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“Is She Using Me, Or Does She Like Me?”<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Have you ever felt \u201cused\u201d by a woman?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Or worse… are you dating a woman who\u2019s just “using” you RIGHT NOW?<\/p>\n

A good percentage of Shogun Method clients come to me BECAUSE<\/span><\/strong> of this particular problem.<\/p>\n

For some reason, they find themselves dating a woman who seems to be \u201cusing\u201d<\/em> them.<\/p>\n\n

Using them for what? Many reasons! The five most common reasons a woman would use you for are below…<\/p>\n

Why She Uses You – Five Reasons<\/strong><\/h2>\n
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  1. She\u2019s a gold digger, and she wants your money<\/em><\/li>\n
  2. She has approval addiction, and she wants the ego boost from the attention you give her<\/em><\/li>\n
  3. She just went through a breakup, and she wants a temporary replacement… and you\u2019re it<\/em><\/li>\n
  4. She has self-esteem issues, and she wants the emotional support you give her<\/em><\/li>\n
  5. She wants to make her ex jealous, and she does it by pretending to date you<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    And whatever it is she wants from you, she\u2019ll do nasty, sneaky things to get it:<\/p>\n

    How She Uses You – Ten Ways<\/strong><\/h2>\n
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    1. She\u2019ll keep secrets from you<\/li>\n
    2. She\u2019ll play mind games on you<\/li>\n
    3. She\u2019ll make you feel guilty or ashamed<\/li>\n
    4. She tries to control every part of your life<\/a><\/li>\n
    5. She\u2019ll threaten to leave you<\/li>\n
    6. She\u2019ll ruin your reputation<\/li>\n
    7. She\u2019ll make you feel like the bad guy if you don\u2019t give her what she wants<\/li>\n
    8. She\u2019ll lie, cheat, and steal… and act like a sociopath<\/a><\/li>\n
    9. She acts batshit crazy<\/a> to get your attention<\/li>\n
    10. She acts like an asshole<\/a> until she gets what she wants from you<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      But here\u2019s the worst part…<\/p>\n

      You\u2019re never sure if she\u2019s just using you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

      On one side, you love her, and you think it\u2019s normal for couples to \u201cuse\u201d each other sometimes…<\/p>\n

      …but at the same time, you have the nagging feeling she\u2019s getting too needy and entitled.<\/p>\n

      What should you do?<\/p>\n

      That\u2019s what this Shogun Method<\/strong><\/a> guide will show you the light.<\/p>\n

      You\u2019re about to learn if your woman really IS using you… and what to do if she is.<\/p>\n

      Dig in!<\/p>\n

      READ ALSO: How To Tell If A Woman Is Attracted to You<\/a><\/strong><\/div><\/div>\n

      Signs She Is Playing You (The “Is She Using Me” Quiz)<\/strong><\/h2>\n

      Quick recap: here are the five most common reasons your woman would use you would be the following:<\/strong><\/p>\n

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      1. To get your money<\/li>\n
      2. To get an ego boost from you<\/li>\n
      3. To get a temporary replacement<\/li>\n
      4. To get emotional support<\/li>\n
      5. To get back at her ex<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

        Here are the signs to watch out for…<\/p>\n

        Is She Using Me For Money?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

        She\u2019s using you to get your money if she does the following four things –<\/p>\n

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        1. She keeps asking about your financial status<\/li>\n
        2. She keeps asking for expensive gifts<\/li>\n
        3. She keeps asking you to pay her debts<\/li>\n
        4. She\u2019s obsessed with status (look at her Instagram or Facebook for clues)<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

          Is She Using Me For Attention?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

          She\u2019s using you to get an ego boost from you if –<\/p>\n

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          1. She basks in your attention and enjoys bossing you around<\/li>\n
          2. \u00a0She plays mind games and tries to dominate you<\/li>\n
          3. She\u2019s showing you off to her friends<\/li>\n
          4. She\u2019s extremely hot-and-cold with you<\/li>\n
          5. She gets angry if you stop paying attention to her<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

            Is She Using Me To Get Over Her Ex?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

            She\u2019s using you as a temporary replacement if –<\/p>\n

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            1. She keeps talking about her ex (or at least she misses him a lot)<\/li>\n
            2. Your relationship feels \u201cempty\u201d or platonic at times<\/li>\n
            3. You have the nagging feeling she just picked you out of the blue (she starts dating you almost immediately after breaking up with her ex)<\/em><\/li>\n
            4. She keeps liking her ex’s Facebook or Instagram pictures<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

              Is She Using Me For Emotional Support?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

              She\u2019s using you to get emotional support if –<\/p>\n

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              1. She always plays the victim<\/li>\n
              2. She\u2019s super-needy, all the time<\/li>\n
              3. Her happiness depends on your validation of her<\/li>\n
              4. She blames everything that goes wrong in her life on you<\/a><\/li>\n
              5. She complains that you’re not “there” when she needs you<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                Is She Using Me To Get Back At Her Ex?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

                She\u2019s using you to get back at her ex if –<\/p>\n

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                1. She never seems to get over her ex completely<\/li>\n
                2. She secretly (or worse, openly) stays in contact with him<\/li>\n
                3. Your relationship is highly sexual, but she doesn\u2019t want commitment<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                  Here’s the cold, hard truth…<\/strong><\/p>\n

                  If you see any of the above signs in your own relationship, then I have some bad news for you…<\/p>\n

                  You\u2019re probably in a purely functional <\/em>relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n

                  You might really love her, but she\u2019s really just using you.<\/p>\n

                  Well, guess what?<\/p>\n

                  Functional relationships never last.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                  Sorry, buddy. That sounds rather harsh, and yet it’s true.<\/p>\n

                  And here\u2019s what’s even worse:<\/p>\n

                  You can\u2019t fix the problem using the \u201cconventional\u201d solutions:<\/p>\n

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                  1. If you asked her to stop using you, she might end up leaving you.<\/li>\n
                  2. If you don\u2019t do anything, she\u2019ll STILL leave you. Once she gets enough of what she wants from you, or finds another guy with more of it… see ya.<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                    You’re stuck both ways, right?<\/p>\n

                    So, if your woman is using you, is it really a lose-lose situation?<\/p>\n

                    Not if you use the unconventional <\/em>technique you\u2019re about to learn from me next.<\/strong><\/p>\n

                    If you feel your woman is using you, but you still want to keep her, then here\u2019s what you MUST do…<\/p>\n

                    READ ALSO: How To Train Your Wife<\/a><\/strong><\/div><\/div>\n

                    How To Make Her Stop Using You<\/strong><\/h2>\n

                    Time for some tough love. \ud83d\ude42<\/strong><\/p>\n

                    Here\u2019s the root cause of why she\u2019s getting away with using you:<\/p>\n

                    You\u2019re weak.<\/strong><\/p>\n

                    You\u2019re a pushover. You\u2019re easily manipulated. You\u2019re someone she can control.<\/p>\n

                    And if you want to make her stay, then you\u2019ll need to make her stop seeing you as a guy she can control…<\/p>\n

                    …and start seeing you as a guy she truly, madly, deeply LOVES.<\/em><\/p>\n

                    You\u2019ll need to:<\/p>\n