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Want To Be Good With Women? Stop Being a Wimp!

The most important thing you will learn in dating women is how to quit acting like a wimp. The idea is to never let your inner demons get in the way, and just going for what you want. You can apply this idea in your daily life, starting with the most obvious. 

Action Step #1: “Accept” yourself.

Let’s say you have a busted ego, and you’ve been through a lot of downtimes. The best way of dealing with the feeling of self pity is to just quit acting like a pussy and begin forgiving yourself for acting so foolish in the past.

Learning to accept yourself even after all the blunders and making sure that you learn from your experiences is the highest form of self love. 

The worst type of self pitying behavior is thinking you are too old, too skinny, too fat, too ugly or too dumb to really attract girls, even those who are way younger than you are. You need to quit acting like a pussy and begin going for the women you’re really attracted to. 

Action Step #2: Bust approach phobia.

Just go for it. The more you hesitate, the more your wimpy nature will resurface to nibble at your confidence.

If taking things further is the issue, you just need to quit acting like a pussy and begin making your move. There’s nothing more frustrating than a man who can’t lead, and women will tell you honestly that if you won’t take the lead, they’ll walk. They signed up for the date because they thought you’d be worth it. Think about that.  

Getting rejected does not excuse you for acting like a wimp.

Most of us do take rejection badly and we all need some time to lick our wounds, but for how long? The sooner you bounce back from getting rejected the better you’ll feel about yourself.

Spend an hour or a minute rubbing your ego and dealing with the frustration, then bounce back. Rejection is the psychological equivalent of getting a scratch.

You don’t cry buckets over it. You clean it up, put band aid and you’re back in the game. 

Many of these self-esteem problems get blown out of proportion because we let them take over our thoughts.

Sometimes, your thoughts and how long you let the problem stay inside your head is aggravating the whole situation.

For instance, a man suffering from a break up can be excused for being heartbroken and keeping to himself for a while, but what is he really doing with his time? Is he letting the problem consume him or is he really dealing with it?

The challenge is to act up and stay afloat regardless of the fear, the guilt and the pressure that every problem brings. 

Let me repeat that again: the problem must stay in your head for a short duration and never longer.

The more you think you have approach problems with women, the more you will lull yourself into believing that you will never be able to.

If you keep your anxiety inside your head, you’ll keep thinking “I’m scared” whenever you try to approach.

Second guessing yourself is the worst thing that can happen when you’re out there with women waiting for you to lead the way to wherever you want to take them.

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