She might be a crush. Or she might be a woman you can\u2019t have.<\/p>\n
Or she might be a girl you like who doesn\u2019t like you back.<\/p>\n
Whichever variation applies to you, obsessing over a girl is a common problem. In Shogun Method, new clients come to me all the time with the same problem: \u201cDerek, I\u2019m obsessed with a woman.\u201d<\/p>\n
Well, let\u2019s solve the problem once and for all, shall we?<\/p>\n
This Shogun Method guide will show you:<\/p>\n
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- What the underlying cause of your obsession is<\/li>\n
- What NEVER to do about it<\/li>\n
- And what to do instead if you want success and happiness in love and dating.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
Let\u2019s hop to it.<\/p>\n\n
Introducing Oneitis<\/strong><\/h2>\n
Y<\/span>our problem \u2013 obsessing over one woman \u2013 is so common that it has a proper name in dating circles.<\/strong><\/p>\n
It\u2019s called \u201coneitis.\u201d (Pronounced one-itis.)<\/p>\n
Oneitis is the condition of being too obsessed with one woman to notice any other woman around you.<\/p>\n
And its primary symptom? Steadily worsening emotional suffering:<\/p>\n
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- You can\u2019t stop fantasizing about her<\/li>\n
- The more you think about her, the more desperate you feel<\/li>\n
- Your obsession gets in the way of work, sleep, and general enjoyment of life<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
Needless to say, oneitis is something you MUST get rid of ASAP.<\/p>\n
The challenge? It\u2019s not that easy.<\/p>\n
Tackling oneitis is a twofold approach:<\/p>\n
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- You\u2019ll first need to learn what\u2019s CAUSING it;<\/li>\n
- And secondly, you need to know how to CURE it.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
Let\u2019s take a look at Step #1.<\/p>\n
Why You Get Oneitis<\/strong><\/h3>\n
So why did you get oneitis in the first place?<\/strong><\/p>\n
Oneitis is caused by a flaw in the human mind. It\u2019s a flaw that operates this way:<\/p>\n
\u201cThe more you do something for a person, the more you like them.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n
If you\u2019ll notice, it\u2019s the opposite of common knowledge. Normally, you\u2019d expect to like a person more if THEY did things for you, not the other way around.<\/p>\n
In reality, the opposite is true.<\/p>\n
In psychology, this well-documented mental flaw is called the \u201cBen Franklin Effect.\u201d It was named after the American Founding Father who noted it more than once in his memoirs.<\/p>\n
In your case, your mind is subconsciously operating that way:<\/p>\n
\u201cI\u2019m working so hard to find ways to win her love. That means she MUST be special.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n
But is that even true?<\/p>\n
READ ALSO: Why Do Women Play Games With Men<\/a>?<\/div><\/div><\/strong><\/p>\nWhen Oneitis Becomes Critical<\/strong><\/h3>\n
Now, it\u2019s normal to have a LITTLE oneitis.<\/strong><\/p>\n
After all, ours is a monogamous society. When you\u2019re new to the dating game, you tend to set your eyes on only one woman at a time.<\/p>\n
What\u2019s NOT normal is this: When you\u2019re STILL obsessing over a woman even:<\/p>\n
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- After she has already rejected you<\/li>\n
- If she\u2019s been playing hard-to-get for MONTHS<\/li>\n
- If she\u2019s already (very) happily taken<\/li>\n
- After she has already put you in her Friend Zone<\/li>\n
- If you haven\u2019t spoken to her for the longest time<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
If any of the above (or similar) applies to you, then that\u2019s a bad sign. It\u2019s a sign your oneitis has spiraled out of control.<\/p>\n
You\u2019ve thought about her so much and done so much for her that she\u2019s become incredibly VALUABLE in your mind…<\/p>\n
…even if she’s really not.<\/p>\n
And as a result, your emotional suffering gets worse and worse.<\/p>\n
The oneitis has got to stop before it kills you.<\/p>\n
How To Stop Obsessing Over Someone<\/strong><\/h2>\n
H<\/span>ere\u2019s how to cure oneitis: You need to snap back to cold, hard reality.<\/strong><\/p>\n
And the reality is this:<\/p>\n
She\u2019s NOT that special.<\/em><\/p>\n
In fact, she\u2019s probably just like most other girls around the world… with her own flaws, ugly habits, and skeletons in her closet.<\/p>\n
You\u2019ve just brainwashed yourself into thinking she\u2019s special.<\/p>\n
Also, just in case you think she\u2019s \u201cthe one\u201d for you…<\/p>\n
…she\u2019s NOT that, either.<\/p>\n
Cold, hard reality time: There\u2019s no such thing as \u201cthe one.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n
At any given time, there are thousands of women in the world who would be NEAR-PERFECT GIRLFRIENDS for you.<\/p>\n
That\u2019s hundreds, or thousands, of \u201cthe ones\u201d for you.<\/p>\n
And chances are she\u2019s NOT one of them.<\/p>\n
Here\u2019s what you need to understand: The good things you believe about her are probably not true.<\/p>\n
They\u2019re just a product of a mental flaw that\u2019s been hard-wired into you and every other human on the planet.<\/p>\n
The good news?<\/p>\n
It\u2019s a mental flaw you CAN overcome.<\/p>\n
READ ALSO: Why Are Women So Mean To Men<\/a><\/div><\/div><\/strong><\/p>\nOvercoming Oneitis<\/strong><\/h3>\n
To overcome oneitis, you\u2019ll need to understand ANOTHER fact about your mind:<\/strong><\/p>\n
That your mind can only hold one conscious thought at a time.<\/em><\/p>\n
And that one thought should NOT be about her… or any other woman, for that matter.<\/p>\n
Instead, start filling your mind with things that improve YOU as a man.<\/p>\n
Fill your mind with thoughts that:<\/p>\n
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- Increase your sense of manliness<\/li>\n
- Increase your sense of strength<\/li>\n
- Increase your sense of dominance over women<\/li>\n
- Increase your attractiveness to women<\/li>\n
- Increase your control over your life and relationships<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
In other words, you\u2019ll need to start building mental strength and mental fitness.<\/strong><\/p>\n
Mental Strength And Fitness<\/strong><\/h3>\n
Mental strength is your CAPACITY to control your beliefs and feelings.<\/strong><\/p>\n
Mental fitness is your READINESS to face challenges to your beliefs and feelings.<\/p>\n
To build mental strength, you\u2019ll need to:<\/p>\n
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- Know and respect the intellectual differences between men and women<\/li>\n
- Know how the female mind works when it comes to love and attraction<\/li>\n
- Know how to trigger feelings of irresistible attraction in women<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
To build mental readiness, you\u2019ll need to:<\/p>\n
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- Know that women WILL test and challenge you<\/li>\n
- Know how to respond to these challenges and tests in ways that make them more attracted to you<\/li>\n
- Learn how to NOT be affected by the outcomes of your interactions with women<\/li>\n<\/ol>\nREAD ALSO: How To Get Over Someone You Love<\/a><\/div><\/div><\/strong><\/p>\n
The Two Ways To Build Mental Strength And Fitness<\/strong><\/h2>\n
T<\/span>he normal way to build mental strength and fitness is to practice.<\/strong><\/p>\n
You go out there, you meet lots of new women, you get rejected a bunch of times…<\/p>\n
…you get rejected a few times, you make an embarrassing mistake or two…<\/p>\n
…and over time, you learn from your mistakes, and you get mentally stronger and fitter.<\/p>\n
This approach has a significant drawback though. It might take YEARS before you start seeing some real success with women, especially if you\u2019re new to the game.<\/p>\n
What\u2019s worse, the failures can be discouraging. Too often, I\u2019ve met men who tried building their mental strength and fitness through practice…<\/p>\n
…but after a string of rejections, they give up and start settling for less than what they want.<\/p>\n
That\u2019s why I suggest you take the FAST way to build mental strength and fitness.<\/p>\n
And that\u2019s by mastering Mind Control.<\/p>\n
Mind Control gives you both the mental strength AND fitness to become the kind of man EVERY woman wants all to herself… even if you\u2019re not quite there yet.<\/p>\n
Mind Control = Total Control<\/strong><\/h3>\n
The happiest, most successful guys out there \u2013 the guys women LOVE…<\/strong><\/p>\n
…are ALL masters of Mind Control, whether they know it or not.<\/p>\n
They simply understand that when it comes to dating, it\u2019s NOT about what YOU think about women.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s about what WOMEN think about YOU.<\/strong><\/p>\n
And Mind Control makes women think and feel ALL the right things about you:<\/p>\n
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- That you\u2019re the strongest guy they\u2019ve ever met<\/li>\n
- That you\u2019re the sexiest guy they\u2019ve ever met<\/li>\n
- That you\u2019re the most dominant guy they\u2019ve ever met<\/li>\n
- That you\u2019re the most charismatic guy they\u2019ve ever met<\/li>\n
- That you\u2019re the most exciting guy they\u2019ve ever met<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
…even if you\u2019re completely new to the dating game.<\/p>\n
Tired of oneitis?<\/p>\n
Tired of suffering emotionally?<\/p>\n
Want to be in TOTAL CONTROL of your love life for a change?<\/p>\n
Then I invite you to learn Mind Control today by joining my Online Masterclass on Mind Control.<\/p>\n
You can sign right up by clicking below:<\/strong><\/p>\n
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(NOTE: Use your best e-mail address when signing up. It\u2019s where I\u2019ll send your Invite Ticket as soon as you pass our screening systems.)<\/p>\n
So remember: If you\u2019re obsessing over a girl, you\u2019re torturing yourself for nothing.<\/p>\n
Because it\u2019s not what you think about a woman that matters.<\/p>\n
What matters is what WOMEN think about YOU.<\/p>\n
My advice? Don’t fill your mind with women.<\/p>\n
Instead, fill your mind with the stuff that makes women WANT you.<\/p>\n
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