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How To Captivate Women Using Nothing But Words
Imagine a man in a social circle, speaking to a group of man and woman. He charms and dazzles the crowd, and seemingly has an infinitely large list of topics to talk about. He leads the discussions and chats effortlessly.
He is simply enchanting, and could seemingly go on for hours. He is in the proverbial “flow”, and you could see that his audience is captivated by him, hanging on every word that comes out from his mouth. The group nods almost in unison and cracks out in laughter once in a while.
Simply put, the ability to captivate an audience through words is the most potent weapon a seductionist can have in his arsenal. Perhaps surprisingly enough, we Zen Seductionists know that this skill *can* be acquired with a simple plan. (For those who owns a copy of How To Seduce Out Of Your League , turn to pages 22 to 38 for a quick revision).
The Method of Rooted Conversations
The way to master the art of making good conversation is to cultivate ability to take the material you’re 
given and create conversation “threads” out of it. The basis of this idea is to ‘root’ your conversation as much as possible in the current scenario. For the technically inclined, this is similar with the concept of ‘Rooted Openers ‘ preached by ‘indirect method’ pickup gurus.
If you start talking to a woman and she responds: “Huh?” or “Why do you ask this?” or “Is this some kind of a survey?” then you know that your topic is not sufficiently ‘rooted’ into the situation.
The easiest way to root a conversation is to take the response from the woman, and break it down into components. For example -
“I went to Hong Kong for the year end shopping spree - but the weather was too hot that on the sixth day, we just chilled in the hotel room drinking ice lemon tea”
The components are - (1) Hong Kong , (2) shopping , (3) hot weather , (4) hotel , (5) ice lemon tea .
So some of your responses could be -
(1) “You went to Hong Kong ? I was there for Christmas last year - and did the countdown at downtown Lan Kwai Fong. Totally loved it.”
(2) “Yeah? I like going on bargain hunting as well. People say that shopping is mainly a woman’s pursuit, but I beg to differ. What did you get yourself?”
(3) “Wow, I like getting out there in the hot sun . But just like you, not for long though. Once I had a seven hour tan off the beach in Florida and I looked so toasted that even my best friend couldn’t recognize me.”
(4) “Which hotel did you go to? I was at the Oriental in Bangkok last month on a short trip, which was reputed to be the best hotel in the world. The service was spectacular - they remembered me from my last trip there some three years back. Absolutely fabulous!”
(5) “Ice lemon tea ? I used to be an avid coffee drinker, until my best buddy bought me some Kashmiri Chai from India. Absolutely blew my mind away. Have you tried some of those?”
Do you now see how powerful this method of rooting conversation is? You won’t ever run out of topics to talk about again. Combining this with the Instant Bond Factor technique in How To Seduce Out Of Your League (page 34) you’ll be an unstoppable master of captivating conversations.
One final tip. Use this method when the conversation is getting boring and going nowhere. Pick one specific element from the thing that she said, and then create a topic and start riffing off the topic. It doesn’t matter if the ‘riffs’ are not related to each other.
In fact this could work in your advantage as it creates multiple topics to talk about without the conversation going stale. This itself is a seduction technique called ‘multithreading’ - I will blog more about this specifically in another post.
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Useful stuff, DR, thanks. Any advice on how to ‘isolate’ a girl from a group?
Seth
Get lots of wingmen to neutralize all cockblocks and mother hens.
Social proof, baby
thanks.. that was really useful..
Derek is the Mannnnnn…!!!
Mr Derek keep it up …that was useful
made a move out of my league, 2nd date scored, awesome, day after she was upset, i am not that kind of a woman, 9she was great, and she said i was great???) ,she said i was moving to fast??? 3rd date she made me dinner, relaxed did not make any strong moves, just snuggled and talked watched tv, 4th date she canceled ???? told me she is not ready , i am just moving to fast, now will not answer my calls, or e mails…. what happened????
She completely ignores me,and if she ever gets into a conversation it dies in a matter of seconds.what’s wrong?
DEREK YOU R THE MAN.
that was really really great
thanks for those words and techniques. i just wanna say now i can go out with everywoman i can
wow!really grateful!useful is the better word to describe it.but i have 1 disturbing factor,how can you build on your courage and focus on how to get a beautiful girl whom you have seen and you cant be objective??.i mean she totally amazes me with her beauty to the extent i forget how i had planned seduce to tell her!!!
great advice i will try it out as i suck in conversation skills
Cool man, gr8 advice I’ll try it out dude.Thnx it was very useful
Derek,you make gals look so simple to have,i dnt know bt your techniques are the best i have read so far.derek how can i start a conversation with a gal 4 the first time and invite her to my place in a romantic fasion?
send me some tips of how to seduce women and attract women
thanks
a.k albert
Yo Derek…thanks a lot for the techniques:). Can you tell me how to get a woman to go with you to sophomore’s night if she keeps saying that she will go only if one of her friends are there.
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girl: uhmm okay as long as Nevin goes
How do I stop these comments and get her to go with me without any company?
Practicable ideas. Good job.
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your work has just chang dating life, tell me how can i invite to my crib without any sexual undertone
Ur articles on seduction are the ultimate. In fact they have caused me a breakthrough that my friends think I’m a wizard. Pls saw a girl while I was in a tight place can I get her phone no through a friend
damn i couldve sure used this today.. had a party with 6 colombian girls nd my 3 boys.. non of em had convo skills.. one was so drunk my boy fucked her..
Derek, u r too much. U have increase my knowledge and wisdom in the act of rolling with women.
I believe in you, keep it up
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I’ve read several posts & hardly see that the information that is give is much more than elementary. As for this post that is the way a coversation is built normally whether w/ a girl or anyone else. Unless you are an inept backwards persons this post is of no use. The key w/ girls is confidence in one’s self & that’s the bottom line.