I’ve been a member of the Shogun Method community for a while now and have an issue I wanted to bring up. This one might be a little bit unusual compared to the typical ones other people have, but here it is.
About 4 months ago I met a girl and we quickly connected. We flirted with each other and things seemed to be going well. She often gave me signs of interest.
Shortly after, I found out she had recently come out of a very painful breakup that left her emotionally destroyed, and she claims that she has a wall around her heart. I made a few mistakes with her that sent me straight to the friendzone, and when I asked her out on a date, she said we’re not compatible, and even denied flirting with me.
She is currently suffering from depression, seeing a therapist, drinking too much alcohol and using drugs, as well as hanging out and partying with dangerous people that are into that. Her friends are alcoholics, junkies, and pickup artists that can only hurt her even more. She often drives under the influence at night and I’m scared that sooner or later she’s going to get in very serious trouble if the police catch her, and she’s 30 already, not a teenager anymore. She’s admitted her life is a mess but isn’t doing anything to change it. She is a good person but has a low self-esteem, a weak willpower, and a huge emotional vacuum that she can’t fill in.
Because I refuse to hang out with her at night when she’s with these questionable people and will only do stuff during the day and no substances, she doesn’t invite me to her night plans cause she knows I won’t go, so we’ve started to become distant, and I’m getting very concerned. She’s lost in life and doesn’t even know what she wants. She claims she wants to find a man to have kids with, but her current lifestyle is the opposite of what a future mother should have.
I wanna get her out of that dangerous path. My friends say she’s a lost case. I know the easy thing to do is forget about her and find someone else that deserves my time and effort. But I don’t wanna give up on her just yet. If I abandon her, her life will be ruined. It’s slowly spiraling out of control, just like many people these days, and I seem to be the only one willing to help her. Her friends are part of the problem, and the decent people she knows (who are friends of mine too) are distancing themselves from her because they don’t want to get involved with a loose cannon, which is understandable. I feel I’m the only one that wants to help her, but I’m not sure what or how to do it.
I know the Shogun Method can also be applied to deal with phobias, traumas, and depression, and wonder if I could use it on this girl not only to attract her but also to manipulate her out of that life of alcohol and drugs she is in right now, so that she becomes someone I want to be with. Applying the same principles found in the Boyfriend Destroyer (in this case against her bad habits and friends) or Anchoring (anchor negative emotions to her bad habits and friends and good emotions to me). I really care about this girl and we’re more compatible than she claims. I won’t have an alcoholic and junkie girlfriend, but if I manage to get her back on the right path, a future with her isn’t that far-fetched.
She just traveled home to visit her family and will be away for 2 weeks. I feel this is the perfect chance for me to have a no contact period with her while I arm myself with Shogun Method knowledge and, once she’s back, start over and make her feel that something has happened to me while she was away, like I’m a new person that she could be potentially interested in romantically.
I will truly appreciate any advice you can give me. And you’re welcome to share my story with other Shogun practitioners in case someone else is going through something similar.
P.S.: Fun Fact, the girl’s name is Amber. Hope our story doesn’t end up like Johnny Depp and Amber Heard’s.
Derek Rake’s Answer:
John, very honorable of you to do this. While I will applaud your intentions, I want you to realize how little you can do to stop a woman who is bent on staying on the path of self-destruction.
Shogun Method can be retro-fitted for many purposes, but it’s a mistake to assume you can use it to fix a woman’s emotional problems. The better way to think about this is–use Shogun Method as per its original design–to emotionally enslave a woman. When you get her through the IRAE Model up until the E stage, instead of getting controlled by her self destruction tendencies, she will be controlled by you. This way, you’ll in fact be saving her by removing her from the driving seat of her life.
This is a somewhat paradoxical idea that by controlling your woman’s mind, you’re saving her.
Hope that helps, and good luck.