{"id":3931,"date":"2017-10-05T11:01:18","date_gmt":"2017-10-05T03:01:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/derekrake.com\/blog\/?p=3931"},"modified":"2018-02-22T15:29:59","modified_gmt":"2018-02-22T07:29:59","slug":"how-to-stop-being-a-nice-guy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/derekrake.com\/blog\/how-to-stop-being-a-nice-guy\/","title":{"rendered":"How To Stop Being A Nice Guy"},"content":{"rendered":"<h2><strong>(Or, How To Stop Being A Nice Guy Without Being A Jerk)<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p><strong><em>Dear Derek,<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><em>I was hoping you may be able to help me.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>I have been single for over two years. Even though I have done my best to approach many lovely women, I cannot seem to find a girlfriend. I have made many female friends in the process, which has been nice, but&#8230;<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Meet Jon. The classic \u201cMr. Nice Guy\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>That wasn\u2019t the end of Jon\u2019s email (he was only getting warmed up) but it was at this point that I could see the problem.<\/p>\n<p>Nice Guy Jon was getting friend-zoned every time he tried to approach a woman.<\/p>\n<p>In short, Nice Guy Jon was being too, well, <em>nice<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p>He was operating from the <em>honesty is the best policy<\/em> maxim.<\/p>\n<p>He was wearing his heart on his sleeve every time he approached a woman.<\/p>\n<p>It sounds great in theory. But, unfortunately, <strong>that\u2019s <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">not<\/span> how women\u2019s minds work<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>I know what you\u2019re thinking: This is bad news for Nice Guy Jon. And yet guess what&#8230; it doesn\u2019t have to be!<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/derekrake.com\/blog\/make-girl-fall-in-love\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">There&#8217;s a <em>superior <\/em>way to make a woman love you<\/a>, and guess what? Not only does it work without fail, it takes a <em>fraction <\/em>of the time.<\/p>\n<p>And it\u2019s so mindbogglingly simple that it almost feels like <em>cheating<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p>Dig in!<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/Xt-_G1QRCEA\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n\n<h2>Jon&#8217;s Story: The Legendary Mr. Nice Guy From San Diego<\/h2>\n<p><strong>We&#8217;ll get into the <em>&#8220;how to stop being a nice guy&#8221;<\/em> bit in just a moment, but for now, let&#8217;s talk a little bit more about Jon.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Let\u2019s skip a little further into Jon\u2019s email where, as you\u2019ll see, the plot thickens.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><em>Last weekend I did a Google search on how to stop being friend-zoned. I happened upon an article about men who call themselves \u201cPickup Artists.\u201d Have you heard of these techniques? To be honest, they sounded a bit childish, but the article assured me that they would work.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>So last night I gathered my courage (which I found towards the bottom of a bottle of bourbon) and put some of these techniques to work. What a disaster!<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>If you\u2019re anything like me, you&#8217;re cringing right now. Nice Guy Jon is about to try Pickup Artist techniques? This can <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">NOT<\/span> end well.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><em>The article I read said that women are attracted to men who are pushy. Since I&#8217;m basically the opposite of pushy, this was pretty hard for me! But I figured it was worth a try.<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Yep, it was just as I\u2019d feared. Nice Guy Jon was going to try to play the part of a bad guy.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Hold on to your hats, people. This is going to get a lot worse.<\/strong><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><em>The article said that women like it when men are aggressive. It said, \u201cDon\u2019t ask for permission. Be pushy. Force her to rebuff your advances.\u201d\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Now that\u2019s not exactly the way I was raised \u2013 I was taught to respect women! But if there was even a chance it could work, it was worth a try.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>A couple of nice-looking women were sitting on a sofa towards the back of a club. I took a deep breath, went over to them and said, \u201cMake some room.\u201d They looked at each other and laughed, which didn\u2019t help with my confidence! But one of them shuffled over, so I squeezed between them.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>I remembered the article suggested \u201cdeciding\u201d to \u201csit in a position where you can rub her leg and back.\u201d The same article said to \u201cphysically pick her up and sit her on your lap.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>In for a penny, in for a pound, I thought, so I did both. I put my arm around the one on my right and tried to drag her onto my lap, while putting my hand on the other one\u2019s knee.<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><strong>If you&#8217;re anything like me, you\u2019re in a full-body cringe right about now.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><em>What happened next?<\/em><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><em>I won\u2019t go into the details (partly because I still don\u2019t remember everything that happened). But somehow, I was slapped in the face, kneed in the groin, and dragged out by security within a very short space of time.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>I ended up literally lying in the gutter, with a stinging red cheek from being slapped, and indescribable pain down below. Unless you\u2019ve been kneed in the balls (and I truly hope you haven\u2019t) you cannot even begin to imagine how it felt.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>So here\u2019s what I don\u2019t understand. I tried being a nice guy, and that didn\u2019t work. Women said they \u201cdidn\u2019t see me that way\u201d or \u201cjust wanted to be friends.\u201d Then I tried being a Pickup Artist, and that landed me in the gutter. Literally.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>What am I supposed to do? I just don\u2019t understand women.<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<div class=\"su-note\"  style=\"border-color:#cb3b34;border-radius:3px;-moz-border-radius:3px;-webkit-border-radius:3px;\"><div class=\"su-note-inner su-u-clearfix su-u-trim\" style=\"background-color:#e5554e;border-color:#ffffff;color:#fff;border-radius:3px;-moz-border-radius:3px;-webkit-border-radius:3px;\"><strong>READ ALSO: <a href=\"https:\/\/derekrake.com\/blog\/how-to-seduce-a-married-woman\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">How To Seduce A Married Woman<\/a><\/strong><\/div><\/div>\n<h2>Why Nice Guy Jon Still Can&#8217;t Get A Date<\/h2>\n<p><strong>Poor Jon.<\/strong> He went from one extreme to the other \u2013 nice guy to gutter ball \u2013 and still couldn\u2019t land a date.<\/p>\n<p>He tried being a nice guy and that ended up with him being friend-zoned faster than you can say&#8230;<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><em>\u201cSorry, I already have a boyfriend.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p>He tried to <em>treat \u2018em mean to keep \u2018em keen<\/em>, and we all know how that ended!<\/p>\n<p>This may sound familiar to you, too. I mean, I&#8217;ve experienced this many times personally that it&#8217;s not funny.<\/p>\n<p>Have you ever felt like you just don\u2019t know how you&#8217;re supposed to treat women to get them interested in you?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Should you be nice, or be a complete <a href=\"https:\/\/www.vice.com\/sv\/article\/avawb4\/i-acted-like-an-asshole-for-a-week\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">asshole<\/a> to them?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ve got the answer to this question (you&#8217;ll find out in a short moment), but for now, let&#8217;s ponder over this&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Is there help for Jon?<\/p>\n<p>Oh <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">yes<\/span>, and guess what? It\u2019s nowhere near as hard as Jon thinks it has to be.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t worry, I put poor Jon out of his misery (so to speak). I told him a little <em><strong>secret<\/strong> <\/em>\u2013 the same secret that I\u2019ll share with you shortly.<\/p>\n<p>And you know what? Jon couldn\u2019t believe that there was a solution that didn\u2019t involve him being a \u201cgood guy\u201d or an aggressive \u201cbad guy.\u201d<\/p>\n<h2>Being A Nice Guy Gets You Nowhere<\/h2>\n<p><strong>Before I tell you when I told Jon, let me answer a question that I have a feeling you might be asking.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Why do Pickup Artist tricks fail so badly?<\/p>\n<p>Why did Jon strike out so spectacularly when he tried to be pushy and aggressive with women?<\/p>\n<p>The answer is simple. Pickup Artist tricks are impotent for one reason:<\/p>\n<p><strong>They violate fundamental truths about the female mind.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ve talked about these fundamental truths inside Shogun Method in detail, but for now, just know this&#8230;<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #ff0000;\"><strong>Women are programmed by nature to be sexually <em>repelled <\/em>by nice guys.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p>And guess what?<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>They don&#8217;t respond well to pushy, bad boy types either.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Here&#8217;s what you need to know&#8230;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Women need to be <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">manipulated<\/span><\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Yes, MANIPULATED.<\/p>\n<p>Here&#8217;s what women respond to:<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>Emotional control. <a href=\"https:\/\/derekrake.com\/blog\/how-to-be-dominant-in-a-relationship\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Dominance<\/a>. Authority.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>(Not some pushy sleazebag pawing all over them.)<\/p>\n<p>This is exactly what I told Jon, and what I\u2019m going to explain to you next. So, keep reading!<\/p>\n<div class=\"su-note\"  style=\"border-color:#cb3b34;border-radius:3px;-moz-border-radius:3px;-webkit-border-radius:3px;\"><div class=\"su-note-inner su-u-clearfix su-u-trim\" style=\"background-color:#e5554e;border-color:#ffffff;color:#fff;border-radius:3px;-moz-border-radius:3px;-webkit-border-radius:3px;\"><strong>READ ALSO: <a href=\"https:\/\/derekrake.com\/blog\/dating-younger-women\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Dating Younger Women &#8211; How To Attract A Younger Woman<\/a><\/strong><\/div><\/div>\n<h2><strong>How To Stop Being A Nice Guy (In 3 Simple Steps)<\/strong><\/h2>\n<h3><strong>Step 1. Hide Your Intentions<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>The problem with being a nice guy is that you\u2019re putting all your intentions up for the world to see.<\/p>\n<p>When a man comes up to a woman and starts being nice to her, <em>of course<\/em> she knows what he\u2019s up to.<\/p>\n<p>Makes sense, right?<\/p>\n<p>Let\u2019s divert to the relationship &#8220;experts&#8221;: Joey and Ross from the 90s TV show <em>Friends<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><strong>Ross:<\/strong> <em>Hey, Joey. Are men ever nice to strange women for no reason?<\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><strong>Joey:<\/strong> <em>No, only for sex.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Men know this. And heck, you&#8217;d better believe women know it too.<\/p>\n<p>Understand this &#8211;<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #ff0000;\"><strong>Women are biologically wired to reject DIRECT proposals.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p>A man pulling the nice guy routine <strong><em>is <\/em><\/strong>a direct proposal. Think about it.<\/p>\n<p>The bottom line?<\/p>\n<p>A woman will reject the nice guy routine without fail.<\/p>\n<p><strong>And she does this even before she even knows what she\u2019s doing<\/strong>. Remember &#8211; it&#8217;s hard-wired inside her psychology, and this rejection is automatic to her.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>Step 2. Destroy Her Boyfriend (If She Has Got One)<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><strong>As a famous Disney movie once said, a boyfriend is little more than a \u201ctemporary arrangement.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Do you know that it&#8217;s possible to <a href=\"https:\/\/derekrake.com\/blog\/how-to-get-ex-girlfriend-back-another-guy\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&#8220;erase&#8221; a woman&#8217;s feelings for another man<\/a>? <em>And you don\u2019t even need to meet the guy!<\/em><\/p>\n<p>You can do this with Boyfriend Destroyer sequences, or subtle one-liners known as <strong>Implanted Commands<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>(Shogun Method includes a complete list of 44 ready-to-use Implanted Commands.)<\/p>\n<p>Implanted Commands reach a woman <em>subconsciously<\/em>, mimicking the way she talks to herself.<\/p>\n<p>Results?<\/p>\n<p><strong>She\u2019ll believe everything you say because it will be<em> as if<\/em> she is saying it to herself!<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Sneaky, right?<\/p>\n<p>Implant the <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">right<\/span> commands \u2013 <em>ones that show you to be superior to her boyfriend in every way<\/em> \u2013 and you\u2019ll have her eating out of the palm of your hand.<\/p>\n<p>And the boyfriend? Forgotten.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>Step 3. Enslave, Not &#8220;Seduce&#8221; Her<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-3935\" src=\"https:\/\/derekrake.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/enslave-mind-emotions-soul.jpg\" alt=\"signs of being a nice guy\" width=\"1280\" height=\"640\" srcset=\"https:\/\/derekrake.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/enslave-mind-emotions-soul.jpg 1280w, https:\/\/derekrake.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/enslave-mind-emotions-soul-300x150.jpg 300w, https:\/\/derekrake.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/enslave-mind-emotions-soul-768x384.jpg 768w, https:\/\/derekrake.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/enslave-mind-emotions-soul-1024x512.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1280px) 100vw, 1280px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>So many Dating Gurus out there claim to teach you <a href=\"https:\/\/derekrake.com\/blog\/how-to-seduce-women\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">how to \u201cseduce\u201d a woman<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Seduction&#8221; seems to be the name of the game.<\/p>\n<p>There\u2019s no wonder these cookie cutter Dating Guru tricks fail so spectacularly&#8230; <em>they&#8217;re fundamentally flawed from the outset<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p>You&#8217;re a Shogun Method disciple, and you know better:<\/p>\n<p><strong>The aim should never be to<em> &#8220;seduce&#8221; <\/em>a woman.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Seduction&#8221; may last for a night, sure. If short-term, one night stands are what you&#8217;re looking for, then fine&#8230;<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>Enslavement, on the other hand, will ensure that the connection you have built up will last for eternity.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Yes, you read that right. Build up the connection using Mind Control and the connection you\u2019ve built will last a <strong><em>lifetime<\/em><\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Sounds great, right?<\/p>\n<p>It gets better&#8230;<\/p>\n<p><strong>You can enslave a woman emotionally using a simple <a href=\"https:\/\/derekrake.com\/blog\/mind-control-techniques\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Mind Control technique<\/a>&#8230;<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>A Mind Control technique known as <strong>Fractionation.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>We&#8217;ll talk more about Fractionation in awhile, but you first need to be aware of this &#8211;<\/p>\n<p>There&#8217;s one <em>downside <\/em>to Enslavement which I need to warn you about.<\/p>\n<p>Once you get a woman Enslaved to you emotionally, the connection is almost <em>impossible <\/em>to break&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>This means that you&#8217;ll need to be careful who you do it on.<\/p>\n<p>Once you enslave a woman, you won\u2019t be able to turn that connection off.<\/p>\n<p>You can learn about Fractionation by <a href=\"https:\/\/derekrake.com\/blog\/masterclass\/\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">signing up for our <strong>Online Masterclass<\/strong> here<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>And when you&#8217;re done with the Masterclass, come back to find out what happened to Jon&#8230;<\/p>\n<div class=\"su-note\"  style=\"border-color:#cb3b34;border-radius:3px;-moz-border-radius:3px;-webkit-border-radius:3px;\"><div class=\"su-note-inner su-u-clearfix su-u-trim\" style=\"background-color:#e5554e;border-color:#ffffff;color:#fff;border-radius:3px;-moz-border-radius:3px;-webkit-border-radius:3px;\"><strong>READ ALSO: <a href=\"https:\/\/derekrake.com\/blog\/how-to-escape-the-friend-zone\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">How To Escape The Friend Zone<\/a><\/strong><\/div><\/div>\n<h2>No More Mr. Nice Guy<\/h2>\n<p><strong>After learning why Pickup Artist techniques don&#8217;t work, Jon gave up on the pushy, macho style of \u201cseducing\u201d women.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>And like everyone else, he needed a &#8220;Quick Start&#8221; technique that will put him on the right track.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Fractionation was that &#8220;Quick Start&#8221; tactic that I taught him.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Jon\u2019s a quick learner, and he mastered Fractionation in no time. Fractionation is as simple as telling <em>stories <\/em>in a particular way to bring a woman in and out of a trance.<\/p>\n<p>With Fractionation, the results are <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><strong>immediate<\/strong><\/span>. <em>(Done well, Fractionation may even cause a woman to become addicted to you after a single sentence!)<\/em><\/p>\n<p>And that\u2019s exactly what happened with Jon. He role-played some Fractionation scripts with me, then brought them out into the real world.<\/p>\n<p>He told me the results were <em><strong>shocking<\/strong> <\/em>(in a good way!)<\/p>\n<p>While Jon had been prepared to try his Fractionation techniques on <em>multiple<\/em> women, he didn\u2019t need to.<\/p>\n<p>The first woman he approached responded beautifully to his prepared Fractionation script, and the seed was sewn.<\/p>\n<p>I won\u2019t go into the details, but let\u2019s just say that Jon no longer spends Saturday nights cruising the bar scene. He\u2019s got much more <em>interesting<\/em> plans with a woman who is completely addicted to him.<\/p>\n<p>Amazing, right?<\/p>\n<h2>Are You Ready For Your Own Transformation?<\/h2>\n<p><strong>Is there a part of you that identifies with Jon?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Have you struck out with women after trying the \u201cnice guy\u201d routine?<\/p>\n<p>Have you ever been tempted to attempt Pickup Artist techniques, knowing you\u2019re likely going to strike out even harder?<\/p>\n<p>If so, I\u2019d like to offer you the same advice that I gave Jon.<\/p>\n<p>For Jon, <strong>Fractionation was the solution he was looking for<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>With it, he left behind two years of singledom and continued failure with women.<\/p>\n<p>And now? He&#8217;s in a <strong>sexually fulfilling relationship<\/strong> with a woman who is <strong>emotionally enslaved to him<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Guess what? You are just <em>one step away<\/em> from tremendous success yourself. <strong>I know this for sure, believe me.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>After all, if &#8220;Nice Guy Jon&#8221; could do it, so can you.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Take this next step: request an invite for my Online Masterclass by clicking on this link:<\/strong><\/p>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline; color: #0000ff;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/derekrake.com\/blog\/masterclass\/\">Request Invite For The Online Masterclass On Mind Control<\/a><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Follow the instructions on that page and you&#8217;ll be all set.<\/p>\n<p>See you at the Masterclass!<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-165\" src=\"https:\/\/derekrake.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/03\/derek-rake-sig-60.png\" alt=\"Derek Rake\" width=\"167\" height=\"60\" \/><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>(Or, How To Stop Being A Nice Guy Without Being A Jerk) Dear Derek, I was hoping you may be able to help me.\u00a0 I have been single for over two years. 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