“Here’s a good exercise for you to improve on any skill – not only for dating and seducing women,” said the Master.
“Have you ever looked at yourself from a third person’s point of view? Have you stepped outside yourself and observed your behavior when you are around females?”
I shook my head.
“Then do this,” continued the Master, “Visualize yourself talking to a woman you just approached, and want to close.” (Sidenote: the method of visualization in seduction can be found here.)
I closed my eyes, and let my imagination take over.
“Now listen up,” the Master ordered. “Answer me this – are you too predictable?”
“Are you acting just like every other guy?”
“Do you turn up on time? Or early even?”
“Do you ask questions like ‘What is your job’, ‘Where do you live’, and God forbid, ‘Am I your type’?”
“Are you too predictable?”
The Master’s lesson for the day was profound.
The problem with guys is that they act just like every other guy. Women get turned off because guys are too predictable, and too desperate. Their brilliant idea for dates – dinner and movie.
The Master said, “Most men think that it’s proper to please women to make them happy. The sad thing is that when they are too compliant, they commit the biggest sin there is in dating and seducing women – by BEING BORING.”
“Look at yourself from a third person’s point of view. Do you commit the sin of being boring?”
I opened up my eyes. “So what do I do then, Master? How do I stop being predictable?”
Master smiled. “Well, just mix it all up.”
“Be 20 minutes late for dates.”
“If she asks you to turn down the radio in your car, turn it up instead.”
“Ask her what she wants to do in her life. And if she is not making any progress in going nearer to her dreams, challenge her.”
“But Master,” I asked, “don’t all women want stability in their partner?”
“Good question, Derek,” the Master answered. “That is what they tell you what they want – but don’t we all know that women don’t know what they want themselves?”
“Deep down inside, they yearn for the adventure and emotional roller coaster that they see in the movies and soap operas. So, give it to them. And reap the benefits.”
And of course, the best and most effective way to be unpredictable is to use a technique like Fractionation.