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Sexual Tension: How To Identify And Deal With It<\/h2>\n

Truth:<\/p>\n

As a man, dealing with sexual tension is completely unavoidable<\/em>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

As you go through life you\u2019ll meet women:<\/p>\n

They could be your co-workers<\/a>, friends or neighbors.<\/p>\n

Or the girls in your class if you’re at college.<\/p>\n

Or even the barista at your local coffee shop.<\/p>\n

No matter, who it is…<\/p>\n

There\u2019s some type of energy between you and her.<\/em><\/p>\n

It\u2019s something I\u2019m often asked about:<\/p>\n

\u201cThere\u2019s this girl in my life…\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cI feel this incredible sexual tension<\/a> between us…\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cI want to make a move…\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cBut I don\u2019t know if it\u2019s real…\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

“What are the sexual tension signs<\/strong> to look out for?”<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cWhat should I do?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

To understand this…<\/p>\n

You first must understand what sexual tension IS<\/span>.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n

Sexual Tension: A Definition<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Sexual tension is a remarkably simple <\/em>thing, actually.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It means you\u2019re an \u201cOption.\u201d<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

She likes you…<\/p>\n

She\u2019s attracted to you…<\/p>\n

And guess what? If you play your cards right, she could well be yours<\/span>.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Here\u2019s why:<\/p>\n

Sexual tension kick-starts courting process.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

In the four stages of love<\/a>, sexual tension is stage zero<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Women need it.<\/p>\n

In fact, they love <\/em>it.<\/p>\n

Sexual tension is a feeling they CRAVE<\/em>.<\/p>\n

This all goes back to foreplay.<\/p>\n

(I\u2019m sure you understand how important foreplay is, right?)<\/em><\/p>\n

Women need it to get warmed up and, \u201cin the mood.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

Well, sexual tension is almost like a type of \u201cRelationship Foreplay.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

READ ALSO: How To Be A Player<\/a><\/strong><\/div><\/div>\n

Why Sexual Tension Is Important<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Here’s the thing…<\/p>\n

All successful relationships build on a foundation of great sexual tension.\u00a0<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

She HAS<\/u> to feel it before she can fall in love with you (or make love to you.)<\/p>\n

Not only that…<\/p>\n

Every woman wants a guy who\u2019s good in bed.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

They want a guy who\u2019s going to be sexually compatible <\/em>with them.<\/p>\n

You know, a guy they\u2019ll have INCREDIBLE sexual experiences with.<\/p>\n

And guess what? Sexual tension is a sign you\u2019re that guy.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

(It\u2019s basically her reptile brain giving you the “OK”.)<\/p>\n

On the other hand, know this…<\/p>\n

The ABSENCE<\/span> of sexual tension is a BAD<\/span> sign.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

It means you could be a dud<\/em> in bed.<\/p>\n

(Or worse, impotent.)<\/p>\n

And here\u2019s yet another reason why sexual tension is vital.<\/p>\n

Women see sexual tension as a gut feeling <\/em>that you\u2019re the right guy…<\/p>\n

…that this is going to \u201cwork.\u201d<\/p>\n

(And women base EVERYTHING on their feelings. EVERYTHING<\/em><\/strong>.)<\/p>\n

How To Know If There’s Sexual Tension Between You<\/strong><\/h2>\n

So, how do you know if there\u2019s sexual tension between you and her?<\/strong><\/p>\n

What are the sexual tension signs<\/em> to look out for?<\/p>\n

How do you know if she actually likes you?<\/p>\n

First, understand this…<\/p>\n

You need to be careful.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

There\u2019s a HUGE <\/em>mistake most guys make.<\/p>\n

(And if you make this huge mistake the sexual tension will evaporate in a heartbeat.)<\/p>\n

Here’s that mistake:<\/strong><\/p>\n

They think sexual tension means she\u2019s ready to jump into bed.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

And all they have to do is drag her back to the cave.<\/p>\n

And because of this they\u2019re WAY too forward…<\/p>\n

…and wind up coming off as desperate and needy<\/em>.<\/p>\n

READ ALSO: Dark Triad Test<\/a><\/strong><\/div><\/div>\n

Sexual Tension Doesn’t Have To Be “Sexual”<\/strong><\/h3>\n

This is where you need to pay attention because it’s important!<\/strong><\/p>\n

Just because it\u2019s called \u201cSexual Tension\u201d doesn\u2019t mean it has to be, \u201cSexual.\u201d<\/p>\n

(It\u2019s not like a porno movie where her blouse bursts open \u201caccidentally.\u201d)<\/p>\n

It\u2019s NEVER<\/span> <\/strong>like that.<\/p>\n

And if you think like this you\u2019re reading way too many “Pickup Artist<\/a>” or “Dating Guru” blogs.<\/p>\n

Nope, sexual tension is more like a type of subtle <\/em><\/strong>energy.<\/p>\n

And because of this the signs are subtle<\/em>.<\/p>\n

In fact, most men are often completely unaware of them…<\/p>\n

…and yet this is why every <\/em>guy needs to learn about this.<\/p>\n

Because believe me:<\/p>\n

Women ARE <\/em>checking you out.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

And it\u2019s more than likely that at least one’s interested.<\/p>\n

The list of twelve sexual tension signs<\/strong> below will help you know this for sure.<\/p>\n

(And save you from the embarrassment of being wrong.)<\/p>\n

Twelve Sexual Tension Signs<\/strong><\/h2>\n

How To Tell If Sexual Tension Is Mutual (For These 12 Signs)<\/strong><\/h3>\n
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  1. When you come into the room does she seem to perk up?<\/li>\n
  2. Does she get into your personal space (and allow you into hers)<\/em>?<\/li>\n
  3. Do you feel as if she\u2019s attracted to you?<\/li>\n
  4. Are YOU attracted to her (on more than just a superficial or physical level)<\/em>?<\/li>\n
  5. Could you see yourself in a relationship with her?<\/li>\n
  6. Does she frequently touch your arms or back?<\/li>\n
  7. Does she make excuses to spend time with you?<\/li>\n
  8. And when you see her does she \u201cmake an effort\u201d to look good?<\/li>\n
  9. Does she LISTEN when you talk?<\/li>\n
  10. And seem interested in what you have to say?<\/li>\n
  11. Does she seem nervous, intimidated (or, even a little scared around you)?<\/em><\/li>\n
  12. Or, is she mean to you? (Women are sometimes meanest to the guys they like most.)\u00a0<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    How many do you score in the list above?<\/p>\n

    READ ALSO: How To NOT Get Friendzoned<\/a><\/strong><\/div><\/div>\n

    Sexual Tension Body Language<\/strong><\/h3>\n

    Here\u2019s something else you should know about…<\/strong><\/p>\n

    I\u2019m a big believer in body language.<\/p>\n

    And while Shogun Method<\/a> is pretty much 90% verbal<\/em>, there’s no denying that body language is important<\/a>.<\/p>\n

    And you know what? There\u2019s a big sexual tension body language signal<\/em>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

    Which is…<\/p>\n

    Does she hold eye contact with you?<\/em><\/p>\n

    Here’s why eye contact important:<\/p>\n

    It is a type of emotional<\/em> and hypnotic<\/em> connection.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

    And holding it is a HUGE sign that you\u2019re in with her.<\/p>\n

    DON\u2019T BREAK IT FIRST.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

    Let her know that you\u2019re dominant<\/em><\/a>.<\/p>\n

    That you\u2019re the one in charge<\/em>.<\/p>\n

    And one more thing you need to know about “sexual tension body language”:<\/p>\n

    Being clumsy or dropping things is a strong sign of sexual tension.<\/strong><\/p>\n

    Anyway, all these means she likes you…<\/p>\n

    …and that sexual tension exists<\/strong>.<\/em><\/p>\n

    So far, so good!<\/p>\n

    How To Deal With Sexual Tension<\/strong><\/h2>\n

    OK, so there’s sexual tension between you and her. Now what?<\/strong><\/p>\n

    How do you capitalize on this?<\/p>\n

    Remember<\/span>: just because there’s sexual tension it doesn\u2019t mean it\u2019s a \u201cDone Deal.\u201d<\/p>\n

    Or, that she\u2019s going to go to bed with you.<\/p>\n

    How Women Deal With Sexual Tension<\/strong><\/h3>\n

    Now, if you haven’t realized it already…<\/p>\n

    Women are strange.<\/strong><\/p>\n

    They can feel sexual tension and at the same time not<\/em><\/strong><\/span> act on it.<\/p>\n

    There may be lots of reasons for this…<\/p>\n

    Maybe she has a boyfriend. (Or worse, she’s married<\/a>.)<\/p>\n

    Or, she’s mending a broken heart<\/a> from a bad relationship.<\/p>\n

    Or, she has got some heavy emotional damage<\/a> that stops her from pursuing her heart’s desires.<\/p>\n

    Or, she’s an insecure woman<\/a> who has deep self confidence issues.<\/p>\n

    Or, isn\u2019t interested for whatever reason.<\/p>\n

    In this case, if you hit on her it could backfire<\/em>.<\/p>\n

    And I DON’T want this to happen to you.<\/p>\n

    (Plus, it can also be a problem if you have to see her again. Like, if she’s a co-worker.)<\/p>\n

    READ ALSO: How To Tell If A Woman Is Attracted to You<\/a><\/strong><\/div><\/div>\n

    How To Make Your Next Move<\/strong><\/h3>\n

    Here’s what you need to do next:<\/p>\n

    Imagine she\u2019s a like wild animal you\u2019re trying to capture.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

    You can\u2019t walk up to her.<\/p>\n

    If you do this she\u2019ll startle and run off.<\/p>\n

    What you need to do is slowly creep up…<\/p>\n

    And THEN <\/em>strike!<\/p>\n

    The way to do this is with something called FRACTIONATION.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

    How To Use Fractionation To Increase Sexual Tension<\/strong><\/h2>\n

    You see, creating sexual tension can be surprisingly easy<\/em>.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

    People do it all the time without even knowing.<\/p>\n

    And here’s what’s interesting…<\/p>\n

    You can make a woman feel sexual tension on purpose… if you know what to do.<\/strong><\/p>\n

    It all breaks down into a few mechanical steps that are easy to replicate.<\/p>\n

    And these steps are what FRACTIONATION <\/strong>is all about.<\/p>\n

    Create Sexual Tension By Storytelling<\/strong><\/h3>\n

    Despite its rather “technical” name, Fractionation is surprisingly simple.<\/strong><\/p>\n

    It’s just a special way of telling stories<\/em>. And it can be as easy as describing a movie you watched.<\/p>\n

    Despite its simplicity, the effects can be incredible<\/strong>:<\/p>\n