or you’re part of the problem.
When you offend or upset your girlfriend, her thought process goes thus:
“I feel bad, therefore what my boyfriend did MUST be bad.”
And when you apologize to her, she thinks:
“I was right. What he did WAS bad. I’m right and he’s wrong.”
This applies whether or not you objectively did something wrong. If she subjectively feels bad, then her mind automatically concludes what you did WAS bad.
That’s the female mind.
And that’s precisely the reason why you should NOT apologize.
What Happens When You Apologize
Now, you might be thinking: “Well, what I did WAS wrong.”
Sure. That judgment call is up to you.
But should you APOLOGIZE for it?
Here’s why not. When you apologize, regardless of your intentions, she’ll see you as SUBMITTING to her.
To her, you’re surrendering your power and lowering your status beneath hers.
That’s what happens in her mind when you apologize.
But won’t she appreciate your gesture? After all, you did something wrong, and you’re not being a jerk about it like some guys would.
The answer: No, she won’t.
Here’s a bit of trivia:
The only things the female mind is hard-wired to feel attracted to are things like POWER and STATUS.
And when you apologize, you give both of those away.
The result? She’ll feel disgusted. She’ll respect you less, which means she’ll love you less.
And when she loves you less, the relationship starts to go to hell.
A Cost-Benefit Analysis Of Apologizing
Ever wondered why politicians, celebrities, athletes, etc. get caught doing something wrong…
…but they never apologize for it?
It’s because they know how DAMAGING apologizing would be to their reputations.
And yes, a growing mountain of scientific research proves it:
People actually like you LESS when you apologize than when you don’t, EVEN IF you did something wrong.
Think about it. Bill Clinton never directly apologized for his indiscretions in the 90’s. Today, he’s still a well-loved public figure.
In contrast, Lance Armstrong apologized for doping. He went from THE cancer survival poster boy to a pariah in a matter of days.
This should teach you two things:
- Standing your ground MIGHT make your girlfriend like you less.
- Apologizing WILL make her like you less.
To illustrate this, let’s do a cost-benefit analysis of apologizing vs. NOT apologizing…
When You Apologize…
The pros of apologizing include the restoration of normalcy in your relationship. She might have sex with you again, do things for you again, let you in the house again, etc.
The cons of apologizing?
You openly prove that SHE has the power in the relationship, not you.
Do you think she could bring herself to love someone weaker than her? Nope – no woman can.
When You DON’T Apologize…
The pros of NOT apologizing include maintaining your rightful leadership in your relationship. And if you want your relationship to last, your position as its leader is non-negotiable. (None of that equality bullshit, please.)
The cons of NOT apologizing? You may miss out on sex, food, or shelter for a while… but you can (and SHOULD) have the ability to get those elsewhere anyway.
How To Say Sorry To Your Girlfriend In A Romantic Way
As you can see, apologizing to your woman might give you some good results in the short term.
But it gives you HORRIBLE results in the long-term. You lose your leadership position, and your relationship moves closer to failure.
Now, you might be thinking: “Okay, but I still want her back.”
Fair enough. If you don’t do something, you might have a silent stand-off on your hands.
So I suggest you use the situation to your advantage. Do something that will not only KEEP her attracted to you but make her feel EVEN MORE attracted.
How? By putting her on an emotional rollercoaster.
More specifically…
You make her go through significant emotional pain, followed by significant emotional PLEASURE.
At this point, she’s ALREADY going through some pain. You did something wrong, and you haven’t apologized yet.
What to do next? Take the pain up another notch, with plans to relieve that pain later.
A good example of a rollercoaster is the one imposed by the “Fake Breakup” technique.
Try this:
- After you do something wrong and she demands an apology, you disappear from her life for a few days. Don’t answer her calls or texts.
- When she finally calms down and contacts you to talk, agree to meet up.
- When you meet up, tell her: “Maybe we should start seeing other people.” Don’t explain – stand your ground. If she gets upset again, disappear again until she calms down.
- When she calms down and asks you to reconsider, agree.
- Reward her with the love, certainty, strength, and sensual intimacy she can only get from you.
A rollercoaster like this will shake her emotionally until all she’ll care about is getting you back. Or, more specifically, she’ll want what she’s MISSING without you in her life back.
And then you give it back to her TWICE over.
As a result, she’ll love you more. She’ll be more forgiving. And she’ll respect your leadership even more, despite your failings.
Now here’s the thing about emotional rollercoasters:
They’re not meant to be “band-aids” for your relationship.
They’re meant to be a LIFESTYLE. They’re part of your personality, something you give regularly.
In Shogun Method, practitioners master this lifestyle by mastering its underlying technique:
A Mind Control technique called Fractionation.
The bad news: I can’t teach you the entirety of Fractionation in a single guide. Not enough space.
The good news? I have something even better lined up for that purpose.
If you want to master Fractionation today, you can join my Online Masterclass on Mind Control.
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So remember: Even when you do something wrong in your relationship, DON’T apologize. It’s so much better for your relationship than if you do.
And instead, put her on emotional rollercoasters.
When you do, your relationship gets stronger and happier over time – even if you DO slip up from time to time.
But again, emotional rollercoasters aren’t band-aids. They’re meant to be a LIFESTYLE.
And the fastest way to adopt that lifestyle? Master Fractionation.
You can do that today by joining my Masterclass. If you’re interested, here’s the link again.
Now go ahead – restore the balance YOUR way.
P.S.: Can you remember a moment when standing your ground made you feel INCREDIBLY good? Tell me your story in the comments section.
Hello Rake, I had ups & downs with this new girl. We’re only few weeks old & I’ve tried putting her on emotional rollercoaster. Last one was when she called me at night & I was with friends so she was asking who am I with told her friends & she didn’t believe me thinking there were girls around. I just hung my phone. So She went mad after that night, my mistake was to apologise to her so how can I fix that mistake.