{"id":6464,"date":"2018-07-07T17:51:36","date_gmt":"2018-07-07T09:51:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/derekrake.com\/blog\/?p=6464"},"modified":"2018-07-09T05:40:11","modified_gmt":"2018-07-08T21:40:11","slug":"steps-to-save-a-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/derekrake.com\/blog\/steps-to-save-a-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"How To Save A Marriage When Only One Is Trying"},"content":{"rendered":"

“I Want To Save My Marriage. What Am I Doing Wrong?”<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Is your marriage on the rocks?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Are you doing everything you can to save your marriage, but it seems like you\u2019re the only one<\/em> trying to?<\/p>\n

Do you feel your wife is pushing your marriage closer and closer to divorce?<\/p>\n

I know how it feels \u2013 it\u2019s frustrating as hell, and you can\u2019t help but feel like a loser. You work so hard for so many years, but your wife doesn\u2019t even try. You give<\/em> and give<\/em>, but your wife takes<\/em> and takes<\/em>.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re wondering if you should just cut your losses and give up…<\/p>\n

…but at the same time, you have this burning desire in you:<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m going to do WHATEVER IT TAKES to rekindle this marriage<\/a>.\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

If that\u2019s how you feel, then here\u2019s some good news:<\/p>\n

It\u2019s entirely possible to save your marriage, even if you\u2019re the only one trying to.<\/strong><\/p>\n

In fact, as this Shogun Method guide will show you how to save a marriage when only one is trying. Heck, it\u2019s even BETTER if you\u2019re the only one trying.<\/em><\/p>\n

Here\u2019s how to save your marriage by yourself and forge that \u201chappily ever after\u201d… even when your spouse doesn’t want to.<\/p>\n\n

Can One Person Save A Marriage?<\/strong><\/h2>\n

First of all, let\u2019s get the bad news out of the way.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Saving your marriage? It really IS<\/strong><\/em> on you.<\/p>\n

When you want to save a failing marriage, you only have two choices:<\/p>\n

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  1. You can save your marriage all on your own, or<\/li>\n
  2. You can wait and hope your wife starts \u201cdoing her share of the work\u201d and help you save your marriage.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    By now, you should already know that Choice #2 is essentially waiting for nothing<\/em>.<\/p>\n

    Your wife will NOT<\/u>\u00a0help you save your marriage. Especially not in America, where the divorce route is a much more attractive choice for her.<\/p>\n

    So again, that\u2019s the bad news. Saving your marriage is entirely on you<\/span>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

    The good news?<\/p>\n

    If you’re wondering is one person can save a marriage, then the answer is YES.<\/strong><\/p>\n

    YOU<\/em> are all you need to save your marriage.<\/p>\n

    READ ALSO: How To Make A Relationship Last<\/a><\/div><\/div><\/strong><\/p>\n

    How To Save A Marriage When She Wants Out<\/strong><\/h2>\n

    Whenever any man comes to me help with his failing marriage, I always give him the same advice:<\/p>\n

    Follow the VCRD Model.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

    What\u2019s the VCRD Model?<\/p>\n

    \u201cVCRD\u201d stands for the four steps to saving a failing marriage:<\/p>\n

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    1. Validation<\/strong><\/li>\n
    2. Confirmation<\/strong><\/li>\n
    3. Restoration<\/strong><\/li>\n
    4. Dependence<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      Throughout the whole four-step process, you\u2019ll be doing all the work.<\/p>\n

      But at the end of it all, not only will you save your marriage and prevent a divorce…<\/p>\n

      …but you\u2019ll also make your wife so happy<\/a> and committed that she\u2019d never even think of leaving you again.<\/p>\n

      The catch?<\/p>\n

      Just this: You\u2019ll be inflicting some emotional pain on your wife.<\/strong><\/p>\n

      And if that\u2019s something you\u2019ve never done before, then you might be thinking: \u201cOh, geez, suddenly I don\u2019t think I want to do this.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

      That\u2019s a fair sentiment. But you\u2019ll also need to remember that you really only have two choices at this point:<\/p>\n

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      1. Would you rather hurt her emotionally and save your marriage?<\/li>\n
      2. Or would you rather preserve her feelings, but surrender to divorce?<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

        If you really DIDN\u2019T have that burning desire to \u201cdo whatever it takes,\u201d then you\u2019d probably surrender and choose option #2.<\/p>\n

        But if you DO have that desire…<\/p>\n

        …if you WILL do whatever it takes to save your marriage…<\/p>\n

        …then you\u2019d pick Choice #1 in a heartbeat.<\/p>\n

        If that sounds like you, then let\u2019s not waste any more time.<\/p>\n

        READ ALSO: How To Deal With A Narcissistic Wife<\/a><\/div><\/div><\/strong><\/p>\n

        Four Steps To Save A Marriage<\/strong><\/h2>\n

        Here\u2019s how the VCRD Model works:<\/p>\n

        Step #1: Validation<\/strong><\/h3>\n

        In the Validation Stage, you make your wife feel like you\u2019ve accepted the reality that your marriage is over.<\/strong><\/p>\n

        You either:<\/p>\n

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        1. Tell your wife you agree that parting ways is the best course of action, or<\/li>\n
        2. You initiate the breakup yourself.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

          Why would you intentionally end a marriage when you\u2019re trying to save it?<\/p>\n

          Answer:<\/p>\n

          Because you need to be covert. Hidden. Unreadable<\/em>.<\/p>\n

          When you OBVIOUSLY<\/em><\/strong> try to make the marriage work, you actually give your wife more power. You\u2019re showing you\u2019re working to win her approval, and she can control you by NOT giving you what you want<\/a>.<\/p>\n

          But when you suddenly \u201cgive up\u201d and part ways with her, she loses that power. Now she can\u2019t control you.<\/p>\n

          Now the ball\u2019s in YOUR court.<\/p>\n

          Step #2: Confirmation<\/strong><\/h3>\n

          Here\u2019s a fact: 80% of all breakups mend themselves within a month.<\/strong><\/p>\n

          That\u2019s because when a woman wants out of her relationship, she only looks forward to the positives of it. The freedom, the stress relief, the fun, etc.<\/p>\n

          But they don\u2019t expect the negatives<\/em>:<\/p>\n