What To Do If She Has A Boyfriend
Ever found yourself dating a woman who likes you, and made it CLEAR she likes you…
…but unfortunately, she has a boyfriend?
So did Brad, one of my Shogun Method clients. Brad had been dating Betty, a woman he worked with and later got into an intimate relationship with.
According to Brad, he and Betty were REALLY into each other. But they kept their relationship hush-hush. Betty already had a boyfriend, although she had been having problems with him lately.
At the time, Brad was a new Shogun Method practitioner, so he decided to ask me what he should do.
What I taught Brad that day, and what I tell EVERY guy dating a “taken” woman, is in this special Shogun Method guide.
If you, too, are in a relationship with a taken woman, then pay close attention to the tips you’ll learn in this guide.
Table of Contents
- What To Do If She Has A Boyfriend
- How To Deal With The Boyfriend – And Why It’s Okay To “Steal” Her
- What To Do If She Has A Boyfriend
- Make Her Choose You
How To Deal With The Boyfriend – And Why It’s Okay To “Steal” Her
Most “white knights” and “nice guys” would tell you that if a woman is already taken, the right thing to do would be to back off.
These guys claim that her boyfriend already “owns” her, and taking her away from him would be “stealing.”
Unfortunately, the screwballs are wrong for three reasons:
Reason #1: People Can’t “Own” Other People.
This is the “legal” reason. You can’t “own” other people – that’s illegal.
There’s a term for that, right? It’s called slavery.
So you can’t say a guy “owns” a girl just because he’s her boyfriend. No one can.
Reason #2: No One Wants To Settle For Less.
This is the “practical” reason. Your goal for your love life is to win “the woman of your dreams.”
And if it isn’t your goal, it SHOULD be. Do you really want to settle for less than what you want?
Here’s the problem: 95-98% of all worthwhile women out there – the really attractive, high-quality “10 out of 10’s”…
…are already taken.
And the single ones among them won’t be single for long.
If you only date single women, then you’re scavenging among the “leftovers” of the dating game. You’ll be settling for less.
You have a clear idea of your “9” or “10” woman, but you’re stuck with the “3’s” and “4’s.”
Now, some guys say: “The woman I want already has a boyfriend, so I’ll just wait my turn. As soon as she dumps him, I’ll swoop right in.”
Sorry, that won’t work either.
Because women will dump their boyfriends IF AND ONLY IF they already have another man lined up.
Here’s why: A woman’s Sexual Market Value (SV), or her attractiveness to men, goes lower with every ex-boyfriend she has.
The more ex-boyfriends she’s had, the less attractive she’ll be to most men. That means she’ll be less likely to find the perfect guy.
So before she dumps her boyfriend, she’ll secretly date around until she finds a better option.
Quick recap: Don’t settle for leftovers, and don’t wait your turn. Don’t settle for less.
Reason #3: She’s Already Considering Leaving Him.
This is the “logical” reason. If a taken woman is clearly into you, it means she’s already considering leaving her boyfriend for you.
In other words, getting her to leave him would be a win-win situation:
- It’s better for you
- It’s better for her, too.
Granted, it’s bad for the boyfriend. But if he hadn’t been treating her well enough to make her want to stay, that’s his fault, not yours.
What To Do If She Has A Boyfriend
So when a taken woman dates you, she knows what she’s doing. She’s close to dumping her boyfriend, and she’s looking for better options before she breaks up with him.
Here’s your next challenge: To find out if she’s REALLY going to leave her boyfriend.
There’s only two reasons why a taken woman would date another man:
- She’s either really going to leave him as soon as she finds a better option…
- Or she still loves her boyfriend, but she’s not satisfied in certain areas of their relationship. For instance, she might be sexually unfulfilled, and she gets her fix by secretly dating other men.
If you’re in the first situation with her (she’s looking for a new boyfriend), then that’s your cue. Go all-in and win her.
If you’re in the second situation with her (she’s just looking for a thrill), then don’t waste too much of your time with her. Enjoy it while it lasts, give her what she wants, but don’t get your hopes up.
When I told this to Brad, he asked me: “Okay, but how can I tell which of the two situations I’m in? Should I just go ahead and ask Betty directly?”
I answered: “No, absolutely not.”
“But why not?” Brad pressed. “Shouldn’t good relationships be based on honesty?”
Again, I answered: “No. For fuck’s sake, no.”
And I explained why.
Why You Should NOT Be Direct With Her
Whenever a woman makes a decision regarding her love life, she always has two things in mind:
- Her need for a happy, exciting, secure relationship
- Her need to keep a good reputation
Between the two, the second one – her reputation – takes priority.
Yes – her reputation is MORE IMPORTANT to her than being in a good relationship with a good man.
Why? Simple – because to a woman, a bad reputation means it’s “game over” for her in terms of dating and relationships.
When a woman has a bad standing in society, high-quality men will NOT date her. When she risks her reputation, she’s jeopardizing her future and the future of her kids.
Women are biologically wired to AVOID that at all costs.
So when you directly ask her whether she wants to leave her boyfriend for real… or if she’s just getting her fix…
…you’re in fact forcing her to choose.
You’re forcing her to choose either:
- A happier relationship with you, but at the cost of being seen as a cheater; or
- To keep her good reputation by stopping her trysts with you.
Naturally, she’ll choose #2.
She’ll stop seeing you, go back to her unhappy relationship, and try again with her next best option. And she’ll hope her next fling won’t be so direct with her.
So don’t make that mistake. Don’t be direct and upfront with her.
And instead, reveal her true intentions by eliciting her values.
How To Elicit Her Values
“Value elicitation” is a Mind Control technique. It’s meant to do one thing: To make your target reveal her true values.
Value elicitation is a harmless, indirect way to get the truth from a woman.
In Brad’s case, I told him to simply ask Betty a simple value elicitation question:
“Is there anything you still love about him?”
Indirect. Harmless. And it lets her pin the blame on her boyfriend if she wants to, absolving herself of any fault.
I told Brad to take note of Betty’s reaction to that question:
- If she stares into space wistfully, with a smile on her face, then it doesn’t matter what she answers. She still loves him, and you’re just her “fix.”
- If she looks straight at you and flat-out answers, “Nothing,” or “What kind of question is that?” Then it means she DOESN’T love her boyfriend anymore, and she’s serious about you.
In Brad’s case, Betty’s response was closer to #2. According to Brad, Betty answered: “Are you kidding? I’d dump his ass for you in a heartbeat.”
So Brad happily moved on to the next step in the game plan:
To make Betty break up with her boyfriend and start a new relationship with him.
To do that, he used another Mind Control technique I taught him:
The emotional rollercoaster.
Make Her Choose You
Needless to say, Brad and Betty got their “happily ever after.” Now it’s your turn.
If you’re dating a woman who’s taken, and you want to know if she really loves you or is just getting her fix from you…
…then take these steps:
- Don’t be upfront and direct with her
- Use value elicitation techniques on her
- Put her on emotional rollercoasters to seal the deal
If you want to master all three steps today, then I invite you to sign up for my Online Masterclass on Mind Control. Click below to sign up:
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Now go ahead – be the best thing to ever happen to her.
P.S: Have you ever gotten a woman to leave her boyfriend for you? How well (or how badly) did it go? Tell me your story in the comments section below.